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You know how for some people tact seems to fly out the window sometimes? What's the most insulting, bizarre, just plain weird comment you've gotten? The kind the totally insulted you at first but is now (hopefully!) mildly amusing. ^_^
Mine's a doozy--I'd just gotten engaged that weekend, at work on Monday I was really happy, of course, and showed 2 of my close work friends my ring and they were asking me questions about the proposal, setting the date, etc. A new coworker (brand new, like, she'd been there a week) came up to see "what all the excitement was about."
I said, Oh, I got engaged this weekend. She asked to see the ring, then asked when we were getting married. "About 2 years from now, when he's done with med school," says I.
"Oh. Well, that's good, by then you'll totally be ready for a ring upgrade!"
Our jaws dropped. Srsly. I managed to say something along the lines of, "Oh, I don't think so, I'm really very happy with my ring" but I was literally in shock (it's a very very nice ring, and who says stuff like that regardless of what the ring looks like?!). I laugh about it now, and it's actually become a bit of a department joke now. But holy cow, was I insulted! Man. I shake my head. When is it ever ok to flat out tell someone to upgrade their ring?
Btw, she was fired less than a year later for her bad attitude. 
So tactless! The worst I've encountered really isn't that bad at all -- just cynics who try to figure out why I'm getting married...and I just let those comments roll off my back!
Ouch! The nerve. My worst was my dad's boss saying he wouldn't come to the wedding b/c we were a mixed couple - in fact, didnt even want to receive an invitation. Other than that, we haven't gotten any nasty comments.
I think my reaction just reading it was probably close to your reaction hearing it! LOL That is RUDE! No wonder she was fired! haha
I can't remember anybody saying anything rude/mean but I may have just ignored it. I've had a lot of comments about my ring being "untraditional" (it's a sapphire, with itty bitty diamonds - I LOVE IT! It's so ME!) but most people just say it's "interesting", or different, if they don't like it.
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I got a couple people at work who said to me point blank "I'm invited right?". uuhh awkward. We weren't really that good of friends.
Wow! That's just nut-baggery. Clearly, the comment had nothing to do with you, your engagement or your ring, but more to do with your former co-worker's personality disorder. Good for you for handling it with grace.
I never handle these things gracefully...
Most comments are something along the lines of:
"Don't do it, marriage sucks!"
or
"I've been married three times, don't do it!"
To which I, gracelessly, reply that it only sucks being married to them.
Further, people with the infamous "I'm invited right?"
get the answer
"Nope!"
You want to casually invite yourself? I casually turn you down...ah well. I was never the most polite girl anyways!
Ummmm...mightysapphire! I think you could me my best friend...where do you live? I think I we need to meet for drinks!
"FINALLY!"
We got that comment from a few people. We had been dating for 7.5 years when we got engaged. I just laughed and said, yep, finally, you're right!
My stepfather's mother said that if we did too much "nontraditional" stuff, the wedding would look "cheap and chintzy." This was in response to a conversation I was having with my mother about walking down the aisle to something other than "Here comes the bride."
His aunt told me "wow, what a huge ring...do you think he should of spent all that money on you?"
Love the comments MightySapphire! Definitely want I would say. I really can't understand how people think its ok to say those rude things. And what really kills me is that it comes from people I'm not really even close too! Ridiculous! The rudest ones we have received are from ppl asking him "why do you want to do that again?" (its his 2nd marriage) Luckily, my FI is quick-witted and usually responds along the lines of "i found the right one this time, why wouldn't i do it?" that's why i love him :-)
ooh tallgall, that's just mean! I hope you told her you were worth twice as much!
I haven't gotten any specific comments but I have had a couple of people attempt to guess my carat size. I even had one friend low-ball it! I was shocked. Diamonds are the opposite of guessing someone's age - go higher than you think! Haha.
I don't know if this is the "worst" comment, but it was a awkward moment.....
FI & I saw his parents for the first time after the engagement and when I walked in the door my FMIL greeted me, but never asked to see my ring...so an hour or more passed, and she still hadn't asked. I thought it was weird to say "do you want to see it?" so i said nothing. Finally FI said "mom don't you want to see the ring?" and she said, "well there hasn't been an offer and I've been patiently waiting." AWKWARD and weird!! 
"You're getting married? What on earth would you do THAT? They stop being nice to you after you're married!"
and
"We call it your engagment now, but I'm sure we'll start calling it an en-GAG-ment soon enough, with as much as you're going to talk about it."
Wow...I'm so sorry you've had to listen to this silliness! I guess I am lucky that I haven't really had any negative comments. Not to my face at least! 
She apologized later but a co-worker said when she heard I was getting married,
"Oooh, again?" And while ya, I'm an encore bride, I'm not exactly Liz Taylor! And SO what if I was?
Since that I say, "Yep, gonna keep on trying till I get this marriage thing right!"
Instead of what I'd really like to say, which is more like "No your right, what am I thinking being in love Again. I should just give up and spend my next 50yrs as a cynical, egocentric, numb hag?"
No one has said anything weird to me about my engagement-but when my twins sister was engaged(4 years ago) so many people asked if I was jealous. I couldn't believe it and the first two times my mouth dropped to the floor. I was disappointed that a few of our good friends even asked me if i was. I was like "are you kidding?" and then it happend again when my younger sister got married. Why would I be jealous of a marriage-it's not like I was inlove with their husbands! LOL! I couldn't imagine having that kind of pea-brain.
I haven't heard anything too horrible... maybe just ill-thought out.
One comment I've heard was, "So you guys must be thinking about popping out the babies right away, right?" 
The other that I've heard alot is "Don't do it. It will suck the life out of you, the money out of your wallet and leave you miserable." I resist the urge to say, "No, I'll be happy. You are the one who is miserable." Instead I usually mumble something about life being interesting and complicated.
@Flamingred - People can be so awkward!!
When my sister was getting married everyone kept asking us when we were going to get engaged and would say "you're next!" My grandma kept pointing at my ring finger and raising her hands. Ummm awkward!
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@Flamingred--people are so weird about that! My twin sister was asked that too, actually. But only by one person who is...not very "with it" concerning tact and manners.
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When I told one friend that I got engaged, she said congratulations, and then in the same breath she said, "Don't worry, I'll make sure to let you know if you start talking too much about the wedding."
The other thing I heard constantly was "It's about time" after I told people. Nothing else. It made me feel like there's no reason for people to be excited about an engagement when the couple has been together for so long. But the people who really matter were (and are) excited, and I'm excited, and that's all that matters.
OH I forgot one...the Mr. and I have lived together for a few years. A friend of mine told her mother that we got engaged, and her mother said "Well they're doing it a little backwards, don't you think?"
Not terribly rude, but it's kinda awkward when the people we work with ask my Fi if they can go to his bachelor's party. A) he's not even having one and B) our co-workers' average age is 55. It's a little gross.
Where do these people get off with all their comments?!
When I called my step-grandmother (who doesn't have much tact to begin with) to tell her we got engaged, her first reaction was "Are you sure about this?" Um, YES, I'm sure or I wouldn't have said YES! Finally, at the end of our conversation, she did say congrats.
And this is the exchange that took place between me and one of my male co-workers that I don't particularly care for (who also happens to be divorced):
Him: hey, heard you got engaged.
Me: Yup.
Him: Sucker.
Me: Who, me or my fi?
Him: Both of you.
Me: Weren't you married at one point?
Him: Uh, yeah.
Me: Yeah, well you're just jaded.
And I walked away.
Luckily, the rest of our family and friends have all been very happy for us and haven't made any snide comments (that I know of).
I started a thread about a couple that was extremely rude about our engagement to me. Basically they tried to make me feel like they thought my FI was making a huge mistake by marrying me. I say 'tried' because I knew they were a couple of jerks and I was only nice to them because I am a mature adult. You can read it here if you like. um congrats
On the flip side, the cutest comment we heard was when we called his Grandma to tell her.
FI: I've asked K to marry me
Grandma: Oh that's lovely...What did she say?
@aloweha: that's too cute about his Grandma! I *love* grandparents and their cute comments!
Ah... my Aunt's been the worst thus far. I called her the day I got engaged and her response was, "This soon?" We had been dating for 3 years and a month at that point. She also said it seemed like I was a little young to be getting married (I'm 23, I'll be getting married when I'm 25) and didn't really congratulate me.
When I saw her in person, I showed her the ring, and she said, "Oh, how simple." Yes, the ring is not over-the-top, it's a brilliant cut solitaire in a six prong setting. My response was, "It's classic... I'll still love it in 50 years."
She's ridiculous but the rest of my family has been so excited about everything. I wish she would have been excited for me, but I'm not upset about it. Hopefully she can find a way to behave herself by the time of our wedding. 
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My worst comment was (sadly) not at all unexpected..
I was having a phone conversation with my BFF about my wedding plans when her husband yelled loudly into the phone, "YOU DON'T HAVE TO DO IT! MARRIAGE ISN'T FOR EVERYONE!"
Then he continued, almost to himself: "I wish someone had told me that before *I* got married."
My BFF didn't even respond.
My fiance and I had been dating for 5 1/2 years and living together for 3 years before he popped the question last summer. After the proposal, we didn't hear anything from FMIL until about three weeks later when she managed to pull together this:
"This is a big surprise, but I'm happy for both of you. I bet you like your ring."
Not the worst thing someone could say, but a little weird I thought. Little did I know there was going to be plenty more questionable comments where that came from.
My friend at work was chitchatting with my boss about how wedding costs add up so quickly and pointed out, as an example, that I have will have to pay for everyone's food at my wedding. My boss invited herself by replying:
"I don't care, I'm going even if I have to bring my own lunch!"
Haha! I was annoyed at first, but I guess it's kind of flattering. My mom's advice was to take her up on her offer.
:)
After being together for 6 1/2 years, we heard a lot of "finally" and "about time," but that was about as awkward as it got. When my aunt was engaged a few years ago, she and her FI came to Thanksgiving dinner, where my great-grandmother (who is in her mid-80s) commented that they were only there to "show off." Luckily, my aunt wasn't close enough to hear her. I didn't know what to say, so I think I mumbled something about them just being excited (my aunt was in her early 30's and was getting a bit impatient). She mumbled a bit more about them not being there for family/Thanksgiving or something while I sat there and laughed! She sure is getting outspoken...but, after all, whose going to stop her (especially now when she's close to 90)?!
SpinningJenny - that's rude. I guess she has issues since she got fired. It shows.
MightySapphire - I love your comments!! Every time someone asked me that (especially at work), I just smile back and try to change the subject. In retrospect I would have love to tell them your response!
My hubby and I dated for 7 years before getting engaged so it was a lot of "it's about time" & "finally", which was ok. I only got offended when someone said "Oh good, you know you shouldn't be too picky. You're not getting any younger and you should start having kids now". I no longer consider that person a friend since he insulted both my hubby and me.
I didn't hear this first hand, but I'm told that both my younger sister and cousin both asked if I was pregnant when they heard I was engaged. I had been with my FI for almost 2 years at that point. I'm still not entirely sure why they assumed I had to have an ulterior motive!
When I called my parents to tell them my mom's reply was. Well it is really hard to be happy for you when we just don't know who you are anymore. Thanks mom love you too...
Now it is what-ever and funny but then it sucked. But it was nice to have everyone else around us happy..
I love hearing everyone elses stories. I have a few "I'm Invited right" moments I really hate those moments.....
We've heard a lot of "Finallys" and "It's about damn time." Shortly before we got engaged one of my recently-married friends said "I'd be happy to tell him he has to start recognizing everything you do for him if it ever comes to that!" Nothing unexpected, and most of them made me laugh. We've been together for almost 7 years.
I told one of my aunts that he'd decided over the summer how he wanted to propose and had written me a card then. It'd been in our apartment for months and I had no idea. She replied "Oh, and have you known you wanted to marry him for that long?" She had no idea we've been dating for so long, and I guess must have thought this was a flash in the pan. (Which is why we'd lived together for 2 years?) Again, I thought it was hillarious. My grandmother was heard laughing in the background too.
@ doctorgirl: I have no idea WHAT I would do if someone said that!! My face litterally looked like when I read that!! Maybe a casual "Heck no, we're barren!" Or something to get them to back off the baby talk!!
And why do people automatically go to babies when they hear marriage?? You gotta be preggers or trying to get preggers, or trying to adopt, or something...people think that marriage is a) necessary to have babies (DUH no it's not) and b) that babies become a requirement after you're married. What is WITH that??
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Right after our engagement, my future father-in-law informed my FI that he would not be suckered out of any money to help pay for our wedding. Needless to say, he's not on my favorite list right now! :-)
Okay, so this comment has to do the the wedding instead of the engagement, but I still thought it was "snarky enough" to post with all the weird comments. And it's from my mother's wedding 40 years ago that she still remembers.
When my father's grandmother was coming through the receiving line, she hugged my mother and said "The wedding would've been nicer in a different church" !!
A little background - my father comes from a Catholic family and my mother from a Lutheran family. My father decided to convert to become Lutheran because he was unhappy with the Catholic church and my mom wanted to remain Lutheran.
My mom still has never told my father or my grandmother about the comment.
Isn't that horrible though? To tell the BRIDE on her wedding day??
yep, i've gotten the "FINALLY" comment. a lot!
also, i just recently got a comment someone left on my facebook that asked if i was going to pull a "sharon.""sharon" is an aunt of mine that left the groom at the alter.
to me it was rude because we had postponed the wedding before and now that we're planning again, it seems like it's a big joke to everyone now. people ask if we "really are getting married this time."
normally, i wouldn't have been bothered by the comment and have laughed but the person who said it, didn't mean it to be funny. she's a very rude lady who always has a sarcastic remark to sting you with. so i know how she meant it. hopefully she won't be able to make it,lol.
my fiance and i went out to eat with the best man and his wife last night. they asked if we really were getting married "this time" too and then the best man's wife said, "you better be because our money is involved!"
i get what she meant but it was still rude. we wouldn't cancel, but if we did, we'd give you your $100 back for his best man's tux. geez.
i thought that was nice of her.
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