Post # 1
I am in the process of deciding on first look or not. We aren’t doing a ton of formal photos but I still want to enjoy part of cocktail hour. I really do think there’s a difference between him seeing me for the first time during the ceremony or before it, but I see the benefits too (nerves, private time, longer photo session opportunity)……
What was your take on the first look? Did you LOVE or DISLIKE your photos? POST EM! ALSO, did you feel like the big reveal was “Staged” or forced?
Post # 3
We engraved our rings and kept them as a secret, and during our first look we read them to each other. It made for some amazing and intimate pictures. I’m really shy, so that was the time that I got very emotional and had my special bond with my husband (as opposed to the ceremony). While I was walking down the aisle I could barely even see my husband bc of all the people in the way.
Post # 4
- Wedding: March 2013 - Callanwolde Fine Arts Center
My husband and I did a first look and I absolutely loved it. It was great to see him before the ceremony and have a little alone time. Before the first look, I was a little wound up and anxious, but after talking with him, I was just excited and happy. As an added bonus, some of my favorite photos are from our first look.
I didn’t feel like our pictures were staged or forced at all. I don’t even remember the photographers being there until we started taking the portrait type pictures with the bridal party and family.
Post # 5
Not married yet, but I really want to do one. I think it’ll make sense to catch the daylight for our early evening ceremony, avoid going missing the cocktail hour and all of the pictures I’ve seen have been really really really cute!
Post # 6
Our first look was our favorite part of the day! It was just the two of us and our photographer, and I didn’t even notice our photographer was there at all. I will always remember the sweet look on DH’s face when he saw me for the first time, and the sweet things he said to me in private before we got married. It definitely calmed both of our nerves, and I think it helped us feel even more connected to each other during our ceremony. I would highly recommend doing a first look to everyone!
Post # 7
My DH was really against the first look so we didnt do it. It is my biggest regret! If I could go back, we wouldve definitely done it!
Post # 8
- Wedding: June 2012 - Franklin Plaza
So I originally did not want to have a first look, but DH convinced me. Looking back, I am SO glad we did it. I had a really shitty morning and seeing him before the ceremony and being able to spend some time with him was exactly what I needed to calm my nerves. It didn’t really feel staged… Walking up to him did feel a little strange, but once I tapped his shoulder and he turned around… Well, the photos speak for themselves hahaha! I absolutely recommend a first look to anyone that’s on the fence about it.
Post # 9
@Andthepupmakes3: I did a first look with my Dad, so I’m THRILLED that I didn’t do one with my DH!
It was forced and rushed (we were 10 minutes behind schedule). The pictures are GREAT! But nothing beat seeing my DH for the first time at the end of the aisle!
Here’s me and my Dad
Post # 10
I’m REALLY glad we did a First Look.
Call me crazy, but I swear that as I approached him, all the frantic thoughts and feelings that picked at my brain that morning suddenly went quiet… and it was as if a little peaceful song started in my head. When he turned around, we both got emotional. It was great.
In public, we are typically reserved. So if he had seen me coming down the aisle for the first time in front of other people, his true inner reaction most likely would not have reflected on his face. Therefore, it would have felt staged if our first look occurred at the ceremony. But with the private look before all the craziness, I knew his expression and words were genuine and we were thrilled to have those moments together!
I didn’t even notice our photographer. And I LOVED being at Cocktail Hour with my guests.
Post # 11
@Andthepupmakes3: I guess I don’t really get the whole “I want to be surprised” thing with weddings, so take my opinion with a grain of salt. I posted pics of my dress before the wedding, picked my E-ring and dress out with my husband, etc., so obviously “surprise” wasn’t something I was concerned with. As soon as I found out about first looks I wanted to do one (my photographer suggested it to me). I loved the private time just before with my groom (he loved it too and it calmed his nerves), plus I got to go enjoy my cocktail hour with my guests.
Post # 12
I loved our first look. Our bridal party witnessed it, that made it really nice too! We exchanged love notes to eachother and just got to be with eachother for a little bit before the ceremony.
Everyone said I was the most relaxed bride before the ceremony – and that was because I already saw my DH and just got to focus on marrying him.
It did not take away from my walk down the aisle either. He was still looking at me like I was the most beautiful woman in the world.
Post # 13
@Andthepupmakes3: My DH and I did NOT do a first look because he was very adamant on not seeing me before the ceremony but I kind of I wish that we had. I was so so so nervous before (I don’t remember walking down the aisle I was so worked up) and he is the only person that can calm me down. Also neither of us cried during the ceremony but both were on the verge of tears but trying desperately not to cry and I think that if we had seen each other first or at least talked to each other without seeing each other that we would have let out some real emotion then and it would have allowed us to be more focused during the ceremony (instead of thinking “don’t cry, don’t cry, don’t cry”)
Post # 14
I did and am really glad we did. I love the pictures! I am at work so don’t have any to share
Post # 15
@Andthepupmakes3: I did not have a first look, and was 100% against them. It was the one tradition that I loved and wanted to preserve. However, I do regret not doing it for a couple of reasons. We didn’t just miss the cocktail hour, but the photographer did too. Because he was taking all of our bridal party and portrait pictures, we only have a few pictures at the cocktail hour, and they were towards the end when people had already made their way down to the reception. I have no pictures of the setup with the food stations, no pictures of us around where the cocktail hour was which happened to be on a large sweeping lawn overlooking a big river. I hadn’t thought about that at all, and now I’m disappointed. I also feel like my husband would’ve been more comfortable and maybe would’ve had more of a reaction to me if we had been alone and it was more private with time for just the two of us. We really did not have alone time at all during the wedding, and were so overwhelmed. So in hindsight, I would definitely do a first look.