Post # 1
I’ll just go ahead and tell you guys that I’m 20, almost 21. I love my FF, and I never really thought about our age difference until it started getting brought up a LOT when we started talking engagement.
“Oh, well, that makes sense since he’s older…” or, “Well he’s going to want to have children soon, right?”
And obviously this makes me a little insecure. Do we look like we don’t belong together? How different in age do we look, to you all?
Maybe I shouldn’t worry, but it’s becoming a thing.
Post # 3
I would guess that your FH is about 25. I don’t think the age difference matters though.
Post # 4
I don’t notice any age difference, but then it’s hard to judge by a picture.
If people bring up your age difference, turn it around onto them. Ask them why it matters so much to them.
Post # 5
I wouldnt really think that you two had a big age difference judging from the photo.
Post # 6
You guys look about the same age (within 4-5 years of each other). I personally don’t see the problem with age differences, it’s whatever works for that couple.
Post # 7
I don’t think he looks much older at all. You look older than 20 (don’t take that in a bad way!) I’m 27 going on 28 and look 18. I get laughed at when I buy cigs because they think i’m using a fake id. lol. And even if he is much older, who cares!! Age is just a number.
Post # 8
I think you guys look the same age!
Post # 9
I don’t judge a big age difference in the photo. You two are cute!
I get what you mean though. I’m the same age as you, and my FI is 28, turning 29 in a couple months. We’ve gotten some of the same comments, but not much. People see that we’re a good match, and that’s that. The age doesn’t matter.
Post # 10
I would guess he is around 26-27. If he is around that age, I don’t think it’s that big of an age difference. Regardless, I think that you two being on the same page about when to have children, finances, etc is the most important thing.
There is only a two year age difference between my FI and I, so it doesn’t really apply to us. But my friend married someone who is 14 years older than her (she’s 22 and he’s 36). Turns out he really was ready to have children. She is not. She is actually considering having a child to please him. I personally wouldn’t do that, but that’s her decision. So an age difference can matter in a relationship, but if you communicate about it and work through things, it can fine.
Post # 11
I agree with PPs that he doesn’t look that much older. Maybe 5 years at the most. But it doesn’t matter! My grandparents & FI’s parents both have about 10-year gaps & it’s not a big deal 🙂
Post # 12
@memleyxx: I don’t see a huge age difference from your picture. There’s 10 years between my Mr and I and we act the same
Post # 13
I would guess that he is about 30 – 32.
It’s really between the 2 of you to decide if age difference matters.
Post # 14
@memleyxx: I agree with everyone above. I don’t see a huge age difference between you two. But then again at one point I “talked” to a guy who was about 12 yrs older than myself (yes i was older than 18). Age isn’t a huge deal, as long as you want the same things in life then it shouldnt matter =)
Post # 15
He has a baby face, don’t worry about it! I’d say he looks about 25.
Post # 16
From the picture, I don’t think that you guys look far apart at all! My FI and I are 7 years apart (I’m 23 and he is 30), so I am definitely of the opinion that it doesn’t matter! Women are more mature than men for their age anyway haha, or so I’m told. Embrace it…we have a good laugh when things happen like a song comes on the radio and he makes a comment about remembering listening to it in his dorm room over and over and I tell him I remember listening to it at middle school sleepovers!