Post # 1
My dress is white and my bridesmaid dresses are cranberry. I am likely not doing any cranberry in the bouquets (or very little), just because the flower shop has told me that the color will be hard to match. So instead I am going with pinks and whites for the bouquets.
We are not doing boutonnieres, only pocket squres. My question is – if my FI and the groomsmen all do cranberry pocket squares, in the photos where it is just me and FI, if he has a cranberry pocket square and my flowers don’t have any cranberry in them, will it look weird? I am considering doing a white pocket square for FI so he matches me, and cranberry pocket squares for the groomsmen so they match the bridesmaids. But I’m worried this will look weird/off as well! But FI and I do both like the theory of him matching me, not the bridesmaids (just not sure it will look good in practice). Note: the boys will all be in black tuxes with white shirts and black ties.
What do you all think? Any pics of the groom with a white pocket square and groosmen with colored?
Post # 3
White linen pocket squares are the standard for a Tuxedo. I would do that, or have the guys in no particular pocket square, and from with white. Whatever of the options you do, it will not look weird, so go with whatever you and your Fi like best.
Post # 4
I don’t like men in color for weddings (aside from standard grey, navy, black) – it looks too prom-like for me.
We’re doing black tuxedos, white shirts, black ties, white pocket squares. For everyone.
Post # 5
@Chani: I think the groom will look best in a white pocket square. Then again, I’m biased. We did almost exactly what you described. Black tuxes, black vests, white shirts, and a rose pocket square for the guys and black tux, ivory vest, white shirt, ivory pocket square for DH. It looks nice and the only hint of color was the pocket square so it wasn’t too prom-like or too hum-drum either.
Looking at this photo makes me giggle because clearly none of the men had any idea how to fold a pocket square. haha. Oh well. They’re pockets quares. If someone really cared enough to complain about it/point it out, I’d probably want to ask them to leave anyways. lol
Post # 6
A coloured pocket square should not be considered prom like, in the way that coloured vests, and ties, are. It is a classic place to add colour to a Black Tie rig, if one is going to do so. The guidelines are, generally, to choose a rich, deep colour (check), do it with only one accessory (check), and to place it somewhere that it is surrounded by black (check). A cranberry pocket square is a perfectly classic way to add a pop of colour, if one is going to do so.
Cranberry, I would probably do in silk satin, but I would definitely stay with linen for white. White silk can look a little gaudy, and also does not pick up the shirt as well, because of the large difference in texture and sheen. A pocket square should, generally, pick up a colour from elsewhere in an outfit, but not the tie. Since a Tuxedo us only black and white, your options are to pick up the shirt, if to add a third colour. I’m planning to get a royal blue silk square to wear with my Tuxedo, when I’m feeling like some colour.