Post # 1
So it turns out my fiance really likes SATIN, PICKUPS, and NO LACE OR TULLE.
Uhm – I kind of threw all of that out the window, and ended up with this:
But I don’t care! I love my dress! But I definitely chose the exact opposite of what he said he likes. I’m not a fan of pickups on me, and I absolutely adore lace and tulle.
My question to you ladies is – did you go against what your fiance may have said he preferred?! If so – how against it did you go?
Post # 3
My first dress is a slight wrap style which FH said he hated but saw a picture and said he liked (…men…) but he helped pick out my ceremony dress when issues came up with the first dress.
Post # 4
Guys usually dont know what they want when it comes to dresses. They may say they hate lace but only because they dont like a certain type of lace.. etc. My FI has no idea what my gown looks like and I know he will love it
Post # 5
DH was very interested in discussing the dress style. He watched say yes to the dress and would weigh in about what he liked and disliked all the time. He also liked satin and pickups (which I didn’t like). However, I did find a dress that had like 6 scattered pickups that I did like, and the beading that I wanted and I opted for that. DH however, once he knew that I bought a dress, also stopped weighing in and giving his opinion in case I had bought something similar that he didn’t like. Smart guy 🙂
Post # 6
I voted “he had no say”
but he did see a photo of the dress I was originally going to purchase and loved it and said “its so you!”.
But when the dress I got is NOTHING like the one he saw so I guess he had no say.
He loves my fashion sense so I’m sure he will like my dress, and besides, it’s nothing really crazy, so there is not much to hate.
But I am kind of glad I never saw SYTTD with him since what if he said he loved stuff I hated? I would feel a bit like I was disappointing him.
Post # 7
My FI said, no color (I wanted something kind of “out there”) and LONG (I wanted to have a tea length dress) in the end, I got a lace coverd mermaid/modified A-line. I hope he loves it!
Post # 8
We picked it out together. He knew more about what would fit with what I wanted than I did.
Of course, I also have no problems with letting him shop for my clothing without me, so our dynamic is a lot different than what most women have with their guys.
Post # 9
I actually fell in love with a mermaid dress (the one I still think was THE one) but FI doesn’t like mermaid styles. I sent her a picture thinking me IN the dress would chage her mind… no go. And I didn’t want to walk down the aisle in something my FI didn’t think I looked good in (want her to be admiring me, hello!) so I walked away from the dress.
I still wish she’d liked it though. I loved that dress and I ended up with something I like less but that we both agreed on.
Post # 10
I pretty much picked a dress I know he will like. The only thing I’m unsure about is the flower sash…not because he said he doesn’t like them, but just because it’s a pretty big flower. I think it’s beautiful and different, but who knows what he’ll think? I did, however, take into consideration his other comments like how he does not like ruffles or pickups.
Post # 11
I don’t believe it’s a good idea to ask fiance about his dress style taste, ever! I don’t think the guy has enough information to make that decision about what is going to look best on your body. It just gives an added pressure and source of annoyance if it turns out he *thinks* he likes something different than you do. I think that 99% of the time if you’ve picked a dress that looks amazing you, that will outweigh any taste preferences he might have. Unless the issue is the modesty level of the dress, or something similar. So I voted “he had no say”.
Post # 12
When I asked my DH what he envisioned my wedding gown to look like he basically described a princess ballgown. Since I am 5’1″ and curvy, that wasn’t happening. I still wanted his input in the dresses I was considering, so I sort of showed him some on the sly and asked for his opinions.
I got enough information from him to lead me away from a gown that was super flattering on my figure, but not appropriate for our wedding. The rest of the decision I made myself and he didn’t see it until our wedding day. So it was a combination of things he wanted in a gown and what actually worked on my body/was my taste.
Post # 13
My fiance doesn’t like pickups and he didn’t want me in something “pouffy” or huge. He liked all the form fitting examples I showed him. I ended up with a ballgown, but I feel like it really defines my waist, and isn’t too big. It’s also very clean, simple and classic which I think he’ll like. When I expressed my worry that it wasn’t exactly what he told me he liked.. he said ” I’ll like you in whatever you walk down the aisle in… it’s not the dress I’ll be thinking about”. so yea… I’m not worried anymore 🙂
Post # 14
I voted for “He had no say in the dress at all” He did make a comment about how much he LOVED my sisters gown when she got married 2 years ago, and told me that he would like me in something similar. So, the gown I ended up chosing is nothing like my sister’s. . . . obviosoulsly. I didn’t want people to think that I was trying to copy her gown. When I told him I bought my gown, the first words out of his mouth were “Does it look anything like your sister’s gown?” I said “No honey, but it’s magnificent and definitely has the wow factor.”
Post # 15
DH really wanted me to wear a retro, tea-length dress. I ended up picking one that looks like a 50s/retro dress, only floor-length. So… I’d say he had some say but I had the final decision.
Post # 16
DH had no say in my dress choice whatsoever….he didnt tell me anything he did or didnt like before I went. I think I could have worn any dress and he would have thought I looked beautiful