Post # 1
We are starting to plan and I’m realizing that our families have all these ideas for separate events beyond the ceremony and reception. So far it has been ok because our respective families would like to host (aka pay) for each of these events so they’re not breaking the budget, but I wanted to get a sense from people to see what others have done.
Right now we have the following “events” on the calendar: Rehearsal, Rehearsal dinner, Reception afterwards for all guests, Family only breakfast on the day of the wedding, Ceremony, Reception, After-party, and then a brunch for all out of town guests day after the wedding.
Just writing it all out seems exhausting. Is this normal??
Post # 2
honeybee2014: We’re eloping, so it’s just going to be a ceremony!
Before we decided to elope, though, we were considering having a small, 40-person wedding. We didn’t want a bridal party, so there would’ve been no need for a rehearsal (also, it wouldn’t have been in the budget). For that, we would have just had a ceremony and reception.
Post # 3
honeybee2014: everything but the after party are normal. why would you want a after party the day before your wedding? no you want sleep! as for the brunch the morning after i know a lot of people do a gift opening, although that is usually only family.
Post # 4
imhisoneandonly: Ha I’m with you! We want to keep the rehearsal dinner intimate but since people will be traveling our families want to open it up to everyone from out of town. It seems like a lot, especially if we have to wake up and be ready for a family breakfast the next day, but I may bow out early and let everyone else continue in the revelries 🙂
Post # 5
honeybee2014: Yes you could always bow out. Hey its not on your dollar so might as well do it all! 🙂
Post # 6
We had rehersal and rehersal dinner, ceremony and reception and then brunch the morning after for gift opening.
Post # 7
We’re going to have a rehearsal and dinner with our immediate families and bridal party and then will be meeting up with friends for drinks afterwards. We plan to advertise this “meet and greet” type thing on our wedding website, but it won’t be hosted or anything formal. Then, we have the wedding ceremony and reception (obviously), and will probably have an after party somewhere too, although again, that won’t be hosted – just an opportunity to continue the party. The next morning, we’re hosting a brunch for our OOT guests.
Post # 8
We did the rehearsal, rehearsal dinner, ceremony, reception and brunch. As a bride I worried so much about having enough wedding weekend events and activities since most ppl were coming in from out of town. I felt bad about not doing an after party but we didn’t have the budget and once everything was said and done I was grateful to be able to relax with my husband after the reception while guests who wanted to keep the party going went out or met at the hotel bar.
As a frequent wedding attendee now that all of my friends and family memebers have started getting married my feelings have changed. My husband and I use all of our vacation time on weddings and when we go out of town for weddings we look forward to having time to do some sightseeing and experience the place we’re visiting. As a guest I’ve never been dissapointed by too few wedding events…
Post # 9
we had a a rehearsal and dinner (which was just pizza at my parents’ house), ceremony and reception, and the next day we had an indigenous ceremony and brunch for close family and out of towners
Post # 10
We are doing the rehearsal, rehearsal dinner/welcome party [some of fi’s family is flying in, so we plan to host them as well] the day before the wedding.
The day of the wedding we are doing a very small and quick breakfast, but it’s not hosted or anything, we won’t have time for an elaborate meal, then ceremony & reception. No after party.
And we are doing a “fare well brunch” where we see our out of town guests one last time and go off on our honeymoon. The brunch isn’t hosted though.
Post # 11
honeybee2014: We’re having a ceremony and dinner 🙂
Post # 12
honeybee2014: We had Rehearsal with dinner the night before the wedding which was a Friday. This included both sets of parents (excluding my mom due to work) and wedding party and their significant others (if they weren’t in the wedding party), Saturday was the Wedding Ceremony and Reception. Before thee wedding, my girls and I spent the morning in my suite getting ready with hair/make up and we had my brother do a Timmies Run for breakfast since we couldn’t leave the room. On the Sunday my inlaws wanted to have an “open house BBQ” which was optional/people could come and go as they pleased. It was mainly family with a couple out of town guests.
Post # 13
We’re having a rehearsal, rehearsal dinner for our parent’s siblings and children (our aunts, uncles, and cousins) and the bridal party (around 50 people), our wedding/reception, and a bagel breakfast the following morning. We’re still hammering out the details of all these events. I want to include more out of town guests into a welcome event, as we’re having an out of town wedding, but venue constraints and budget make that hard!
Post # 14
We did a rehearsal at the venue on the Thursday, then just the bridal party (15 people) and SOs went to dinner at a bar after (we didn’t pay), on Friday my parents hosted an out of town guest party (just for family) which was like a wine and cheese, went from 6pm-9pm. On the wedding day, we had a ceremony and reception and afterparty. On Sunday we had a brunch that was like a no-host, “feel free to join us” breakfast at the hotel. So we had lots of events but they were very low key and we didn’t pay for all of them.
Not sure how you will possibly have time to have a family breakfast the morning of the weddinG. I would advise against that. And against having a huge party the night before the wedding for all guests- that seems odd.
Post # 15
mrsgroomzilla: I agree with you. As an often OOT guest, I’ll gladly go to your wedding and reception, and maybe a frew drinks in the hotel, but I would much rather spend some time with my DH in a hotel room the morning after (wink wink) Also, I’m getting too old for after parties.
DH had fun hanging out with people at the hotel after the rehersal, and we had a morning after bruch for parents and DH’s aunts and uncles (only four of them) and wedding party, but it wasn’t an every guest thing. I’m glad about the way it worked out. I got to sleep before the wedding, and I couldn’t deal with that many people after the wedding.