Post # 1
My birthday passed recently and of course I had some “maybe it’s a ring” thoughts, but I was 90% sure it would not be, especially since he’s still saving up. There’s been one time, though, on our anniversary when I really thought it was coming.
But I’m curious about how often other bees have had to hide disappointment in not receiving a ring?
Post # 3
I thought it could be Christmas/New Years last year, and then at a sort of anniversary work event trip. I didn’t really expect it per say, but day dreamed about how it would be a good time for him to do it. Then on my third, ‘this would be a great opportunity” thought, he did it!
Post # 4
For my birthday two years ago I had a major fake-out. He surprised me by bringing in my whole family from out of town for a pool party, and as I walked in and saw everyone, I looked at him and thought for a second he had planned this for the proposal! There was an awkward moment where he looked at me and said Happy Birthday! rather than getting on his knee, and my emotions were all over the place. I was thrilled that my whole family came, but there was a part that was disappointed. But there was also a part that was glad that this wasn’t the proposal because I didn’t want it to happen while I was wearing my bathing suit!
It did happen two weeks later, though, thank God! I think he knew what I went through and understood how painful waiting was becoming for me and put me out of my misery.
Post # 5
Its so hard to hide that dissapointment! We went on a cruise in Feb to celebrate 3 years together and I thought it would happen and then of course nothing. One afternoon late in the cruise we were up on deck and this girl next to us was showing of her new e-ring and telling everyone how her FI proposed on the beach that day. I had to get up and leave I was so upset and BF followed me and it turned out really good because we had a great big talk and he said that he didnt even think that I would be expecting a proposal on this holiday. He went on to tell me that he wasnt ready for that just yet but that it had definitely been on his mind.
Ever since we talk about it every now and again and I know that its getting really close because he has significant savings (he hides his bank statements lol or so he thinks!) and a ring sizer and Im pretty sure hes spoken to Dad.
But I know the feeling, fingers crossed for something soon! 🙂
Post # 6
Haha :). There were two occasions where I thought ‘OMGOSH he is gunna do it!’ and then he didn’t >.<. I don’t think I was disappointed per se, I just figured that if he was going to propose, those would have been the times I’d figure he would done it. When he did, it totally caught me off guard 🙂
Post # 7
I felt more stupid than anything lol!!! There were a couple times I thought FOR SURE, then obviously was not. I tried not to show any disappointment, but yeah, this is more common than I thought.. another reason I love these boards..
Us girls are really good at getting ourselves worked up imagining a ring box sized bulge in his pocket or overanalyzing every little thing he does to see if he’s acting “different”… oh man..
Post # 8
Birthday and anniversary, 1 year ,ExCRUCIATING !!!!! i
Post # 9
You know, there’s actually never really been a time for me that I really, seriously thought it could be “it!” There have been quite a few times that in the moment, I’ve thought, “Ooh, this would be a good time/place to do it… omg what if he is!” quickly followed by thoughts of, “You are being totally ridiculous!!” LOL!
I’m just not in a a position where I’m expecting it at any day now, so maybe that’s why. I’m 95% positive it won’t be any time before our 2 year in January, and even then, I think he’s still gonna push it out a couple months. (we aren’t getting married until 2012). Hrumph. 🙁
Post # 10
I’ve also had more of the ‘oh this would be the perfect time/place!’ moments because I knew he didn’t have a ring so how could he ask? Now that the ring has been ordered, I’m sure I’m going to have a lot more, OMG, this is it! moments. Especially since our anniversary is in two weeks and we’re celebrating it in early November at a very romantic bed and breakfast with a whirlpool and a fireplace and a big giant, soft bed, etc. Eeek!
Post # 11
I agree with littlemissmango–there have been plenty of situations where i thought it would have been perfect (trip to Europe? trip to chicago? nice date nights?etc) but I had a feeling it wasn’t the time. I feel like I will have a bit of an idea when it’s pretty close. There was one time where everyone ELSE thought he was going to do it (but I knew it wasn’t the time). He had asked a bunch of our friends to meet at a cool new bar in town, and after he and I had a romantic dinner we went to the bar where they surprised me. I come to find out later that they all thought he was proposing that night!! I wasn’t disappointed bc I didn’t even think of him proposing, but I think everyone else was!
Post # 12
oh yeah! Totally! I think that way too often….especially this past summer. Last month he planned a “big suprise” for me and refused to tell me where we were going or what we were doing. We ended up driving up north to a lakeside town, eating breakfast in a super fancy restraunt, walking along the lake and then watching a play at an outdoor theater…I thought for sure it was going to be then. Of course not.
Now he’s doing it again….I know we’re going somewhere to look at fall leaves in two weeks, and we’re going to see my parents this weekend. Half of me thinks that it would be just perfect if he aked my dad this weekend, and then proposed the next. Trying not to get my hopes up since I’m pretty sure it won’t happen. blah. Totally know how to feel.
Post # 13
You know, I haven’t yet ever thought that he was going to propose. It would be pretty hard to hide something like that from me. I feel like when he’s going to propose, I’ll know! (Besides the fact that we have joint banking and I know the money is still sitting there!)
Post # 14
He’s been telling me “soon” since February. Every weekend from about July until now has been semi-anxiety-ridden.
Post # 15
When I was waiting at least 3 or 4….unfortunately when you think its coming you think that any date night or special occasion it could happen!
Post # 16
I had it a couple of times for my birthday but the biggest one was when we won a free cruis to alaska. We had a blacony suite and everything..i thought FOR SURE he would do it there…..nope…a YEAR later he did though.