Post # 1
Do you do hold doors for others, pick up dropped items/change for others, etc? Do people around you do those things?
Where do you live (city, rural, etc.)?
I’m curious because I’ve noticed now that I live in the city, people don’t help each other much. I will always hold a door for someone, pick up an item they drop, etc.; but I was raised in a rural area. Cultural difference?
Post # 3
I do, and I live in NYC. I was born and raised in Michigan, though. Living in the city can make you a bit jaded though, as the last two times I returned cash I saw people drop, they were either completely ungrateful or just plain rude! Grumble grumble.
Post # 4
I grew up in Ohio, and I’ve always done this, and have always been surrounded by people who do the same (for the most part). In Montana, where I live now, and, mostly, people do this, too. I find not quite to the same extent, but they’re overall pretty polite. I’m told that people in the MidWest are “known” for being extremely polite, and I find this to be true in my experience.
Post # 5
Absolutely. My mother would be crushed if she saw me brushing past someone without holding the door. It’s just manners. I also pick up dropped items, give up seats to old people, and don’t talk on my cell phone while going through the checkout line.
I traveled with my daughter when she was 4 months old and I will never forget how it felt struggling to hold her in the snuggly, wrangle the stroller, diaper bag, and a suitcase. At one point I dropped my purse and everything fell out and not ONE person in the airport stopped to help me. I will never raise my children to be so apathetic.
Post # 6
I hold doors, pick up things, etc–and I was raised in a city. I think it probably has as much to do with what your parents taught you as it does where you grew up.
That being said–my FI grew up in a VERY small town and I think on the whole, people are nicer/friendlier there than they are where we live. That might be because everyone knows everyone so you can’t really get away with being rude lol.
Post # 7
I live in Chicago and I try to be friendly to everyone. I’m constantly giving directions on how to get to tourist attractions or how to navigate on the L. I personally love being mindful!
Post # 8
I’m in Atlanta. I always open doors, let people in front of me and try to have an overall good person in most aspects of my life.
Post # 10
I hold doors or help if someone dropped stuff. Grew up in the suburbs, live in DC now.
Post # 11
I do those things and for me I think it has a lot to do with the family and religious based community I grew up in.
I live in South Florida. I think the rate of occurrence for those things down here is about 50/50.
Post # 12
I’m going to stand up for NYC. I see people hold doors all the time. I see people let ladies out of the elevator first, I see people pick up things for people. I see people offer their seats to the elderly/pregnant women. They might not smile at you but if someone cuts a line they’re going to get yelled at for being an *sshole.
Post # 13
There definitely are cultural differences at play with what people think of as “polite” or not from place to place. For instance, here, I find that people just do not move out of your way….like, ever. I think people are just not in as big of a rush. They’ll literally look at you waiting for them to clear up a bit of space in the shopping aisle, and continue standing in the middle of the aisle with a cart blocking your way. It’s really odd to me, but my husband doesn’t think anything of it. He thinks I’m rude for expecting them to move aside a bit. His family also thinks that drivers in the MW are very rude, because they’re in more of a rush to get places, but I think that the people taking their time here are rude. I personally found Parisian drivers to be ridiculously rude & inconsiderate, but they just saw it as a way of life and figured I just didn’t know how to drive by their “rules”.
Post # 14
I do. I live in the city, always have.
Post # 15
i live in San Jose,CA pretty big city id say? and im usually with my babyso i cant hold doors open for others but if im alone yes.Theres a bit of everything, some see me with her and hold the door or let us pass and some are just rude and dont do shit lol
Post # 16
@KatyElle – That’s terrible nobody helped you! I especially will go out of my way to help people who are pregnant, elderly, or juggling small children!
Before my wedding, I was in Walmart buying chocolates for the favor bags. I didn’t get a basket (my fault) because I had been to 3-4 stores already, none of them had the specific flavor of Ghirardelli chocolate I wanted, so I figured this store probably wouldn’t either. But they did! So I’m trying to hold 12+ bags of chocolate in my arms, and I drop one. I’m right up by the entryway and registers, so there are tons of people around. I try to pick it up, I drop another bag, still akwardly trying to bend over sidewise as to not drop all of them. NOBODY stopped to help! There were at least 30 people that were either standing nearby or walked by near me. I was apalled! I would have helped without thinking twice; and if I had a kid, I would have sent my kid to help because I think they should learn that!