polite way to say "you can skip the ceremony"

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: How should I spread the message?
    word of mouth : (9 votes)
    29 %
    wedding website : (12 votes)
    39 %
    say nothing : (10 votes)
    32 %
    other : (0 votes)
  • Post # 5
    Member
    7395 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    It might feel to your guests that you don’t want them at your ceremony if you say anything. I mean the point of going to a wedding for most guests is to see the couple get married.

    I would add extra time to the timeline. Ask guests to arrive promptly for a 4pm start but not start until 4:10pm.

    Post # 7
    Member
    7531 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    @Jbunny:  I think you could-and/or on the website?

    Or maybe even: Due to limited seating wedding ceremony will start promptly at ___.

    Post # 8
    Member
    7195 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @creativeplannertobee:  I like this suggestion; it just takes a couple of extra words. No need to justify it in any way, just, “ceremony starts promptly at X”.

    But anyway, most people know to arrive at a wedding a little early… don’t they?

    Post # 9
    Member
    4819 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I’d expect to miss it if I was late. Period. In fact if you say that, I might even PURPOSELY skip it.

    Post # 10
    Member
    657 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    @Jbunny:  I’m having my ceremony in a botannical garden and due to time limitations it will we several hours before the reception. They limit the number of people in the garden and it is standing only as well so what we’re doing is we are letting the main invite serve as an invitation to the reception and then sticking in the smaller cards usually used for reception info as information on our ceremony to just our family. We’re not even inviting friends to our ceremony, most of them could care less to stand around for 15 minutes and would rather just enjoy drinking and dancing. There are a few who have expressed interest in seeing us get married and they are more than welcome to come but they understand we have a short time span in the garden and would not be late. As for people arriving early, I was a bridesmaid at a wedding and a couple tried to walk into the church inbetween the other bridesmaid and me! The wedding coordinator had to stop them until the bride was given away, not everyone makes it a priority to be punctual.

     

    Post # 12
    Member
    641 posts
    Busy bee

    @chouette:  Couldn’t help it, the people just trying to merge into the wedding processional like it was a traffic lane cracked me up. I wonder what some people are thinking. 

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