Post # 1
You know how for some people tact seems to fly out the window sometimes? What’s the most insulting, bizarre, just plain weird comment you’ve gotten? The kind the totally insulted you at first but is now (hopefully!) mildly amusing. ^_^
Mine’s a doozy–I’d just gotten engaged that weekend, at work on Monday I was really happy, of course, and showed 2 of my close work friends my ring and they were asking me questions about the proposal, setting the date, etc. A new coworker (brand new, like, she’d been there a week) came up to see "what all the excitement was about."
I said, Oh, I got engaged this weekend. She asked to see the ring, then asked when we were getting married. "About 2 years from now, when he’s done with med school," says I.
"Oh. Well, that’s good, by then you’ll totally be ready for a ring upgrade!"
Our jaws dropped. Srsly. I managed to say something along the lines of, "Oh, I don’t think so, I’m really very happy with my ring" but I was literally in shock (it’s a very very nice ring, and who says stuff like that regardless of what the ring looks like?!). I laugh about it now, and it’s actually become a bit of a department joke now. But holy cow, was I insulted! Man. I shake my head. When is it ever ok to flat out tell someone to upgrade their ring?
Btw, she was fired less than a year later for her bad attitude.
Post # 3
- Wedding: August 2009 - St. Thomas of Villanova Church & the F.U.E.L. House
So tactless! The worst I’ve encountered really isn’t that bad at all — just cynics who try to figure out why I’m getting married…and I just let those comments roll off my back!
Post # 4
Ouch! The nerve. My worst was my dad’s boss saying he wouldn’t come to the wedding b/c we were a mixed couple – in fact, didnt even want to receive an invitation. Other than that, we haven’t gotten any nasty comments.
Post # 5
I think my reaction just reading it was probably close to your reaction hearing it! LOL That is RUDE! No wonder she was fired! haha
I can’t remember anybody saying anything rude/mean but I may have just ignored it. I’ve had a lot of comments about my ring being "untraditional" (it’s a sapphire, with itty bitty diamonds – I LOVE IT! It’s so ME!) but most people just say it’s "interesting", or different, if they don’t like it.
Post # 6
I got a couple people at work who said to me point blank "I’m invited right?". uuhh awkward. We weren’t really that good of friends.
Post # 7
- Wedding: May 2018 - The Homestead, Hot Springs, Virginia
Wow! That’s just nut-baggery. Clearly, the comment had nothing to do with you, your engagement or your ring, but more to do with your former co-worker’s personality disorder. Good for you for handling it with grace.
Post # 8
I never handle these things gracefully…
Most comments are something along the lines of:
"Don’t do it, marriage sucks!"
"I’ve been married three times, don’t do it!"
To which I, gracelessly, reply that it only sucks being married to them.
Further, people with the infamous "I’m invited right?"
get the answer
You want to casually invite yourself? I casually turn you down…ah well. I was never the most polite girl anyways!
Post # 9
Ummmm…mightysapphire! I think you could me my best friend…where do you live? I think I we need to meet for drinks!
Post # 10
We got that comment from a few people. We had been dating for 7.5 years when we got engaged. I just laughed and said, yep, finally, you’re right!
Post # 11
My stepfather’s mother said that if we did too much "nontraditional" stuff, the wedding would look "cheap and chintzy." This was in response to a conversation I was having with my mother about walking down the aisle to something other than "Here comes the bride."
Post # 12
His aunt told me "wow, what a huge ring…do you think he should of spent all that money on you?"
Post # 13
Love the comments MightySapphire! Definitely want I would say. I really can’t understand how people think its ok to say those rude things. And what really kills me is that it comes from people I’m not really even close too! Ridiculous! The rudest ones we have received are from ppl asking him "why do you want to do that again?" (its his 2nd marriage) Luckily, my FI is quick-witted and usually responds along the lines of "i found the right one this time, why wouldn’t i do it?" that’s why i love him 🙂
Post # 14
ooh tallgall, that’s just mean! I hope you told her you were worth twice as much!
I haven’t gotten any specific comments but I have had a couple of people attempt to guess my carat size. I even had one friend low-ball it! I was shocked. Diamonds are the opposite of guessing someone’s age – go higher than you think! Haha.
Post # 15
I don’t know if this is the "worst" comment, but it was a awkward moment…..
FI & I saw his parents for the first time after the engagement and when I walked in the door my FMIL greeted me, but never asked to see my ring…so an hour or more passed, and she still hadn’t asked. I thought it was weird to say "do you want to see it?" so i said nothing. Finally FI said "mom don’t you want to see the ring?" and she said, "well there hasn’t been an offer and I’ve been patiently waiting." AWKWARD and weird!!
Post # 16
"You’re getting married? What on earth would you do THAT? They stop being nice to you after you’re married!"
"We call it your engagment now, but I’m sure we’ll start calling it an en-GAG-ment soon enough, with as much as you’re going to talk about it."