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Hi there! I have created this post just out of pure curiosity! I read on a blog that 80% of women said that they were disappointed with their marriage proposal. I am just curious as to what you ladies feel. Please feel free to leave comments or reasons to why you feel this way.
I was disapointed and I feel bad about saying this. My husband has never been creative in any way (like he always cooks the same thing and wears the same clothes) I know that some he tought about something else because he told me but he was afraid I would think that was cheesy. I won't go into detail just for the sake of not boring you all but he proposed after I had stitches removed from my wisdom tooth surgery I mean can you get more romantic than that? I love him with all my heart and sould regardless of his lack of creative talents :p
I wouldn't say mine was a disappointment, but it wasn't a "dream come true" either. It was just a really casual, spur-of-the-moment proposal in our living room. It was very "us" but sometimes I wish my FI had put a *little* more thought into it.
I was so happy- it was low key but still had importance. And I was surprised!
It wasn't a dream come true but it was private and simple and exactly what I asked for! I would have been so upset if he did it in a public place so for me a simple and "boring" proposal was just perfect! :) I could never be disappointed in my proposal because it was the man of my dreams asking me to spend the rest of my life with him. How could that ever make me upset?
Mine was definitely a dream come true. DH whisked me off to a resort overlooking the ocean for Valentine's Day. After we checked in, we enjoyed glasses of wine and took a walk along the cliffs overlooking the ocean. He proposed on this walk, and we were able to enjoy a romantic weekend celebrating our engagement. It was perfect for us and what I've always dreamed of!
However, I do have a few friends who were pretty disappointed by their proposals. One thing I try to remind them is that even if it wasn't their perfect vision, their FH/DH did the best he could and wanted to convey his love and commitment to them in his own way.
It was casual, natural, and perfect. We were out for walk and he just turned to me and said, "Marry me." I didn't need a big production made out of it for it to be special; just hearing him say those words made my heart leap, and the only thing that's been able to surpass that moment since was our wedding!
No ring, no fuss, no problem. IMO you've gotta love 'em for who they are and not put too much pressure on Mr. Predictable to become Mr. Outstanding Creativity or Mr. Ultimate Romance. I wanted to be proposed to by the guy I planned to marry, not his Hollywood stunt double.
I'm one of those people who doesn't understand what there is to be disappointed about. Did he ask you? Do you want to marry him? Did you get a ring that you liked? Ok, cool.
I don't get it.
Ours was very low key and also very expected as we had picked up my ring earlier in the evening. I can't pretend that I understand couples where she knows that he has the ring and he knows that she knows but he makes her wait then arranges some big "surprise" production weeks or months down the line. I mean, do you want to be engaged or don't you!?
I guess I can understand being disappointed if he like THREW the ring at me or said something hurtful, but I doubt this is happening in 80% of cases!
Mine was nice, but nothing over the top, and certainly not "a dream come true." I feel bad calling it a disappointment, though. I think there's something between dream come true and disappointment, and I think that's where my proposal fell.
The proposal didn't go the way he planned (the way he planned would be amazing, but the way he did it was completely him) and he had to change it up but it was still amazing and will be a story to tell some day. :)
@CarolinaCola: Agreed, is there a middle ground option?
My FI put a lot of thought into WHERE he proposed and the ring itself but not really the words to say. He isn't a mushy mushy type of guy anyway so I didn't really expect as much.
It was an awesome proposal in Yosemite which means a lot to both of us but the words eh not so poetic. ;)
Right before he proposed....can't be that bad right?
I wouldn't have mine any other way. It was a total surprise at a restaurant on the rooftop of this resort that overlooks the city skyline. He arranged it with the restaurant to reserve the entire outside patio just for the proposal. He was so nervous that I still laugh when I think about it (in a good way). After I said yes, he arranged for fireworks to go off! Then when we went inside for dinner, he arranged for my friends/family to be there to join us! Best day ever, well at least until the wedding. =)
How could a proposal be a dissapointment, if you get engaged you should be thrilled no matter how he asked!
Definitely perfect and blissful. Also definitely private, and at home.
I was just back from a stressful course, we had been apart a month. We had always spoken of forever, but never of marriage. This was the first time we actually spoke of it... and then he proposed (he had it planned)!
Wonderful, because I never had to be "waiting", knowing it was coming; and it was such a special moment... we couldn't have captured that again I don't think, if he had waited to do it elsewhere.
@Juliepants: I am thrilled to be getting married. I love FI. I love planning our wedding. I love being excited for our life together.
However, I did wait my whole life for a proposal. It is supposed to be one of the best moments of my life, and it only happens once. I didn't need something extravagant, just a great moment for the two of us. So when my FI came to my house and said (word for word), "The ring's in the car," yes, it was a little disappointing.
That being said, I don't hold a grudge (though it was hard at first when people asked how he proposed and I didn't have a story at all) and we've moved on. I didn't ask for a "better" or "different" proposal. I know what's important is what comes after. But yes, it was still not the proposal I wished for.
Our proposal did not go off without a hitch. But it was perfect, and a dream come true. My husband put his heart into it, and I couldn't ask for anything more. I love him so much.
Mine was definitely a complete surprise and a dream come true. FI had me believing that we were going ring shopping together on a Monday. Well, the Friday before was my birthday and we decided to spend the day in Key Largo and basically just relax and have a little fun. We ended up parasailing during the day, and then he told me he had something planned for later on. It was a sunset charter sailboat. It was so beautiful out, and we ended up being the only ones on the boat by luck. FI asked me if I wanted to go sit out on the end of the boat while the sun was just beginning to set. The captain brought us champagne just as the sun was setting, and then FI asked "how mad would you be if we didn't go ring shopping?". Me, thinking that everything was already planned out, was just thinking what in the hell came up with work now.... Well he said a few words about how he loves me and wants to spend the rest of his life with me, and he started fiddling in his pocket only to pull out a ring box...
It really was perfect.
dream come true.
seriously, look at my face:
hahhaa. I smile so big and stupid every time I look at this.
I was very happy. He proposed at my favorite place ever (same place where we will be getting married). I was so happy, I cried and just kept saying "Are you serious"
Absolutely loved mine! He had my family in on the secret and I was completely surprised. He made a sign out of twinkle lights and surprised me on the pier at our favorite beach. It's been almost a month. He's very much a romantic. He even filmed the whole planning/trial process and the proposal, we made an iMovie out of it :) we are sappy like that. However, if he would've asked me in a different way I think I'd still be just as happy. I'm marrying my best friend! 
I wouldnt say it was my dream proposal, but I cant say I was disappointed either.
Well, I guess I'm one of those girls that sees being engaged in general as a dream come true... heck, FI proposed with a joke ring and I hardly noticed, I was focused on the words "Will you marry me?" I can't remember if he gave a speech. I don't care. The fact that he wants to marry me is seriously perfect enough.
It was amazing.
We brought our daughter sliding.. when we reached the bottom of the hill I went to grab the sleigh so when I turned around I seen "Will U Marry Me?" written in the snow with him on one knee and my LO next to him. :)
He also got my photographer friend to capture the whole thing!!
we got engaged without a ring... i'm still waiting for it to arrive :) but the fact that we are going to get married and that he loves me with all his heart is what matters the most to me.
@Juliepants: I agree. I had no requirements or expectations. I just wanted him to ask so we could make this official!
I don't know what he could have done to make me disappointed!
Neither. It was nice, but not amazing. (He had talked it up in advance like it was going to be awesome...maybe he just has a different idea of amazing than I do!) I mean, he totally surprised me and I was super happy, and it really was just how I would have wanted it, but it's not like we jetted off to Hawaii or anything! lol!
Mine did not go according to his plan (my unexpected business trip interfered); however, it turned out to be even more perfect than he had originally planned!
It was a dream come true! There wasn't anything fancy & even no ring. My husband proposed to me in my mothers drive way (as I still lived with her at the time) as he was dropping me off after Church. We got married in that same Church on December 11th, 2010 & I find it sweet enough that he asked me to spend the rest of my life with him! Its magical enough all on it own!
Ours was fine, it was on valentines and his SIL decided to drop by (she had never ever dropped by before, and on valentines of all days) and stayed for like two hours so that really through his plan, if he had one, for a loop. By the time she left I was tired and grumpy from working all day. He asked me in the living room and was really sweet about it, but it just seemed so badly timed that I was kind of like ,oh ok can i go to bed now (obviously I didn't say that but thats kind of what i thought). There was no ring because I had told him i wanted to pick it out. I don't know, I wasn't disappointed it but I was really hoping for something a bit more thought out, wasn't on valentines, and not so late that I was tired and grumpy. oh well.
dream come true :) he proposed by the pandas at the zoo but he was so nervous lol
Neither. I'm with others saying there is a middle ground. Was I disappointed? Of course not! But it wasn't a "dream come true" kind of thing either. I'm not a "happily ever after/dream come true" kind of gal anyways. I love him. He loves me. We're getting married. (And okay, I totally just thought of the Barney theme song...)
@MissHockey: Hey fellow Calgary Flames Fan!!! Weoow!
And to add to this thread, my proposal was perfect. He did it in a way that was uniquely 'us' and I wouldn't have asked for anything better
I am absolutely loving all of these precious stories. The photos are priceless! I hope my SO has a photographer on hand to catch that special moment!!!
He tried very hard to make it special and something I would want, but....it was honestly a little too cliche for my taste. In front of the castle at Disneyland, lol. And I'm not even a big Disney fan or anything like that. It just seems like the sort of things guys would be like, "oh, yea, girls would love that!". Anyway, he surprised me with the after party, which was cool.
I probably would have prefered he do it at the beach or in a National park or even something quirkly like while driving.I understand his need for a "grand gesture" it just really wasn't "my" grand gesture as much as his, but that's okay. It really was his moment.
I am sadly one of the ones that was dissapointed. I'm NOT a high maintenance girl, but everything in my life is about effort. Do something right, do something to the best of your ability. So when talk of our engagement started flowing I told my guy that it was all about the effort. I didn't care about bling or fireworks, but I asked for him to think about what I wanted and what I loved. I also put the stipulation that I want to have clothes on and would like it to be memorable.
I had hoped he would propose at a secluded camp we go to every year, but he leaked it to a friend who leaked it to me, then she told him I knew.. and then he changed his mind so he could surprise me (how about not telling my friends who are gossipy?). Then we planned a romantic trip to montreal together and I had hoped he would propose there, so I hinted, and hinted.
Two days before we left (and I was sort of secretly SOOOOO looking forward to a romantic night walk in montreal, snow falling around us and him on one knee), I had just gotten off an exhausting double shift and was in the shower at 10pm at night when I heard him stomping around our house.
I got out, wrapped in a towel and he called me downstairs. Our living room is technically our dog room, we NEVER sit in it for hairy barfy doggy reasons. he was sitting on our dog couch with about 7 tealights lit. He said, "we need to talk" in a serious voice.
I died a little inside, and said, "youre eithor breaking up with me or proposing, eithor way I need clothes on. " I went upstairs and got dressed, furious knowing I couldnt demand him to put effort into it or wait, but man... he knew how important it was to me.
I went back downstairs and he started off with.. "I dont know if i can do this anymore..." still in a serious voice. He finally got down and proposed, and I said yes of course, but I was sooo dissapointed. And then when he put the ring on my finger he had the gall to say, "I know its not what you wanted but I got it anyways." (we had looked at rings together and the only things I wanted was a diamond set in a low setting so it wouldnt catch on things and a square diamond).... it was the tallest ring he could find and round. Still beautiful, but again.. not thoughtful to say that. le sigh.
If there are guys out there that haven't proposed yet... please put effort into the event. This will be one of the most memorable moments a girl will have, make it good, show her how much you love her.
A surprise vacation with a proposal while horseback riding on the warm sunny beach. Need I say more? ;)
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