Post # 1
My wedding ceremony is going to be short and sweet, like 15 minutes tops. We are getting married at a public park and having the reception at a different location. We are not allowed to bring chairs into the park. In the ceremony space there are several benches but not enough for everyone to have a seat. Because of the lack of seating I want to start right on time.
Is there a polite way to let people know that if they are running late they should just skip the ceremony and go on to the reception? I’m not trying to be snotty about it, I just don’t want them to come in right at the end and then have to turn around and leave for the reception. and I honestly won’t mind if they miss the ceremony. I’m thinking mostly about our friends rather than family in this situation.
I was thinking about putting a note on our wedding website, something like “If you can’t make it to the ceremony we understand. Please come and party with us at the reception.”
Post # 3
@Jbunny: What about something like “short ceremony will start promptly”
Post # 4
@creativeplannertobee: That is probably the easiest option 🙂 Can I put that directly on the invitation?
Post # 5
It might feel to your guests that you don’t want them at your ceremony if you say anything. I mean the point of going to a wedding for most guests is to see the couple get married.
I would add extra time to the timeline. Ask guests to arrive promptly for a 4pm start but not start until 4:10pm.
Post # 6
@j_jaye: yeah that was my concern.
I guess some people will be late no matter what and I just shouldn’t worry about it too much. I don’t want to start late because without chairs the people that show up early/ on time will have been standing around already.
Post # 7
@Jbunny: I think you could-and/or on the website?
Or maybe even: Due to limited seating wedding ceremony will start promptly at ___.
Post # 8
@creativeplannertobee: I like this suggestion; it just takes a couple of extra words. No need to justify it in any way, just, “ceremony starts promptly at X”.
But anyway, most people know to arrive at a wedding a little early… don’t they?
Post # 9
I’d expect to miss it if I was late. Period. In fact if you say that, I might even PURPOSELY skip it.
Post # 10
@Jbunny: I’m having my ceremony in a botannical garden and due to time limitations it will we several hours before the reception. They limit the number of people in the garden and it is standing only as well so what we’re doing is we are letting the main invite serve as an invitation to the reception and then sticking in the smaller cards usually used for reception info as information on our ceremony to just our family. We’re not even inviting friends to our ceremony, most of them could care less to stand around for 15 minutes and would rather just enjoy drinking and dancing. There are a few who have expressed interest in seeing us get married and they are more than welcome to come but they understand we have a short time span in the garden and would not be late. As for people arriving early, I was a bridesmaid at a wedding and a couple tried to walk into the church inbetween the other bridesmaid and me! The wedding coordinator had to stop them until the bride was given away, not everyone makes it a priority to be punctual.
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@chouette: Couldn’t help it, the people just trying to merge into the wedding processional like it was a traffic lane cracked me up. I wonder what some people are thinking.