POLL: Are these alterations possible? (Pic heavy & LONG, sorry!)

posted 3 years ago in Dress
  • poll: Are these alterations possible/a good idea?
    Possible, and good idea! : (4 votes)
    11 %
    Possible, but bad idea. : (16 votes)
    43 %
    Impossible. Either love the dress as-is, or accept that it's not your dress!! : (14 votes)
    38 %
    Other. See comment below... : (3 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 2
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    193 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I don’t know much about alterations – but I just wanted to say your dress is absolutely gorgeous!! I love it! Just remember that there must be so much you appreciated about it too to fall in love with it. Maybe you will fall in love with it all over again when you see yourself all dolled up with it on? Whichever way it goes I hope you are ultimately happy and that it all works out the way you want it too. You will look stunning no matter what! 🙂

    Post # 3
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    3394 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    First of all, I think your gown is utterly spectacular. When Bees get dress regret, I can usually see why – but in your case I think your gown is stunning, and looks like perfection on you.

    Having said that, you need to be 100% happy with it. While I think some of the alterations you want are entirely possible (streamlining the skirt to taper the flare, lowering the back), others may be structurally impossible and/or extremely expensive (shortening the train given the pleating, beading and scalloped edge, changing the beadwork on the back to get the illusion look you’re after). 

    Is it possible to ask the designer/manufacturer to make some of those changes? If the gown hasn’t been made yet, I would imagine this would be the most successful route because they can actually just make the train shorter, and keep the integrity of the fabric/pattern intact. 

    If they can’t do that, I would probably consider another gown. In the same vein, I adore Ines de Santo’s Amour, that dress gives me dress regret for sure!

    Post # 5
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    103 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    I think it is beautiful as is (with your silver underlay change) I wouldn’t do too much too the dress, if there are that many things you don’t like, maybe it isn’t the dress for you. You could ask the seamstress at the salon what she thinks, but I think it looks great on you as is!

    Post # 7
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    3250 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    It’s a stunning dress. I personally would leave it as is, but if you aren’t happy then see what a seamstress thinks is possible.

    Post # 8
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    1926 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I think you could make it into a real mermaid and reduce the skirt but it would take an expert seamstress and would require taking apart a lot of the dress. It may be quite a large alteration fee. I think it looks beautiful as is, but i understand being nit picky about things. I wanted more volume at the hips of my dress and made my seamstress let out the skirt, add more poof etc… so I totally get how you feel.

    Post # 9
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    10856 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    AvaG: I’d say the dress is more a fit n flare shape. I would say altering the back to more of a V and adding buttons is possible. I think it’s gorgeous as it is and therefore wouldn’t want to mess with it too much. I love the detail and it’s shape, so pretty.

    Post # 10
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    AvaG:  I actually just tried on this dress today and completely fell in love.  Very unexpected as this was my first time trying on dresses and I was in Nordstrom, on a whim, by myself, and the sales girl said she had an open slot and asked if I wanted to try on.  I figured “why not”, this was the 4th dress and bam!  

    It’s awesome you got to meet the designer and make some custom changes.  Personally, having tried on the dress myself, I think the dress is already fairly unique and special as is.  Definitely has a lot more interest then most bridal gowns.   I think you should leave as is.  I also think its totally normal to have second thoughts.  I think to add too much to this dress might just be “adding.”  When too much is going on it will distract from how beautiful you look in the dress and will be more about looking at the dress itself.  I also think you are taking a chance on the alterations in the back.  It’s going to require a lot of pulling apart and reconstructing and if your seamstress isn’t on point it could ruin it.  No dress is going to have EVERY element you want unless its custom made and like I said, sometimes more isn’t better it’s just more.  Ultimately though you know what is in your heart.  You look gorgeious though!

    Post # 11
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    296 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    Agree with PP’s.  When someone usually has dress regret, I usually agree that the dress they had wasn’t all that.  But your dress is beautiful, and you look AMAZING in it!

    1. Although you said you wanted a slimmer skirt, adding a small crinoline under the dress would probably fix that fold of fabric at the front, or it might not even be there at all when you try on the gown in your size, and the skirt might be a little slimmer fit, too (I assume the one you tried on was a few sizes to big judging by the clips on the back).

    2. Your best bet for the train would be contacting the designer ASAP and asking them to make it shorter to begin with.  It would be a huge job (and not to mention costly) for someone to take all the detailing off the gown, shorten the train and then sew it back on.

    3. When your dress fits properly you shouldn’t have the gathering.  A lot of the time, those gathers happen on dresses that are slightly too small in one area (like the hips, or top of the thigh), and the fabric slips up while walking and doesn’t go back down smoothly.  If your gown fits, it shouldnt be a problem, or you can always wear some kind of shapewear shorts or skirt for extra “slip” if necessary.

    4. It should be relatively ewasy, but again, the best bet would be asking the designer about this.

    5. Buttons would be easy!

     

    Post # 13
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    99 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    I had the exact same feeling when I finally ordered my dress. I panicked that I made the wrong decision and practically started the process of researching dresses all over again. When I finally tried it back on months later, especially when I added my accessories/veil, I realized that I should have trusted myself. I purchased a stunning gown but let my stress get the best of me. That dress is GORGEOUS. I think you’ll really love it once it comes in & then you can think about what alterations you actually need. 

    Post # 15
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    1926 posts
    Buzzing bee

    AvaG:  Thanks! Ya it still in the end didn’t have as much of the poof I wanted. But to echo other brides you really can’t get everything you want sometimes (but sometimes you get what you need!! ahhh couldn’t help myself). I also think that contacting the designer to shorter thr train is an excellent idea. As well as adding a small crinoline to take out the fold in the front. Honestly, I think when it comes in the colour you ordered it in and you make some small adjustments you might be really happy with it even if its not a true mermaid.

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