Post # 1
So it turns out that the our venue’s aisle is extremely narrow – only about 2 and half feet wide. There would no way for my father to walk me in my big ballgown without blocking half my dress, and with me carrying a cascade bouquet, you basically wouldn’t see my dress at all – my FI would just see my head and torso peeking out! Would you choose then to proceed down the aisle alone, and have your dad and mom enter together earlier?
Our aisle is DOWN stairs, so there would be no way for him to walk behind me without stepping and tripping on my dress – we tried having him behind me on flat ground and it was already trip-city!
While the aisle is super short (only 10 steps total), there IS a mezzanine area, so it would be possible (tho a little awkward due to the really short aisle) for him to join me 2/3 of the way down for like 3 steps before we reach the bottom, which would give my FI a chance to see me and our photog/videographer the chance to capture the dress on entrance, as well as for my Dad to escort me for a short way.
What would work best? Please note, neither my Dad or I have our hearts set on walking together, so it wouldn’t result in hurt feelings either way. We are on good terms, so a bit worried people might wonder if we don’t walk together, but then again, we spend so much time prepping and dressing up for that big entrance, it would be sad for no one, especially my FI, to get a good look when I walk in.
Post # 2
Having my father walk me was infinitely more important than people looking at me, my dress, my bouquet or anything else. But, I was adamant about my father walking me, so my decision would have been skewed.
Post # 3
To me, it’s more important for my FI to be able to really see me while I walk down the aisle to him than for my dad to escort me. I have a very good relationship with my dad, and if I said I wanted to walk the whole way myself, I think he’d be a little disappointed but wouldn’t admit it to me. I like the idea of having your dad join you at the bottom. It’s symbolic.
I don’t think many people assume that brides who walk down the aisle by themselves don’t have a good relationship with their fathers.
Post # 4
- Wedding: December 2014 - 13th ~ TN
hm_bride: The first time I got married I had to walk down a huge set of stairs. My dad waited at the bottom.
That being said, I would prefer for my dress to be seen. My dad and I do not have the kind of relationship where the giving away is anything more than something that is expectd. I would consider which is more important to you. You FI and guests will see your dress eventually, if you choose to walk with your dad.
Post # 5
hm_bride: I doubt people will think much of it of your parents walk down the aisle together beforehand. I wouldn’t have him step in to walk you partway down the aisle, that would look odd. Either go down alone or with him the whole way.
Post # 6
People will be able to see your dress later after the ceremony/at reception etc. The either have your dad walk all the way or as compromise the third option of him joining you 2/3mdown.
Post # 7
I would do the compromise. Really, your FI deserves a good look at you as you make your way down the aisle and as long he can see you before you hit the mezzanine, I think that will work.
The other option is your Dad could walk you down the aisle and your FI could agree not to turn around and look at you until you get to the altar, if he’s open to doing that. I could understand why he would rather see you walk down the aisle, though.
Post # 8
I voted walk with him anyway, but that’s because it’s more important to me than the dress and I think my dad would be upset. However as you’ve already said you’d both be fine with it my reasons don’t really apply.