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So Bees this saturday came and went and it was beautiful, magical, the best day i can imagine (spare some family drama that luckily was handled before it even got around to me)…but before hand, i dieted, i worked out…and that day i was so nervous i thought i would throw up before the first camera snap….because i still didnt feel like i had lost enough weight….
but when i put my dress on…it didnt matter that my arms were still too flabby, and i didnt loose that last 10 lbs to hit my goal….
something magical happened….after i got dressed I went to show Mr. Sooner and do the first look….as i was walking down the aisle to him as he stared at the alter until i tapped his shoulder….all i could think was “what am i worried about this is Mr.Sooner, this man has seen every inch of me and he is right there waiting for me…and still wants to marry me….he dosent care why should i”….and as i touched his shoulder….he turned around and cried…big happy tears and he couldnt stop kissing me and telling me how beautiful i was….and then I felt it too…surely a little arm fat cant be that big of a deal for a wonderful man like Mr. Sooner to be soo happy at my apperance….so the day went and we took a bazillion pictures (my face still is sore from smiling soo much)….and our photographer showed us a few sneak peaks on the camera….and i loved them….
but today…i got some more sneak peaks (i dont want to post them on here as they have all the trademark stamps on them and Mr. Sooner hasnt seen them yet as he is taking his best man to the airport now)….and while I could see my flaws and my flabby arms, and chubby cheeks….all i can think is how happy i look, and how much in love we are….and honestly….even though i am not the “ideal” size i had for myself….i ADORE the pictures i have seen (**Minus one-but that is purely because i am making a very ackward *dont cry, dont cry, holy shit thats really sweet, this is happening, DONT CRY* face)….all my flaws dont matter…all i see is a happy couple very much in love…
so moral of the store….you dont have to be size 2 to be a beautiful bride….so dont stress as much 🙂
peace and love
Post # 2
Soonerbee07: What an amazing, beautiful post! I gather that is EXACTLY how you are supposed to feel! Congratulations! I have no doubt that you were absolutely stunning. 🙂
Post # 3
Good for you! Congratulations 🙂
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Soonerbee07: thank you for this! I have recurring anxiety that my neck fat and arm flab ruin the day lol
would love to see pictures!
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thank you for posting this. i worry about it EVERYDAY, and it’s so reassuring to hear you from “the other side” lol.
can’t wait to see the photos!
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thank you everyone….I just decided the hell with it….if it was that big of a deal we wouldnt be at that alter!
Post # 7
This was such a great post! Thanks so much for sharing. My FI and I are both working to shed some weight before our May 2016 wedding. We want to look and feel our best on our Big Day but love each other just are we are right now. This post helped me to remember just that. 🙂
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Soonerbee07: wow thank you for this post! I just said yes to the dress last week and all I kept starring at was my flabby arms! Thank you soo much for that uplifting post! It helps so much! And I bet you were beautiful at your wedding 🙂
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- Wedding: October 2015 - Drury Lane
Soonerbee07: As a plus size bride with very flabby arms and waayyyyy too much dress anxiety thanks to it, thanks so much for sharing this.
Post # 10
Soonerbee07: Ditto! I was working so hard at dieting and exercising before the wedding that, when I fell off of the wagon due to the stress three weeks before, I absolutely panicked and was a mess. I was so scared I wouldn’t get into my dress and that the whole thing would be ruined and that I’d look disgusting and that people’s eyes would melt out of their heads, etc etc etc…
… and then when the time came, and I fit into my dress (with a bit of help from my bridesmaids), and I got to walk down to greet my husband-to-be, I completely forgot about it. The day was beautiful and amazing, and even if I had lost a bunch of weight, I wouldn’t have felt any more special and loved. Even when we got our photos back and some of them prominently feature my double-chin, I look so happy that it all makes up for any insecurities I may have about myself and my size. 🙂
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MrsRevolutionize: I know how you feel….i was worried about looking horrible….and looking through all the pictures i have seen…all i can see is wow….I look so happy….we both look soo happy….theres a few i say ohh bad angle but wow i still look good….its given me alot more confidence post wedding….with the help of 1 very sweet husband…(that and i have time and energy now)….
Im glad this post is so helpful to you ladies….i was a train wreck in the days leading up to the wedding….and all it took was my husband being wowed beyond belief at me the day of he litterally couldnt stop telling me how beautiful I looked…I was so worried for nothing…
Post # 12
Soonerbee07: this is what its about. this is what i’m talking about!!!!! i love what you’ve said 🙂
i am a plus size lady and 6 months ago a bride…and i was so happy about getting married i found a way to not stress to much about the way i looked. i worked out and watched what i ate leading up to the wedding, but i was me, i was comfortable, and my husband has never looked at me the way he did that day. it was the best feeling!!!
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blankenshiptobe: Agreed! my husband still is talking about how beautiful i looked….and even though looking through pictures im sure i can find 1,000 of my flaws in everyone of them….back fat, fat arms, double chin, too big of boobs, under arm fat in a few (after a few wiggles of the dress all was well there….) but its the look on my husbands face in those pictures looking at me….and my memories of him from that day….his face of pure joy and happiness during our first look…made me cry….this man has loved every inch of me for damn near 8 years….through multiple sizes both bigger and smaller then my current and has never stopped loving me or telling me that i am beautiful….i lost site of that for a long time thinking i had to look like the brides in the magazine….but DH brings me back to earth everytime….and then i remind myself….im not a 6′ tall model…im me….and my goal should be healthy and comfortable in my body and happy for me….not anyone elses standards….esp those of the bridal industry…i thought i would die the day my size 26 wedding dress came in…but i got over it…and am happy i did…..im glad you had a positive experience as well….
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Soonerbee07: what a beautiful, inspiring post…its true that so many of us brides can get so hung up on appearances that we sometimes forget what it’s really all about. I’m so happy you had such a wonderful day, congratulations x
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Soonerbee07: Thanks for posting this! I am a little bit overweight, and I felt like it was so rude of people who kept telling me to lose weight. Even the sales consultant said to me, “Well you should order a lower size because you’re going to lose some weight, right?”. How RUDE!
A family member also told me she was “concerned” and that I should start dieting for the wedding (Sorry – but I get a check up every year, I am totally healthy, etc… and I am NOT even that overweight!). I did end up losing 20 pounds (did a weight loss challenge w/my cousin) so that was nice – but still. My husband has NEVER said anything about losing weight – he loves me just the way I am! 🙂