Post # 1
I choose my dress 18 days after my engagement without having decided on venue, theme, colours etc.
Now all the other details have been decided upon i worried my dress is a bit typical for a plus size bride (i’m a size 18).
Let me give you an idea of what are wedding will be like…are colours are black, white and red, we have a polka dot theme (nothing to do with the 50’s), decorations are a mixture of flowers and balloons, and the entire wedding is taking place in a glamorous 4 star hotel.
So here’s the dress……..Please tell me your opinion
Now i loved this dress when i tried it on, but since about a week after, i started having doubts about it, i even went to try it on for a 2nd time, but i still have doubts. I have now seen another gown with i think is stunning but as i havn’t tried it on i am not sure it will look good on a girl my size
Here is the 2nd dress…….please tell me what you think
Post # 3
I love it. I tried on a ton of dresses very similar to it and I am not plus sized, and I like them on me, but my FH would not have (he doesnt like anything asymetrical – uuugghhh) Do you feel beautiful in it, will he think your beautiful in it? That is all that really counts.
Post # 4
I guess I’m confused. Are you worried about the dress matching with the vibe of your wedding or are you worried about it being “typically plus-sized” (which I’m not sure what that means anyway).
It seems to be well within what you’d wear for a wedding at a glamorous 4-star hotel. So there’s my answer for that.
Can you help me out with the second point though? Are you saying that there are certain cliches for plus-sized girls? Can you explain what those are and where you see them in the dress? Because to me, it looks like a wedding dress that anyone would like.
And besides, there are cliches for every type of body: pear-shapes generally wear full skirts; petite brides generally stay away from huge ballgowns; well-endowed brides like v-necks and stay away from empire. These cliches exist for you too because plus-sized women also have different distribution of their weight as well. What are you *really* worried about?
Post # 5
This is a problem i have with my FH i could wear a bin bag and he would tell im beautifull. Which is sweet…but useless. lol
I did feel pretty but never got that feeling of ‘That’s my dress’.
Post # 6
I think my problem is that it’s pretty much the same as every prom dress ive ever worn, a strapless a-line, and i cant seam to find anything with a more modern silhouette that would be flattering to a girl my size.
Post # 7
If you didn’t order it, try on some more.Why not? Hey, you only get to do this once in your life, i am all about finding “Your” dress. You may also find that it is your dress, you may grow into the “your” dress.
Post # 8
@GREGORR2: Ah. I sympathize. Well, first of all, I do think that you should give yourself a little more self-credit–you aren’t just plus-sized, you have a figure and a shape. Clothes need to fit that shape and probably the reason that you’ve bought the same thing over the years It has less to do with you being plus-sized and more to do with that silhouette complimenting your shape. I mean, I am plus-sized too, but with an hourglass figure so I look best in things like mermaid cuts, or 50s nipped-waist cuts; I would look terrible in an empire because it’s just doesn’t work with my shape (as opposed to my weight). And this would be true for me if I were size 2 or size 30–as it is for you. Having said that, people of any size are rarely locked into just one silhouette–there are usually 2-3 that look good, so I agree with tksjewelry–go for what you want and try it on. Sometimes it’s a disappointment (oh lordy, I’ve seen some doozies on me! God it’s depressing), but at least you’ll know that x style is not your friend.
Truth be told, I think that most wedding dress silhouettes are classic; what makes them “modern” are the details. The dress you pictured (it’s not up anymore, but from memory) is gorgeous, but you’re right–I wouldn’t call it exactly modern. But that has more to do with the beading and the ruffles than it has to do with it being strapless or a-line.
What would you like to wear? Try it on! And–I hope I’m not overreaching in this, but it’s something I have to do with myself mindfully all the time–if it doesn’t work, for Pete’s sake, don’t drag yourself down saying, “Oh, it didn’t work because I’m plus-sized;” say to yourself, “This one doesn’t do my sweet ass any favors.” Good luck!