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Hmm, I was confused at first because our friends in established relationships aren't single, so I'm assuming that's what you meant :)
Anyhoo, we're only allowing friends who are in serious relationships bring a plus one. And we wrote that person's name in the envelope so there was no confusion. Most of my actual single friends all know each other and live in the same area, so I didn't think it was necessary to give them a plus one for the sake of bringing someone. If they weren't going to know anyone at the wedding at all, then I may have reconsidered.
we did the same - friends in serious relationships had their +1s written on the invite. we left the single ones open - so far no one's sprung an "i have to bring a date" on us.
We are only allowing +1 for people who have been in a relationship for at least a year.
Yeah, sorry about the confusion, I meant 'single' as unmarried. More the tax return definition, I guess!
For the most part, they have to be in an established relationship BUT some people are flying across the country for our wedding, so we figured they could bring a date whether or not they're in an established relationship, ya know?
I was just wondering the same thing! I'm still not sure how to go about it. The no ring, no bring method seems a little harsh to me, so I think we'll go with if we know they have a bf/gf, then we'll invite them. No extraneous +1s though.
We did plus ones for almost all unmarried friends. We have a lot of friends who don't know each other, and we wanted them to have the option of bringing someone along since they wouldn't know anyone.
In the end, pretty much none of our friends could get dates, which cut our guest list down by a lot.
As an unmarried guest, I've always appreciated the +1. I know that everyone is on a budget, but it makes me feel like a more special guest. I don't always fill the +1, but I think it's a nice gesture.
they have to pretty much be living with the person if they want to have their significant other, we're having a very small wedding. and my single friends know the smallness of the wedding, so i'm not expecting any complaints. if they do complain, too bad.
We are pretty laid back on the +1 issue. As long as they tell me I really dont care. We are doing an appetizer reception and is priced to be about $5 a head, so we are good with it. It also helps that we only have a guest list of about 100ppl even with the extra ppl.
It was really important to us that EVERYONE was allowed to bring a date and so we set our max # that fit in our budget 52 people - cut that in half 26 people for him to invite and 26 for me and so that is 13 friends plus their guest!!!!!
I think this is backwards from the way most people do it but it was really important to us that everyone is allowed to bring a guest if they choose and we have a small wedding with all of very close friends and family!
I am inviting all single peeps with a plus one out of courtesy but do not think all of them will bring a plus one. And, let's face it, if they have a partner or friend to dance the night away with they will have more fun at your wedding!
I am doing you can bring your significant other if youve been datng for at least a year, I don't really have anyone who only "almost" makes it. Basically if you have a boyfriend now then he'll be invited but if you get one soon he wont be. We will also write on the inite the SO name. The only exception to our "rule" is if you will not know anyone else at the wedding and are single you can bring a date if you wish and these people will get "and guest".
I am having a small, intimate wedding, so to have a random date there would be weird, I think, for everyone. If they are in an established relationship, I should know their name & their name will be on the invitation, not "+1". But definitely inviting all significant others!
For all guests that are "college age and over" I put and guest. On some we put and family and the reply card has a line that says " # of guests" or something like that. I had to have that so I know exactly how many people to expect.
We had a smallish guest list to begin with, but we gave an "and guest" to all single people over the age of 21. A lot of them didn't bring someone, but I wanted to give people the option.
Ours is sort of case by case. Our friends all get +1s because I'd like them to feel as comfortable as possible, since it's such a big family event. Some people need to bring someone to help that happen - even though most of our friends have told me that they won't be bringing anyone.
But my cousins, all of whom are younger than me, mostly don't. Like for one cousin in college, she changes boyfriends every other month and she'll know tons of family there, so I didn't give her one. For another one of my cousins, he's been dating his gf for almost 2 years and she's really integrated into his family and I've met her a ton, so he gets a +1 for her. Same on my FI's side. We sort of factored in age (under 21 was a lot less likely to get a +1) and if the person was dating someone who had been taken in by the family a bit.
We're doing the same as sminerva21 - most of our single guests all know eachother so they'll have a great time and truthfully, there are people that I'd rather have at my party than my FI's cousins on-again-off-again girlfriend.
I'm having a destination wedding in Aruba and it's mostly close friends and family. All are mostly married and the single ones have either no GF/BF or the ones with bf/gf have been with theirs for at least a yr!
We chose to have a backyard wedding and having the freedom to buy our own liqour and food gave us enough saving to invite anyone and everyone! lol, well not that extreme but we can afford to invite friends and plus ones that otherwise wouldn't have been able to attend.
We are kinda doing it on a case-by-case basis. The general rule for everyone is a +1 if you are married, engaged or in a committed relationship. We aren't putting a minimum duration on dating bc I know that gets messy. There is a notable exception though... for friends who wouldn't likely know anyone else, single or not, they get an automatic +1. I wouldn't want to have to socially sink-or-swim on my own, so I wouldn't ask them to either. :o)
We're only inviting the SO if they will have been dating for at least a year by the wedding...So basically, anyone who started dating someone after June 12, 2009 won't get a plus one....unless we know them really well or something...
I was a BM in a friends wedding a little while ago, and she didn't let me bring my SO, who is now my FI. I was really hurt by this decision, b/c I really wanted to bring him. I didn't really know anyone else there, and I saw that numerous other bridal party members (married, and namely the grooms side) did bring their SO's. I felt really left out, and hurt by this decision she made.
For my wedding, were doing a DW to Jamaica, so I'm letting ppl bring whomever they like.
Anyone 18 and older gets a plus one for our wedding, I would hate to be invited alone to a wedding!
I'm planning to do the +1 if they've dated for more than a year. I would like to give everyone a +1, but even at $11 a head, I just can't afford it. Plus, I orginally wanted a small (less than 100 person) wedding. However, over the last few months, the guest list has exploded from roughly 120 to 250!! How does this happen, you might say? Going home and then to church in your small home town and have everyone congratulate you on your engagement by concluding "Can't wait to get my invitation!" The guilt is just too much!
Almost everyone got a plus one. The only two people who didn't were my 80 year old aunt-my uncle just passed away in January. And a friend that I love dearly but I did not invite her verbally abusive, rude, and obnoxious common law husband. And she knows why I did not invite him. Another friend and I have an agree to disagree truce about the whole matter.
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