Post # 1
Hi there – yes this is a spinoff post from an earlier discussion but I do see lots of Bees questioning if they want children someday so I thought I would post a poll for bees that had children to see what the results would be.
So either you wanted kids, did not want kids or were not sure and now you have 1 or more.
Do you ever wonder if maybe you should not have?
Please respond to the poll – if you want to put more info below can we play nice and embrace everyone’s opinion?
Post # 3
@unixfairy: I am interested in what people have to say! Gah that would suck to regret having children…
Post # 4
I have always wanted kids. Even though I had her at 18 I never have regretted her. She has made me a stronger person today.
Post # 5
Have them, always wanted them, never a single regret.
Post # 6
CFBC currently but…
I have an ex roommate who totally regrets having a child. The sad thing is the kid knows it now. The kid is almost 18, but came to the conclusion She wants to be a He.
and now Mom, started dating this guy a year ago and constantly talks about how she can really be a mom now with a real little girl.
I love the kiddo, and I really hate his Mom. I just…I mean she constantly talked about how she wish she never had a kid before she met this new guy and now “having a new daughter” is just the coolest thing ever!
My heart breaks for that kid everyday.
Post # 7
I think the last option before “other”: I was not sure if I wanted children but I have 1 or more and I have never regretted it
I was not sure if I wanted children but I have 1 or more and I have regretted it most of the time
Just a heads up! I don’t have children but am very interested in this topic.
Post # 8
Never wanted kids, but have one & now want a 2nd lol. Can’t say I’ve ever regretted it, but I have wondered once or twice, on my worst days, what life would be like without. Does that count? Moments of doubt few & far between? It’s hard to say.
Post # 9
I don’t have children, and I am only basing this on my personal experiences with the interactions I have had with woman, typically older, who have children who aren’t babies (ages 6 – 16)
But, I have had multiple women with tween/early teen children, who have told me that while they love their children and are so happy they had them; that looking back they wish they would have not had children. The reasons varied from “its too hard” “emotionally draining” and other things along those lines.
Obviously this is in no way a consensus of all mothers, but I find it interesting that in my personal interactions with multiple mothers, when we have a deep conversation regarding me not wanting to have children, many of them have stated the sentiments above. Personally, I think it is very honorable to be so honest.
Post # 10
I have a son. I always wanted children and being a mother is the greatest blessing I could have ever imagined. I am thankful for my beautiful child every single moment of my life. He’s a complete joy. Never any regrets, not for a moment.
Post # 11
I have moments when I wonder if I am doing a good enough job as mother and that fear could lead to regretting having children. I don’t resent the kids themselves.
Post # 12
I don’t have kids yet but I have been going back and forth.
I have always wanted to be a mom and have a family of my own; but now that a lot of people around me are having kids I’m starting to change my mind. I don’t want to have to work after I have kids. I want to be able to raise them myself. I can’t see myself having the strength to work FT and raise a family, especially babies.
I can’t see us ever in a position where I would be able to stay at home to raise a family.
It really saddens me and fear that I would regret the decision to have kids, knowing that we probably shouldn’t have done so.
Post # 13
I always did NOT want children until I met my husband, then it just kind of seemed liked something I would want to do with him. I’m pregnant now and very curious to see this poll after more people have voted.
Post # 14
Darling Husband and I had Dirty Delete unplanned and she’s two and a half. Not a trace of regret, and we’re TTC #2. I love our little family 🙂
Post # 15
could’ve written this myself! Darn moms who post all their domestic acheivements on fbook- they’re making our mommy guilt worse 😉
Post # 16
I did NOT want a child when I got pregnant. I was with a jerk and was trying to leave so getting pregnant kinda set that back a bit. I cried when I found out, not the happy tears. I had a panic attack when I got home.
I wanted kids, just not at that time and not with that person.
But I don’t regret her for a second. She’s been MY baby since she was born, it gets hard at times and I look at other family members and friends who haven’t had a child yet going out to parties and sleeping all day, but then I remember her first steps, when she learned the phrase “not nice” I remember her smile, her dancing like a ballerina, I just think about her and couldn’t regret having her for a second.