@TorTor09: I voted yes, but I guess the more accurate response is “kind of.”
The story is kind of long and complicated, so I’ll give a more condensed version … I doubt anyone wants to read about all the crazy details anyway! Haha.
I’d kept in touch off and on with a male friend from high school over the years. I always thought he was really attractive, nice, intelligent, funny, etc., but nothing ever happened between us. I actually had a very serious boyfriend for a little over 4 years (including 2 years of high school), so I really did think of this friend as just that … A friend.
We got back in touch during my junior year of college. It was random (I can’t even remember who initiated it), but we started talking pretty much every evening online and on the phone. I was single and he was single. Eventually, we decided to have a relationship.
I really loved this guy. I mean, really loved him. I felt things for him that I honestly hadn’t felt for my boyfriend of 4+ years! When things didn’t work out (he had serious commitment issues and just couldn’t deal with a serious relationship), I was devastated.
Unfortunately, because we both still had feelings for each other, it became an on-again-off-again thing that lasted about 2.5 years.
I say “kind of” because during one of our “off-again” times, I started seeing another guy. This guy turned out to be a total psycho (seriously, he was controlling, obsessive, and stalked me for 4 months after I broke up with him, which was kind of terrifying). It was never serious with him (we were just together for a few months), and I never had strong feelings for him … It was more of a casual thing (at least for me).
So, technically, the psycho guy was my last official “boyfriend” prior to meeting my fiance. However, the ex who broke my heart and I started seeing each other again after I broke up with the psycho guy … We just weren’t “officially” together at the time.
About a month before I met my fiance (we met in May 2007), I decided I just couldn’t deal with the emotional rollercoaster that went along with this on-again-off-again relationship (or whatever it was at the time) with my ex. I just stopped returning his calls and texts because I knew I’d cave if I didn’t.
I’m glad I decided to be strong at that point. I needed to finally end things and move on … I wasn’t happy with the situation, and I knew it could literally go on forever if I didn’t make a conscious choice to stop hanging out with him, sleeping with him, etc.
It turned out to be the best thing I could have done because it allowed me to open myself to new possibilities … And those possibilities included my (now) fiance!
I guess that wasn’t really a short story … Sorry!
Oh, and side note … My life isn’t really as filled with drama as this post might indicate. When I was younger, yes … Since I met my fiance, no. (Just another one of the many reasons I feel so lucky to have him in my life!)