Post # 1
I wanted to do a quick poll to see what people think about giving a bride advice about something you notice at her wedding DURING the wedding.
I was at wedding on Saturday and I took note that the photographer wasn’t really capturing images that I thought the bride would find usable. I noticed he would pull together random people who just happened to be standing/dancing near eachother but had to relation to eachother. Also, he kept pulling the same (hot/scantily clad) female cousin into tons of pictures, a girl who I know the bride isn’t even close to. I wanted SO badly to tell either the photographer or the bride to make sure they take pictures of people in groups that are relevant so when she puts her album together, she has a record of everyone in groups (highschool friends, mom’s side of family, dad’s co-workers…etc). Instead of just random groups of whoever is standing closest to eachother. I guess I’m extra sensitive because a lot of my pictures were like this, so I know how frustrating it is.
I didn’t end up saying anything because the bride looked so happy and stress-free and I didn’t want to start any drama.
If you noticed something a little off at a wedding you attended, would you draw it to the attention of the bride or vendor or would you just let it be?
Post # 3
I think it depends on a couple things. How close you are to the bride, how much you think the bride will care, and how bad whatever is going on is.
Post # 4
the situation you describe, I would not say anything.
Also agree with how well I know her and how close we are.
Post # 5
I agree with PBL. In this particular situation, I think you did the right thing by staying out of it.
Post # 6
I agree with the ‘it depends’ thing. I would have done what you did and just hoped it worked out in that situation. Had she just gushed to me about how she REALLY wants photos of Grandma cutting a rug before she turned in for the night, and I just her Gma say she was heading out, then I’d politely say something to someone. Totally depends on our relationship and the circumstances and how ‘fixable’ the problem is. No use worrying her that i heard the caterer say they ran out of beef dishes so the rest are getting chicken if she can’t do anything about it.
Post # 7
I would find someone else to tell like maybe mob or moh and let them handle it 🙂
Post # 8
I don’t think pointing it out would be very helpful in that situation. Because it’s too complicated to explain to the photographer HOW to group people together, so by nature they just walk around snapping photos of what they see going on. And the ones who are scantily clad are usually by nature the most outgoing, so there will be more pics of them on the dance floor than others.
I would never point anything out to the bride or groom, but I might grab the Maid/Matron of Honor or wedding coordinator if I noticed something really bad going on – like underage kids sneaking drinks or someone stealing from the card basket. Once Darling Husband and I were at a wedding and the dance floor was lit up like an operating room all night which was really bothering all the guests so we quietly pointed it out to the DJ at like 10:00pm who was able to dim the lights. But I never would have pulled the bride or groom aside to discuss it. Another wedding we went to closed down the bar during dinner and people were leaving in droves to go out and get alcohol, but I didn’t say anything – I just forbid Darling Husband from joining everyone, lol!!
Post # 9
I agree not to say anything to the bride and groom – they’ve done all the planning up until that point, let them enjoy the wedding without having to worry about the details. I would however bring it up with the Maid/Matron of Honor or MOB and let them take care of it.
Post # 10
I would give advice to the photographer in this situation.. I would try talking to the vendor or anyone providing service first before going to the bride and groom.. also I would talk to the BM’s or Maid/Matron of Honor so that they could handle it before stressing out the bride..
my maids of honor already said that on the day if there’s any issues they’ll handle it because they don’t think my Fiance and I should be bothered on our wedding day and I agree.
Post # 11
I would say something to the Maid/Matron of Honor instead. This is the one day the bride has for these pictures to come out spectacular… she should have the situation nipped in the bud without causing her stress.
Post # 12
As a guest is it not your place to make that judgement. Keep your mouth shut and let the day flow as it does. The day-of-coordinator is the only person who needs to know, and guests usually are not made aware of who that person is.
Post # 13
If it was my family or someone close, I would speak to the DOC or Maid/Matron of Honor. I would never tell the bride because its Her Day and she will find out soon enough.
Post # 14
I would want to know but I’d probably not say anything unless it were really bad… like, “umm the DJ is passed out in the bathroom.” 😛
Chances are I’d be too distracted to really notice what the photographer was doing. Perhaps I might make suggestions to the bride or the photographer… not to criticize, but just to make sure certain shots were taken. Guiding it along if you will…
Post # 15
In the situation you described, I would not say anything to the bride, but I would consider making the suggestion to the photographer that they should try an get some pictures of the details or make sure to try and get all family members, etc. Maybe say that your own weding photographer did that and you were very appreciative. No one likes to be told what to do, but if it sounds like a good suggestion, they might thank you and the bride wouldn’t get dragged in as a middle person.
As a bride, I would love if one of my guests stepped in to make my event even better. Especially if I got better long lasting pictures out of it.
Post # 16
I voted that it depends…
It depends on how well I know the bride, and what the issue actually is.
In this particular case, I would have satyed quiet. I probably would have just started snapping tons of photos with my personal camera and get shots of things and people I felt the pro photog was missing/lacking. They wouldn’t by any means be pro pics, but I’ve seen others take and taken some really great guest pictures at friends/family’s weddings 🙂