Post # 1
Here is my dilemma…. as you may know from previous posts, we have had a tough time trying to pick a wedding date. However, we just found out that our dream venue is available on the SUNDAY of Labor Day Weekend. Many of our guests are in-state, but 3-4 hours drive away, including FI’s parents. By doing a Sunday night wedding we could have a Saturday (morning) rehearsal & rehearsal brunch, and people would be able to travel home on Monday. Many of my bridesmaids are flying in from out of state, and are all young professionals who can’t take a ton of time off work. So in terms of being accommodating to guests regarding time off work, we think this date is great!
However, obviously people may have other plans on Labor Day weekend, and with so few three day weekends in the summer, that is a prime time for road trips, trips to the cabin, and family get together. We don’t anticipate this being an issue for those closest to us, but understand that some people may be bummed to give up their labor day weekend.
To keep it in perspective, if we don’t do the Sunday of Labor Day, the wedding would likely have to involve a 2 hour gap between the ceremony and reception, or it would be on a Friday. Those options also come with their own set of pros and cons.
So what do you think bees….. Sunday night wedding over Labor Day Weekend. thoughtful or thoughtless??
Post # 3
With enough notice (so that people don’t make other plans), I think that could be a great day to have your ceremony. You get the perks of a Sunday wedding (cheaper), with less of a worry about people having to work on Monday.
If you do go that way, I’d still prepare yourself for some people to make plans anyway, because that’s just how it works. 🙂
Post # 4
I had a Sunday wedding for July 4th weekend last year and the guestlist was about 30-40% out of town. NYC – TX and lots of people came. I did a traditional African wedding the Saturday before and the American wedding the Sunday of. If folks complained, I didn’t hear it. I sent out my invites about 3 months before the wedding.
Post # 5
I agree with Gemstone – with enough notice (which it appears you have more than a year), I think a Sunday Labor day wedding would be wonderful. That said, with a holiday weekend, you’re likely to get a few more declines than a non-holiday weekend. Some people will have other plans that they just can’t rearrange.
And for the record, maybe it is because I’ve only been to really fun weddings of people I like, but I have never complained about having my weekend taken up by a wedding. Hopefully your guests will feel the same!
Post # 6
There may be more declines because of a holiday weekend wedding, but it certainly isn’t rude.
I know some people like holiday weekend Sundays because some venues still charge a Sunday price rather than a Saturday price. All the venues I looked at charge Saturday prices on holiday weekend Sundays.
Post # 7
Sunday of Labor Day weekend with enough notice should be fine! Sunday weddings are best on 3 day weekends (not that I wouldn’t attend on a normal weekend) but it still gives (most) people that day off between the wedding and having to go back to work!
One of My BM’s is in a wedding this year ON LABOR DAY. Yep a Monday! I know it’s a good way to save money (especially being a holiday) but it’s SO inconvenient for those who don’t live in town!
Post # 8
I don’t think it’s inconsiderate, just make sure you give people PLENTY of warning. I would send a save the date very early so that people don’t make other plans.
Post # 9
If I could vote halfway between “frustrating” and “indifferent” that’s where I’d be.
With a generous amount of notice, I might grumble privately but would probably attend, assuming I’m close enough with the couple getting married. September isn’t a good time for those of us in education, but if I didn’t have to travel too far, I’d try to make it.
As PPs said, I would expect a slight uptick in declines due to the holiday.
Post # 10
I have been to two weddings on Labor Day Weekend, both were on the Sunday. No one batted an eye.
Post # 11
Also, if you decide to do this I would indicate on the Save the Dates that your wedding will be held on labor day weekend. Don’t just put the date, but Sunday, September 1, and if you have some where to confirm with guests that this is labor day weekend I think this would be smart. (I normally have to confirm which weekend those two holidays fall on, and I normally don’t do that until a few months before.) Also I think that the holiday weekends are times when people normally make plans without really thinking of a date in mind (I know I do!).
Post # 12
I don’t see a problem with it! i’m actually attending a wedding on Labor Day weekend this year and it’s on Friday and I really wish it was on Sunday. It would make things so much easier with vacation time and traveling since it’s states away. I think as long as you give your guests a heads up early on, it shouldn’t be a problem!
Post # 13
I don’t see this being a problem as long as you give people plenty of notice. All of this is assuming none of your family have standing Labor Day plas/traditions.
We actually originally had our wedding planned on Labor Day weekend to give my out of town family and extra travel day. We ended up changing it because it’s the weekend of the big instate rivalry football game and Fi’s family said they wouldn’t come without TVs set up.
Post # 14
I’ll let you know how mine works out – it’s on Sunday of Labor Day weekend this year! 🙂
I’ll tell you where I see the impact – higher rates for airfare, much higher rates for hotels (I was shocked), some difficulty with time off (like @BostonBaby mentions – hard for educators and some parents to take off that time of year). The extra day does seem to give an extra day for travel, but it’s a busy day of travel.
I don’t mean to sound too negative, though… overall, I think it’s going to work well, because ours is a “semi-destination” wedding and it does give people more time to both travel and and enjoy the weekend. So I say go for it!
Post # 15
I’m just not a fan of having to go to a wedding on a holiday weekend, so I said “frustrating”.
Post # 16
I’m also Sunday of Labor Day Weekend 2012 and the feedback I’ve gotten from our domestic-but-need-to-fly guests has been an overwhelming THANK YOU!!
Airfares are a tad higher than on a normal weekend so you may want to consider that— it’s impossible to predict airfares that far in advance, but if you have a number of folks flying from the same city, compare Labor Day weekend 2012 airfares to the couple of weekends before (the weekends after aren’t a really good guide as that’s traditionally a low-volume weekend for the airlines and the fares tend to really drop). For our guests, this is about $20 per person, which across the board they feel is totally worth it to not have to worry about rushing to the airport on a Friday afternoon or taking another day off work or pull the kids out of school.
We are actually getting an “average” rate for contracted block on the hotel because, even though it’s a three-day weekend, it’s not like Memorial Day or July 4 when everyone and their brother goes travelling. The impact to your hotel rates will vary quite a bit by city and also by what else is going on in your town that week, like if there’s a big convention coming in, room rates are going to go way up, no matter if it’s a 3-day weekend or not.
We did tell EVERYONE way in advance so that we could get on their calendars before they started making plans.
And truth be told…. anyone who starts whinging about “waaaah you took my three-day weekend from me…” well they really don’t belong on your guest list, in my book.