Post # 1
so now that i have THE dress now i need to find THE veil…. and what a hassl this is becoming. I love the look of a birdcage veil but when i went to a boutique to try one the 1 (yeah thats right one) birdcage veil they had there the supermodel lookalike just looked at me and said “wow that makes your face look really fat” and then trying to shrug it off i tried on a elbow length and that apparently warrented a “that makes your arms look really big” …… *insert embarassed quick exit here*
so now im…. i guess dejected would be the best word for it. i feel like im going to be stuck with something i dont really want because it makes me feel less self concious.
does anyone have maybe some pictures of what you ended up wearing for a veil so i can get some ideas on what might look good and hopefully rebuild some of my confidence that i can find something i love that looks great too
Post # 3
@aprose: How tactless of that salesperson!
I wore a cathedral veil, and I loved it.
Post # 4
@aprose: And this person WORKS there? Ugh. So sorry you experienced such a rude sales associate. It’s one thing to give an honest opinion such as, “Well, although it’s a beautiful veil, I think a _____________ style would be more flattering on you,” vs. those types of clearly insensitive remarks.
Depending on a person’s dress style, I almost always am in favor of a beautiful, raw-edged, cathedral-length veil. I am plus sized, and here are a couple of photos of mine:
Post # 5
Ugh – first of all, what a shrew, and don’t give a shred of attention to her opinion. (Even if she’s skinny and attractive, it sounds like she might have body-image issues and hangups along with her cruel streak and lack of tact. I don’t envy her being a supermodel lookalike.)
Looking for a veil is – or should be – really fun! You will know when you find what works for you. And, like dress shopping, you might be surprised. Case in point: I thought a blusher was going to look fantastic with my dress. When I got my veil, though, I actually preferred it with all the tiers to the back. For whatever reason, blushers don’t suit me but cascading lace down my back definitely did!
I would just find a different shop/salesperson. If anyone gives you flak going forward, just look them in the eye and ask, “Do you want to make a sale today? Because you’re not doing a very job of earning your commission.”
Post # 6
@littlemisst08: very pretty!
@Brielle: i love the look of cathedral veils but im in the process to have my dress be shortened to knee or tea length with the very least having it perma-bustled (got ddress before we had to change everything and i dont want to buy a new one!) so i think it would look a little strange to have a cathedral veil otherwise i was planning on a cathedral veil.
@KCKnd2: yeah i am going to go try DB in the next couple days. I couldnt believe that they would let someone with that type of attitude work there. if i ever get into a situation like that again i will use that i think i was just more stunned that someone would actually SAY something like that that i just couldnt come up with anything to respond with.
Post # 7
Of course. It’s always easier to come up with a response at home in front of the computer reading about someone else’s situation than when you’re in the midst of it, caught off guard and stunned by someone’s rudeness!
Don’t know about you, but if this had happened to me or a friend of mine, I would be so incensed that I would post reviews all over the internet with the story you just told. And I probably would have called the manager/owner on this person (assuming she herself wasn’t the manager/owner). You still could do so. That kind of treatment of customers is intolerable, and if I were running a business, I would absolutely want to know if one of my employees was being so insulting to clients.
Post # 8
Girl, you ignore that lady and buy whatever kind of veil you love and whatever makes you feel beautiful. And be confident in what you love. Veils aren’t about size.
Post # 9
@aprose: Sounds like that saleslady has a problem with plus size ladies. Sometimes I see people in unflattering wedding dresses, but I have never looked at someone’s veil and thought that the veil made them look fat.
Post # 10
I bet you looked beautiful in both. That salesperson has an ugly personality, which is much worse than being heavy!
Post # 11
I had an elbow/fingertip veil and it certainly did not make my arms look fatter!! What a beeyotch sales lady to even open her mouth like that!!
Post # 12
I too thought I wanted a birdcage veil as I never thought I wanted a veil. Well…once I tried on the birdcage I reaized it wasn’t for me. I did feel being a plus bride I needed to have some “volume” on my head to even out the bottom. I went looking and found super cute bubble veil. It gave me the look of a veil and volume I wanted without covering up my back.
It you are doing a shorter dress a bubble veil may be an option. There are a few posts on the bee about them with pics. They come in different lengths.
Here is mine for you to see.
I know it is hard but forget about all the negative comments. Be true to you and you will be happy. My mom wanted me to have a longer veil BUT on the day admitted I made the right choice. You will look beautiful no matter what you decide.
Post # 13
What a biatch of a sales assistant. Gee, some people really know how to ruin a special moment.
I am also having issues looking for a veil. I thought I really wanted a chapel length veil but because I am plus size I feel like they all hang down my back in a little strip which just accentuates how much bigger I am. Simiarly with elbow length veils I felt they cut me in half and made my top half feel much bigger than the bottom. I considered making my own (I’ve been told it’s not difficult) so that I could have a wider veil but at this stage I have decided to do away with the veil all together and go for an embelished headband instead.
Good luck with your search
Post # 14
I just wanted to write in and say that i think birdcage veils can be really really flattering on people with rounder faces! I have a round round moon face (think casper) and I make fascinators & model/wear them all the time. Im so sorry you had such a horrible experience but if you want too I say rock a birdcage!
Post # 15
First off, boo to the salesperson!
Second, birdcage veils are very flattering. If it looks good with the dress, why not? I was trying out veils yesterday and the cathedral look good with my dress. But it’s over budget (almost $500 for a veil). So I decided to go veil-less and wear a flower instead.
Hope everything is okay! 🙂
Post # 16
Are you kidding me??! It’s a freaking veil. How rude!! Buying my veil was the one part of my experience I felt I didn’t have to stress about. What a tw*twaffle. May the fleas of a thousand camels infest her nethers.
Find a veil that you love and go with it. Not there obviously, they can go pound sand.