Post # 1
So my boyfriend and I have been dating for about a year and 1/2 and this whole time we have been doing somewhat of an LDR. We live an hour and 45 mins away from each other and therefore only see each other on weekends. Since the beginning of our relationship we have always seen each other every single weekend. Well in about a month he will be traveling to Ocean City, Maryland for his friends bachelor party and will be away from a Wednesday-Sunday. Which means we will not see each other at all that weekend. It otherwise wouldnt be a big deal except for the fact that the weekends are the ONLY time we see each other during the week. (We are planning on moving in together in June, so thankfully this LDR will end very soon)
Anyways…. this will mean that we will only see each other the following weekend, so will be a part for a total of 12 days. This is the first time he will be going away with friends and the fact that it is a bachelor party already makes me weary (I do trust him completely it has nothing to do with that. I just have anxiety and am anxious about the trip), but the fact that it will be the first time we will have ever gone without seeing each other for a weekend and it will be the longest i have ever gone without seeing him is already starting to make me kind of anxious and sad. I have been making plans with some friends to hang out that weekend so I can make sure to distract himself but it still isn’t the same and I know i will be thinking about it.
I just need some advice from any ladies who have gone through the same thing or even if you have not just your input on whether or not I am making a bigger deal than I am about not seeing him for so long or if it is something valid and explain 🙂 thank you ladies
Post # 3
@weddingguest101: Being apart from a loved one is hard. I will give you that. But it is not impossible. And 12 days is nothing 🙂 My Fiance and I have been apart– the longest– about 6 months. One year we only saw each other for 4 (1) week segments 3 months apart. You will survive. Hang with girlfriends and start some new hobbies– try to talk every day if you can!
Post # 4
I don’t like being away from my boyfriend for a long time, either. I went to Portland for 3 weeks and we ended up planning for him to come up on the middle weekend. But… you’ll get through it. Have fun with your girlfriends and enjoy it!
Post # 5
I think you’re overreacting. I totally understand that you rarely get to see eachother, but your LDR will be over soon and 12 days will be over faster than you think. Plus, if it’s for his bachelor party I don’t see how it could be any other time than the weekend! I think that making plans with your friends is a great way to distract yourself. Are you planning on having your bachlorette party the same weekend? That could be a great idea, too :).
Post # 6
Keep busy and plan a weekend with the girls – get all pretty and hit up all those spots you haven’t in a long time! It’s only 12 days & I bet they will fly. Just keep in mind that you two will be with each other every day come June.. that should pass the time even quicker.
Post # 7
@love108: I know a lot of couples do it all the time. It is just the fact that it is something new for us. I think the thing I am most worried about is communication during that time. If we can text and talk during that time that he will be away that will be fine. (I don’t mean he needs to be glued to his phone but I would like him to once in a while check in with me)
Post # 8
I know it’s hard to be apart and ideally we wouldn’t be….I’ve spent weeks away from Mr. 99, and I missed him, but sometime’s a girl has got to take care of business!
Post # 9
- Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World
The longest Fiance and I have been apart is 9 months (deployment). It sucks but you get over it. He is gone for a week right now for work, so…
You will be fine!
Post # 10
Thank you ladies! I feel a lot better. I do realize that it won’t be such a big deal and seeing your responses make me feel better! Hopefully those 12 days will go by faster 🙂
Post # 11
I think you’re overreacting a bit. Fiance and I were in a LDR for years – only seeing each other a couple of times a year! 12 days really isn’t that long. It might suck but it is his friend’s bachelor party. I do hate when I have to travel for work and be away from Fiance for a week or more, but I deal with it and get through.
If you trust him, why are you anxious about the trip?
Post # 12
@WannaBeeMrsB: It is for his friends bachelor party not his. I agree that distracting myself will make it better and I plan on having a nice girls weekend that weekend.
Post # 13
You’re overreacting, but that’s okay.
Let him enjoy his trip, and I think you’ll find it easier to preoccupy yourself than you think.
I was super nervous when my husband deployed for the first time… I had just moved 1,200 miles, leaving all of my friends and family in another state. I was in Oklahoma and I don’t know anybody and at the time I didn’t know where anything was. He was home barely a week and a half before he deployed afer I moved in.
It seems overwhelming because it is so new. It’s only 12 days (Then again the “only 12 days” is something I look forward to after my husband has been gone, so 12 days is nothing to me!) and if you just keep yourself occupied, go out and have fun with friends, it’ll go by faster than you think.
You guys can still talk, I’m sure he’ll call you once or twice throughout the day, and if not you can call each other to say goodnight and talk about the day.
Just take a breath. You’ll be fine.
Post # 14
@adoc86: I agree, I will get through it. I am just anxious because of my anxiety issues it is something I know has nothing to do with him but me.
Post # 15
@weddingguest101: Ohhh gottcha! Sorry! Well I’m glad that you’re planning a girls weekend 🙂 That should be fun
Post # 16
Thank you! Hearing your stories about having to be months even years away from your signifcant others really puts in perspective how little 12 days really is and how I shouldn’t be so upset. Thank you for your response 🙂