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I think that some are very opinionated and often don't consider how their comments will be taken when read by another. I personally try very very hard not to say something if I don't have anything nice to say. In some bees defense, I think often comments are taken out of context a little due to our entire relationship with each other is solely typing and text. There is no body language or facial expressions to go off of. I will agree that I have come across some comments that I wouldn't have said to anyone, however. I'm sorry you feel like you should edit yourself on the Bee because you're worried. Ignore the nastiness because for every nasty bee, there's 5 wonderful ones!!
@gvsusara: there are a couple of people who I think are a little more opinionated and hostile than I would like. It's not so much a question of them being rude, it's mroe a question of them consistenly overreacting to situations. I ignore them. For the most part, I think the Bee is actually pretty pleasant. I'm sorry that you have had problems.
@gvsusara: I've seen a couple people that may have been having a couple "bad days", so their tones may not have been polite. I get where you're coming from.
Don't let it encumber your own personal use and enjoyment of this site. Just keep being yourself, and let the positive energy in. The cool thing about this site is you have the choice of ignoring rude remarks, and focusing on the nice bees that make weddingbee worthwhile.
TBH, threads like this do nothing more than start even more drama.
I think that starting threads like this is no way to bring out the happy thoughts or comments you're looking for.
Yeah these kinds of threads don't do much good, to be honest. If you find something offensive, just flag it. It's up to the mods to determine if its worthy of addressing, and if not, then it's probably a-ok with the Hive.
There are some rude posters, yes. But as others have pointed out, posting about it usually doesn't correct the issue. Best policy is to ignore them unless they're being very defamatory, then as @KristenGotMarried: suggested, flag. These threads get started often and it rubs other members the wrong way. Rudeness was big reason why I took a 3 month break from WB 
Threads like this are usually not a great idea. I agree with PPs, just flag a post if you think its too over the top rude or what not. I love the bee :) I just click the X if a thread is getting on my nerves.
I find this website mostly extremely supportive and polite. Considering the anonymity of online life, I think it is impressive. I like that there is a reminder to avoid 'personal attacks and snarkiness' when you are leaving a comment.
Yup, in the future if you see anything that goes against our community rules. http://www.weddingbee.com/community-guidelines/ The best thing to do is to flag it. Try not to respond the the member because it may or may not cause it to be heated. A mod will see the flag and deal with it with what is appropriate.
Like the community rules say, we try to maintain a supportive environment and without personal attacks and any snarkiness. People are free to have a discussion and if they disagree are free to disagree. It's when they pass that line of being snarky is when mods have to step in.
But anyway, feel free to FLAG AWAY. The mods and the hostesses don't read every thread so if one member says something snarky and no one flags it, no one will know about it. And so the members get away with it. Also, I don't think these members do it on purpose but maybe they don't know the rules around here. Getting out pitchforks probably won't help. Just remember everyone here was a new member at some point.
I've never come in contact with a "rude" Bee. This site, to me, is one of the most supportive and constructive sites I have seen in a really long time. I have seen Bee's who don't agree on things and I've seen threads get really heated but I think everyone is entitled to their opinions and expressing them doesn't make them "rude."
i rarely notice anyone being rude.. maybe i'm just oblivious.. or drunk whatever.
the person whom started this thread really needs to get over the internet.If you cant handle things said by complete strangers un-freaking-plug.
I am never rude...but this thread deserves many troll replies.
The internet is for the LOLZ. End of Story.
@CookieBee: hahahahahaha I thought I was the only one slightly intoxicated here. JK Hey there's nothing wrong with enjoying a cocktail-or seven.
@CookieBee: I totally agree. But then, maybe I'm HIGH. lol Anyway, agree with Helenberrycrunch, there are no happy thoughts here. This is going to end badly but before it does, I'm going to put in my two cents: You know what's rude? Pointing out someone else's rudeness!
@beekiss: Agreed. lol My point really is, if someone is being impolite, it's also impolite to point it out. Just ignore it- keep calm and carry on:)
@CookieBee: "or drunk..." baha! That made me laugh :) There are definitely tipsy nights for me on WB, don't hold me accountable for those nights!
In general, I think most bees are pleasant and informative. I actually like hearing differing opinions and would love it if we could voice differing opinions without being seen as rude. But being realistic, I know that differences mean conflict... not just here, but everywhere. Hopefully you can just ignore any rude comments or you could message them and tell them how you feel offended. I've done this before and the situation was fixed pronto. Most bees don't know their being rude (because they probably don't mean to) unless you tell them. But when you tell them on the thread (as I've experienced) they get defensive... who wants to be called out in public? Not me :) Thanks for the reminder though! This will help me watch what I say in the future (I need to be reminded a lot.. boo) and reconsider writing comments that differ in opinion or are not complimenting anything/anyone.
@CookieBee: On another board I'm on this is referred to as PUTI: posting under the influence.
@Frog E.:HA!!!!
Just because someone has a differing opinions and ideas doesn't equate rudeness (although I realize maybe this may not be what the OP is referring to).
If anything, I've often been really impressed at how helpful some of the bees are!
I appreciate this thread! Its true that if you don't agree with someone's post or dont want to support them, please make your reply's helpful or for goodness sake don't comment! There are actual people on the other ends of the boards!!
That said: I LOVE THE BEE! Wahooo LOL!!! I'm on here way more than facebook...and may be slightly addicted :)
Good grief. This isn't a select group of Miss Manners subscribers, this is the general public you're dealing with. You can only expect so much. People will disagree. People will form strong opinions. People will provide (sometimes brutal) honesty. It is not the end of the world. And as pp have mentioned, WB is an extremely mild-mannered bunch (and some would say heavily moderated), compared to most forums.
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I've noticed that certain Bees are consistantly rude. Does anybody else find this majorly ANNOYING?? It makes me fearful of expressing my opinion or thoughts regarding a particular thread.
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