Post # 1
So…I won’t be going dress shopping until November or December of this year since the wedding won’t be until September of next year, but I feel like part of me is putting it off in hopes that I will shed some…no…A LOT of weight…
Obviously I’m not expecting to lose an insane amount of weight like 100 pounds or anything, but I definitely want to lose more than what I am now…my biggest worry I suppose is that because I’m a plus size woman, I won’t be able to find a dress that looks good…even going to bridal stores now to “research”, all of their sample sizes are still smaller than what I can fit in, and most places only carry very little in plus size samples, MANY of which I have no interest in trying on…
I guess my biggest fear is that I won’t be able to find a dress that works or that I won’t feel beautiful in ANYTHING I try on…even finding a dress for my FH’S brother’s wedding last year was a challenge, and I was just a guest! I wasn’t even IN the wedding! I’m not sure how to feel about this, I just know that I want to feel BEAUTIFUL when I walk down the aisle toward my FH because I have wanted to marry him for so long now and I would hate to feel ugly on my wedding day…
Here is a picture of me at his brother’s wedding…I ended up finding a dress that I never, in a million years, thought would have looked good on me…but it did and here it is…
Post # 3
That is a seriously cute dress!!! I’m of similar size and we’re getting married next June so yes, I do hope to shed a bit (get back down to a size 18, which I would be totally happy with!).
I’m lucky as there is actually a plus size bridal salon in the next town but I know that plenty of ‘standard’ bridal salons have larger samples nowadays. Several designers also offer a sample-ordering service where certain salons can order larger samples of a certain style for a small fee.
Almost every bridal designer has a plus-sized line nowadays so there is plenty of choice, I wouldn’t worry too much. (from looking at pictures I’m fond of Bonny Bridal, Mori Lee and Benjamin Roberts, and a lot of plus sized girls have gorgeous Maggie Sottero gowns)
I haven’t tried on dresses yet but my first order of business is trying on different styles even if the dress in question is not to my liking just to see what suits me and then go from there.
Post # 4
@beezzzkneez: Thank you so much! Yes, I absolutely ADORED the dress I was able to find for his brother’s wedding! I actually ended up finding it the DAY BEFORE after deciding I didn’t like the original dress that I had…I’m so glad it worked out like that too because I plan on wearing it for Easter in two days! haha
I have heard of that sample ordering thing before, just not sure if I would want to spend the extra money, but you definitely have a good idea of trying on styles, even if it’s not the dress that you like…that might be one way to go for me, but luckily I’m still doing a good job on my diet, so hopefully I won’t have as much anxiety about this in 6 months as I do now…I’d love to see pictures when you find something though!!
P.S. I am ALSO a big fan of Mori Lee dresses! I will definitely have to check out Maggie Sottero dresses as well!
Post # 5
I bought a Pronovias, and I liked Demetrios as well. Sometimes a dress may not wow you when it’s on, but when you see the photographs you are amazed! Try on as many as you can and DO NOT bring a whole posse of people. I only bought one friend with me (my family lives far away and my mother is deceased) and I saw women who had 6-10 people with them and everyone had a different opinion! Some of them were confused – and ended up not buying a dress. ENJOY the process, don’t stress out. And don’t be afraid to try to buy a USED dress – if you’re on a budget, there’s a ton of them on line that are gorgeous and affordable.
Lastly, no matter what size you are when you walk down that aisle, I guarantee that you will be the most beautiful woman in the room on that special day – ALL brides look great on their wedding day!!!!!
Post # 6
I would start trying to find a dress now. I tried one dresses for almost one year before I bought one. Every place I went, If I was visiting family or friends in another town. I found it helpful to try as many different styles as I could to determine what looked best on me. I was completely surprised as I thought I wanted one style and ended up with something completely not what I would have tried on originally. I fell in love with mutliple dresses and took pics of them all. After looking at the photos some of those I loved on, were not flattering. I found the maggie sottero and sophia tolli lines the most flattering. The cheaper ones, looked nice, but not as supportive or flattering. Once you find your dress, any dress store can order it. I found mine in Victoria, BC and ordered in Toronto, ON. The store I ordered from didn’t even have the sample of the one I wanted. Fingers crossed the right one shows up..lol.
Post # 7
Thanks ladies! Yea, I’m debating on whether or not I should start trying them on now since I’m naturally such an indecisive person anyway! I’ve heard great things about plus size Maggie Sottero gowns so she might end up being my top pick for designers but I do still have a budget to consider…I think a lot of women have the right idea about trying it on in the store then finding a better deal online and that just might be the way to go…
Post # 8
@MissThespian: If there is an Alfred Angelo signature store near where you live, they also carry a number of plus sized gowns. It’s what I ended up choosing and I’m also plus sized.
Love the photo of you! 🙂
Post # 9
@MissThespian: You look so cute in that dress! I absolutely agree with PPs and think you should start trying them on now.
I changed my mind about a zillion times.
When you find the right one, you’ll know.
I was almost pushed into buying the first dress I liked (by Mori Lee-which is great for Plus Sizes!) because that dress was being discontinued. There’s something about having to go pay a thousand dollars or whatever for something you’re not in love with, that makes you rethink it.
Literally THE DAY before my dress was discontinued I went to this tiny bridal store that I didn’t even know existed down here in Tampa. I didn’t have high hopes when I went in and saw very few samples (and I knew they were not my size). The consultant was so sweet and and had a great idea… Someone had purchased a dress (and paid in full) months ago and never came to pick up her dress… and it happened to be my size. So she asked if I wanted to try it on (And of course I did!) and it was perfect. I knew I didn’t want the other dress after I saw that one. And I bought it that day.
A lot of people say if you’re indecisive to stop looking, because you may change your mind again. I haven’t actually gone and LOOKED for other dresses, but in the course of wedding planning I have seen other dresses and they don’t even come close to mine.
Here is mine: Justin Alexander 8483
(in my mother’s dining room trying it on for the first time)
Best of luck to you!!
Post # 10
First I just want to say, that dress is really cute and you look great in it and really happy! 🙂
Don’t focus on what you want to change in order to even start looking at dresses. Look and see styles you like and which ones suit you best. If you do lose some weight, you are likely going to be the same body shape so the same styles of dresses will probably still work. Me – I’ve got a smaller upper half and a big ol butt and wide hips. That’s just my shape. I could lose 20-30 lbs or even 50 lbs and still be the same shape. But let’s be realistic, I love chocolate and carbs too much for that, haha. 😉 Bottom line, your boyfriend/fiance and you are going to get married. And he loves you the way you are – so please please don’t be discouraged from doing research on dresses and trying a few on even if you aren’t planning on buying one for awhile. It’s a fun experience. I know some have bad experiences in bridal salons, but a lot of salons do cater to and/or include gorgeous plus size collections as samples.
I have called ahead the bridal salons and places I wanted to go to and try on dresses at. I booked an appointment where possible and asked specifically what sizes they carried for samples. As a plus size I was SUPER nervous to start trying on dresses but it really helped to go to a place that you know carries sample dresses that are around your size. But my suggestion is to stay positive and call around to salons and ask about the sizes they carry in store. Seriously, trying on dresses can be fun! Bring someone along who will give their honest opinion and that you feel really comfortable with. For the most part, the women know the styles that will suit you, so don’t feel uncomfortable asking the sales lady. 🙂
Post # 11
You WILL be beautiful! I had the same problem. I agree with an above poster, START NOW. call the bridal salons and ask if they have a large selection of plus size. I’m a heavier woman. I was MORTIFIED by going to the bridal salon because of that same issue. so I ordered a dress online from china (HORROR STORY!). So after many MANY months of disputing and getting my money back i sucked it up and went shopping. I went to about 6 different shops. half of those didnt have ANY i could try on. but I hit the jackpot at the last place. I would have NEVER found that place if i did not google map shops in my area. also, a tip, go for a “wrap” style dress. they do WONDERS for your curves! Congratulations and have a HAPPY dress hunting experience! btw, @ApandaManda: STUNNING!
Post # 12
@ApandaManda: you look amazing in that dress!!
@MissThespian: i have been in the same boat. i will probably start trying on in about 2 months (1 year out from my wedding) but it’s definitely stressful. i dont want to be anything less than 100% thrilled with my choice, and i dont want tofeel like i missed out on something great because of my size. i really appreaciate all the feedback folks had here! calling ahead and being prepared is a good way to know you’re going to see dresses that fit you at the shops!