Post # 1
I was hesitant to post this before because I thought it would be a little Too Much Information..but then I found an entire board devoted to sex..yay! haha
My SO and I have been sleeping together for a few months now and we are both relatively inexperienced. He is the first man I feel completely comfortable with in bed and I am interested in trying new things. It wasn’t until recently I was even able to enjoy it at all because I had a tramautic experience with it a few years back and had a lot anxiety and fear issues with men until I met my SO. After seeing a therapist, we waited until waited I felt ready, and now it’s wonderful.
Though the fear has subsided, there is sometimes pain in certain positions. For example, when we do it “in the style of dogs” (haha), it is so incredibly painful that I feel like he’s stabbing me with a knife. I feel bad because I know it’s a position he really enjoys. I don’t know if it’s just because he’s so big, and I’m not, or if it just takes getting used to, but YOWZA! Has this happened to you too? Any advice? Should I be bending over more? He’s 6’2 and I’m only 5’6. I don’t know if that makes a difference.
Also ladies, like I said, neither of us are very experienced. We’re both in our mid- 20’s but had only been with a few people before each other, and the people we were with before also didn’t know what they were doing, so if you have any advice for new positions to try that you really enjoy, I would really appreciate it.
Post # 3
Reversed cowgirl also works as you are in more control.
Both of these incorporate the style he likes but more comfortable for you and sometimes more pleasurable.
You can find a book on positions or you can google. Then there is porn…. I am not posting links or getting descriptive here. You can PM if you need to. haha….
If you want to try doggy again, lay down with your pelvis resting on your pillow or keep your legs closed together. This will prevent him from hitting your cervix, which is probably what is hurting you.
Post # 4
Lube. And if something hurts, don’t do it. If he’s well endowed, certain positions could be painful. Tell him to slow down, and/or change the angle of penetration.
If pain persists no matter what, go see a physician. An underlying condition could be causing the pain.
Post # 5
I think it might also have to do with the fact that we are usually in a rush. We tend to just attack each other the second one of us walks in the door, so there’s not really much build up. Once he moves in with me next weekend, and we have time to properly seduce each other, it should help a lot. haha
Post # 6
@Cady: I was going to say this – sounds like he’s hitting your cervix. My husband does that too sometimes in that position just because of the angle. I find it doesn’t hurt when I’m really turned on and we’ve had a lot of build up. If we get to it quick then it hurts a bit.
Post # 7
Thanks, ladies. This has helped a lot. Part of the pain is also coming from the fact that I think my area is tearing a little, at least that what it feels like.
Post # 8
I know exactly what sensation you’re talking about, and i find it helps to be on top and have more control. Otherwise, its lots of painful ‘tearing’ sensations and unhappy sex 🙁
Post # 9
I would recommend on top so you can control how fast, far down etc.
Some positions for me are OUCH , unless I’m really warmed up if you catch my drift 😉