Post # 1
Someone I know did this, and it has caused a debate on whether this was a good parenting choice or not.
I was wondering what the Bees think!
Factors to consider:
- The mom in question lives in the U.S. and was invited for a 10-day luxury cruise to Europe by her parents.
- She and her husband/father of the baby left the child with a trusted sitter at home for 10 days here in the states and enjoyed their vacation without the baby.
- This was not a once in a lifetime trip for the mom, or anything like that. She is a seasoned traveler and has been all over the world in her years prior to becoming a mom.
So what would you have done in this situation? Pack your bags, have a good time and not worry? Or would you have been concerned that a 10-day separation would be too traumatic for a child almost two years old? Would you be worried about being so far from the child in case of an emergency?
Post # 3
@BelliniChic: Seeing how I’ve been the nanny that a two year old child was left with while his parents took a much needed break, I honestly don’t see a problem. As long as the parents have a trusted, established caregiver in place to hang with the tiny person, it will be as much a vacation for the toddler as the parents…they get sick of the same old thing too sometimes!
Post # 4
I definitely remember (vaguely) being left with Grandma while my parents toured Switzerland. I would have been around 4. What’s the problem?
Post # 5
Emergencies can happen at any time. I mean if you’re really that worried about an emergency taking place you could never travel once you have kids- when would you decide you can travel again? Or if you don’t have kids and there is an emergency with your parents. I guess what I’m trying to say is that I don’t think people should worry about an emergency because then they would never travel.
I don’t think a 10 day separation is traumatic at all. I remember nothing from that age so I doubt many others will. As long as they are with a good trusted sitter (I would go with my parents) I don’t see a problem with this at all.
Post # 6
DH and I will be away from DD for 9 days for our honeymoon in 3 weeks. She will be staying with his parents who have 2 older (17&24) grandchildren that live with them. As well as two older sisters who live in the same 3500 person town. I literally am giddy with excitement, not only to spend time with hubby on our honeymoon, but also to get a nice break from my wonderfully amazing, teething, beginning terrible twos, independent little angel. 🙂 I have absolutely no qualms with doing this and have no problem with other parents taking breaks as well. I don’t believe any long-term trauma will come from this and she will have just as much fun being spoiled rotten by her grandparents, as I will have with drinking rum and cokes and playing the slot machines!
Post # 7
At that age I really don’t see the problem. The child will never remember, and as long as they are in good hands, I’d definitely go for it. Parents are only human, sometimes they need a little child-free time to themselves!
Post # 8
if its a truster sitter then i dont see the problem, its not like the child is being left alone with a handful of oreos and fingers crossed they’re safe
i dont see that its going to traumatise the kid at all
Post # 9
I wouldn’t do it. I wouldn’t want to be so far away that it would probably take 2 days to get back in case of an emergency. Plus, I am a worrier and I wouldn’t be able to really relax if I were so far away from my baby. I did a lot of traveling before having my baby and I’m happy I did, and I don’t feel the urge to travel without her. I probably would be more likely to do so if she were older, like school-age.
Post # 10
This is not a big deal at all to me. A trusted sitter (not the 15 year old down the street) is very capable of watching a toddler for 10 days and the kid is not going to be traumatized.
Post # 11
I think it depends. I personally would not leave my toddler for that long, but that’s because there’s really no one, including family, I trust for that long of a period. If I was in the same country, it would be better, but now if the child has an emergency, I have to manage to fly overseas back home in a timely manner.
Post # 12
When I read the title of the post, I thought this was going to be about backpacking across Europe for 6 months or something. But 10 days? No problem, provided there was a grandparent or trusted sitter available and willing to care for my child. Especially in this day and age, the parents can call or skype back quite easily. I remember my parents did this several times when I was growing up. In the long run, I think taking these breaks regularly is probably beneficial for all involved.
Post # 13
I don’t have any children but I do not think there is a problem with this at all.
Post # 14
@BelliniChic: Was it a kids-free cruise? It might just be my family, but my parets love my unborn baby way more than they love me! (Which is okay, because I understand it–s/he is perfect in every way–how could they NOT?) They would want to take the fetus on vacation before they would take DH and I!
But as long as they have a great, trusted, reliable sitter, why not?
Post # 15
I worry about leaving my dogs for a vacation….I can’t imagine leaving my kid. I’m a worrier though!
Post # 16
@BelliniChic: Assuming the child is healthy, I don’t see a problem. My parents left me with my grandparents around that age for a 2 week trip to Europe because my dad won some contest. When they got back I apparently had forgotten who they were! I hid behind my grandmother for an hour! Then I suddenly remembered them and ran over to hug them. Sometimes I still bring it up when dad doesn’t answer my calls. 😛