Post # 1
HI Fellow Bees-
Im new here and am in the beginning stages of planning my wedding. My fiance and I are young and don’t have a lot of money and are getting married in Chicago (one of the most expensive cities to get married in), so I’m trying to find ways to cut back but still have a great evening for us and our guests. We found an incredible hotel in the suburbs near the airport that managed to be in our price range so things that I thought we were going to have to cut out like open bar and plated dinner we are now able to afford with the packages they offer. My realy question here is what things can I skip. Specifically , do I really NEED to do wedding favors? No one cares about them and they’re just going to get thrown out, but is it rude not to have them? I was looking for ideas to make myself and the one I like the best is this one (my colors are navy and green so am looking for a green favor):
So 1. do i HAVE to do wedding favors? and 2. what are some other things I can cut back on without being tacky
Thank you! 🙂
Post # 3
I think a decent favor is a nice bonus. But that’s it. They are not a requirement by any means, so if you don’t want them, then don’t have them! Really, I don’t think anyone will even notice or think about it.
Post # 4
@futuremrsrossol: I am not planning on having wedding favors. I am thinking about welcome bags for hotel guests, nothing major, just something nice for traveling in from out of town. However, I am keeping these secret because I am not sure if even these are necessary. Anywho, favors at the wedding, unless you are doing a candy bar for dessert, I don’t think they are necessary. I have spent way too many hours of my life assisting others in putting them together and then hauling most of them back because no one noticed or cared.
Post # 5
You’re feeding them and proving booze. I’m sure they’ll live without favors.
Post # 6
I dont think I will have any. I feel like they are such a waste unless you are investing in something useful to the guest. My friend frankly told me that if she could do her wedding again she wouldnt bother with them
Post # 7
@futuremrsrossol: I have never been to a wedding that had favors. It honestly would feel like a little kids birthday party if I did. It’s an odd phenomenon that I do not understand. You fed the people a nice meal and dessert, what more do they need? I mean I guess it’s a nice thing to do if you want to, I don’t think it’s required though.
Post # 8
@futuremrsrossol: Favors are definitely not needed. Many get left behind or thrown away. Save your $.
Post # 9
I don’t think people really care so much about favours..I certinaly don’t. I think if they are not a edible item then most are thrown out or become dust collectors in peoples homes!
Post # 10
I didn’t vote because I think it comes in the middle…some people will be looking for them, but it doesn’t really matter. You’re paying for their meal and night out. I like the idea of something people can use at the wedding that is cheap…like sparklers for great exit photos, or kissing bells if you prefer that sound over people using spoons on glasses.
Post # 11
@futuremrsrossol: I’m not doing favors AND my colors are navy and green. Twins.
Post # 12
Thank you ladies, these are all my thoughts too. We have many people traveling in so unless they’re TSA approved or edible on the spot, all those flying in won’t take them, and really I don’t want another couple’s monogram on things in my house so why would I give that to someone else? I think a cute candle or something edible is really the only way to go, if I do them at all. The thought of spending between $2-4/person on something that will be left behind or thrown out just seems wrong.
Post # 13
@esk716: omg! that’s too funny, how far along are you in the planning and when is your wedding?? I’m going to PM you my pinterest so maybe we can help each other with some ideas 🙂
Post # 14
Are you having a photobooth? I kind of feel like a photobooth with printed pictures is a great favor. We’re doing cookies.
Post # 15
I was on the fence about favors too – to assuage my guilt, I went old-school and just got buttermints and put them on the table. I figured people would like each other to have fresher breath anyway.
Post # 16
@bapbap: We are considering doing a photobooth. I didn’t even think about the photos being a favor. Great idea!