Post # 1
I’ve put this in the Dress forum because it’s related most to dress.. it’s about the logistics of the wedding night outfit.
Would you put it on under your dress, before the wedding? But isn’t that a bit warm? And maybe you want to wear shapewear rather..
Or is it ‘fine’ to disappear off to the bathroom first and change? But I had this idea that FI would be doing the unbuttoning. But people tell me everyone just goes to sleep exhausted after the do?
Would you go to the bathroom put it under your dress and then re-appear?
You don’t need to add a comment – I appreciate it’s personal ! But please vote, I’m clueless here.
Post # 2
babycuddlebee: There was no way I could have unbuttoned my dress by myself so DH had to help! I also had a splitting headache so I had a bath and he sat beside me picking hair pins out!! Not very sexy but very gentle and sweet. Things heated up later but it seemed pointless putting on something “wedding night-y” by that point!
Post # 3
It seems like it will be a big hassle to change and put the dress on again (with some dresses you might not be able to do it on your own). I say either (1) wear it underneath or (2) change into it without the dress. Of course, things can always progress too fast to leave time for option (2) 😉
Post # 4
- Wedding: September 2013 - Ontario, Canada
babycuddlebee: I vote for not wearing it under your dress fro the whole day. You get hot and it feels a bit rank by the end of the evening…. I had my DH help me with the buttons and then I excused myself into the bathroom freshened up and got changed. I was exhaused and it was really nice to have a wash and to get the 150 or so hairpins out of my hair (it was heaven!).
If you have a really big dress and not enough space to/not want to bring it into the bathroom, then another idea is to slip into a nice slinky robe as he helps you out of the dress, go change and then come out to reveal the new outfit underneath.
Post # 5
You do not want to be wearing anything but comfy under your dress – you’re going to be in that for hours and hours and hours. And you get hot and sweaty dancing around.
For me – I kept all the sexy stuff for the honeymoon. Our ceremony was at 7:30 pm, so our reception didn’t end until 1 am and then we went to the hotel bar for another hour, then hung out with people in the lobby for another hour…. By the time we got into our room, we were so exhausted! I had him unbutton my dress and then washed up. I couldn’t even fathom putting anything else on again!
Post # 6
I’m not planning on getting a separate outfit for our wedding night, as I’ll probably just want to get undressed and chill out after such a busy day.
Post # 7
LaPetiote: MrsGo: Oh my, I hadn’t even considered all the hair pins ! Another thing to consider, even if I just want to go to sleep !
Post # 8
You’ll definitely want to shower after your wedding day. Assuming you get professional hair and makeup, you’ll need to remove a million hairpins and wash your hair, since it will be full of hairspray and probably teased. After our reception, he helped me out of my dress (more practical than romantic, since it had a lot of complicated buttons and hooks and was snapped into my long-line bra). Then I put on a casual dress, and we hung out with people at the hotel bar for forty five minutes. Then we came back up, he showered while I was taking out my hair, then I showered and put on a negligee, then we enjoyed our wedding night 🙂
Post # 9
I had this amazing lingerie for my wedding night…and then my husband fell to sleep before my dress even came off of me. I had to have some girl I barely knew come to my room and untie me so I could get out of my dress. So romantic.
I honestly wouldn’t put too much effort into the wedding nignt outfit. You will probably be so exhausted at the end of the night. We had our romantic time the next night instead.
Post # 10
babycuddlebee: I voted for none. I wonder how you would get back into your dress on your own if you were doing a ‘quick change’ can’t you just opt for a nice set of underwear?
Post # 11
Be comfortable under your dress and change (and shower!) later! I told DH before the wedding there was NO WAY i was doing anything without a shower lol. So when we got home he unbuttoned my dress, took all the hair pins & extensions out of my hair (isn’t he sweet?), we showered together, then he left so I could blow dry my hair and get re-dolled up for him. It only took about an hour from the time we got home until the time i was re-ready, and it was so worth it.
As far as being too tired – we certainly were tired, but were so hyped up on the wedding and our honeymoon (we left our reception at midnight and our car came to pick us up at 515am to leave) that it didnt matter. We actually even opened and read all of our cards after the fun was over 😉
Post # 12
Thanks for all the replies!
Sparkidoodle: you could be right
Post # 13
I’m wearing shapewear under my dress, so I’ll change into my sexy outfit later and come out with a robe over it. That’s if FI doesn’t tackle me as soon as we get home. If so, I’ll just save the sexy outfit for another evening.