Post # 1
I have always only bought wedding presents for friends online and had them shipped directly to them, and figured that that method was most convenient for everybody involved. But in case it’s a generational thing, or a New York City thing (we have basically every store here, yet still have everything delivered) I thought I’d throw this out there:
– Roughly what percentage of your gifts were sent directly to you, vs. brought to the wedding by guests? (not counting checks or cash)
– How important is it to register *only* for things that can be bought in stores as well as online?
Post # 3
I don’t remember our exact figures, but we had several out of state relatives send us gifts because they either didn’t want to travel with them or because they weren’t coming to the wedding & sent a gift instead.
We got a LOT of cards in the mail with checks from people who couldn’t make it, and we got a LOT of cards in our card box at the reception from people who chose to gift us cash instead.
I got physical gifts at my bridal shower, and a good many physical gifts at the reception as well.
It was a pretty even mix as far as I recall.
Post # 4
I think I have a total of 3 wedding gifts that were shipped. I think at least one of those gifts was purchased in store (just a guess based on recipient).
I had more gifts that I had to pick up in store. Most of those would have been paid for in store. A larger number were brought to the reception, but many of those were cheques.
Post # 5
Not married yet. But have been to my fair share of weddings. And there’s hardly ever physical gifts just cards with cash and gift cards. At least in my circle physical gifts are usually just for showers and purchased in the store. I personally never buy gifts online.
Post # 6
We had most of our wedding gifts brought to the reception, a few cheques mailed and quite a few cards brought to the reception. I think I only had a couple of gifts shipped or that I had to pick up from the store. That seems to be the standard in our part of Canada, though.
Post # 7
My vote is for “generational thing.” Most of the gifts that were physically brought were from people our parents’ age and older.
In Canada, most things don’t get shipped to your house, but they go for store pick up.
Post # 8
- Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island
I have a honeymoon registry, so every gift is essentially cash. We’ve gotten tons of compliments on it. Everyone has told us it was so easy to navigate and use. Plus, it allows us to buy whatever we want; there’s no obligation to spend the money on whatever the person “bought.” I highly recommend them!
Post # 9
thanks, everyone, for your input!
I know that almost always, the answer to my questions is, “well, you know your guests pretty well—what do you think they’ll do?” but it’s great to see the range of experiences everyone else had.
for us, almost all of the parents’-generation guests are flying in, so here’s hoping they order online or bring cards so we don’t need to register for a Radio Flyer wagon to cart everything home. (or better yet, that they bring nothing; we don’t need a lot of stuff, and honestly as silly as it sounds, the best gift for me would be for people to still be saying years from now, “man, that was a great wedding you threw.” so yeah, for me, flattery is the greatest gift, right there behind children, ice cream, and laughter.)