Post # 1
My FI and I had picked our wedding date soon after we got engaged. It’s not until June 2014, which gives us time to save up for our dream wedding and it’s after I graduate from grad school. Well as of now, there are 2 other couples from my small area (that I went to HS with) who have picked the same date. The only reason I’m slightly panicking is because it is so far away and there are already 3 weddings in the small area that we live in, that it’s possible many people won’t be able to come to ours because they will go to another. Especially since the date is so far away, I’m afraid that many other couples will pick the same day as time passes.
So- should we change the date?? FI doesn’t want to, but I don’t want an empty reception hall…although I love the date (no special meaning to it, but we picked it for several reasons) and don’t particularly want to change it. I need to decide and book the reception hall asap!
Post # 3
@JRose6714: Do you have a lot of mutual friends with those couples? Are there a limited number of vendors in your area?
Post # 4
Some mutual friends- a friend of mine said she saw a save the date for one of the others on the refrigerator of a mutal friend already. And no, there aren’t a ton of vendors in the area- I may have to branch out to surrounding areas such as Pittsburgh although it might be more expensive :-/
Post # 5
@JRose6714: There will always be the risk of others choosing the same date as you, even if you change it to another. And there’s always a chance of the other couples changing their dates too. This happened to me as well. My advice is if they aren’t close friends or family keep your date. The people that are most important to you will make YOU their priority and no one else. Although I did have a few people show up to my reception after attending the other wedding, but by that time I was so happy to be married and surrounded by my family and friends that I didn’t care! Keep your head up, you chose your date for a reason, enjoy YOUR date! 🙂
Post # 6
A date is just a date. Picking an arbritart date and risking your guest list over it doesn’t make sense. Be flexible and pick another one!
Post # 7
@JRose6714: Woah a STD for June 2014 already??
I guess it depends on which people wouldn’t be coming… as long as the people who are the most important to you are coming, that’s what matters. I guess you just need to decide which people aren’t going to be able to come and then decide if you need to change the date. Personally, I don’t think I would.