Post # 1
I recently read a thread about negativity on the Bee. While there are always a few snippy responses in some posts (and, on bad days, I am probably guilty of posting a few myself), I actually want to talk about something that I think I take for granted too often, and have noticed more and more of lately: the incredible support and generosity of spirit of many posters on this message board. I’ve long been a fan of the supportive atmosphere around here (even if some posters are no-nonsense, most are at least well-intentioned), but I feel like recently, even controversial threads have turned heartwarming.
Lately, I have been shocked on multiple occasions by how willing and eager members of the Hive are to go above and beyond in supporting their fellow bees. In the past two weeks alone, I have seen people rallying together to raise money for a struggling single mom, posters band together to be a source of support for a woman struggling with domestic abuse (and explicitly refusing to give up on her through this difficult and frustrating struggle), and I’ve even watched prickly posters take a step back on a heated thread and say “Hey, I was wrong to jump to this conclusion. I went overboard and I’m sorry.”
I’ve always appreciated Weddingbee, but I can honestly say that lately I have been proud to be a part of this message board. Yes, sometimes posts turn negative and sometimes there is snark and tempers flare and whatnot. But overall, this is one of the most caring, supportive, generous internet communities I’ve ever encountered.
So, thank you all for making this the lovely place that it is!
Post # 3
I really try to be honest. I don’t set out to hurt someone’s feelings, but I won’t refrain from giving my honest opinion.
If someone asks if their centerpieces look nice.. and they.. dont.. I’m not gonna lie.
I will however, try to point them in the right direction of something that will improve them, or a cheap option for something that looks 100x better.
I think sometimes some ladies on here tend to critisize, but don’t give reasoning or advice.
I also avoid topics where I don’t have anything nice to say at all. I’ll just skip them and refrain from posting. Period.
Overall, I am quite pleased with the forum, and I’ve learned a TON of things, as well as gotten great advice and a bunch of ideas.
Thanks for being so great ladies.
Post # 4
I totally agree that I love being a part of WeddingBee because it is often such a positive place to come! It’s great to be a part of a group of other wedding-crazed women (and a few men!) that are there when you want to vent about a guest not RSVPing, your MIL driving you up a wall, or just general life stresses.
I’ve also had the pleasure of meeting a few of the ladies in my area from WeddingBee, and I can honestly say they’re some of the most fun gals I’ve ever met! This is a seriously tight knit group, and everyone continues to amaze me when one of us is in trouble.
Keep up the awesome attitudes, ladies!
Post # 5
@pookiesmom: I agree wholeheartedly! I love this community soooo so so much and it is the only community where I felt there was warm, welcoming, kind girls who are constructive and still sweet! Love it here so much and I appreciate your post because you help me realize how lucky I am to be here as well!
Post # 6
Agreed. Love that we keep it classy! (generally.)
Post # 7
Thanks to everyone for being your fabulous selves! 🙂
Post # 8
I think the Bee is the least snarky place I’ve ever been on the Internet. Constructive criticism is necessary and helpful – even if people don’t appreciate it. I think there’s a big difference between holding someone’s hand and coddling them when it’s clear they are making rash decisions, vs. saying, “Hey I know you’re hurt/upset, but here’s why you should stop and take a second look at what you’re doing.”
The Bee is such a positive, embracing place to be. Everyone was SO supportive of me during my breakup and when I returned, and I’ll never forget that.
Post # 9
I love this site as well, it amazes me how many sweet people lend their ears and shoulders to those who need them! Wonderful!
Post # 10
I think it has been a good place for me to get a grip on reality as well. Planning a wedding – being surrounded by wedding stuff all day, every day – can easily make you feel like EVERY detail will be paramount. Seeing a kind-hearted ‘honey, you’re crazy, it’ll be fine’ on these posts are so reassuring.
The positive vibe helps me to feel like I am not being attacked – but I am allowed to ask stupid questions to someone other then the MOG/MOB who aren’t really clued in on the traditions and how they are modified for our own generation.
I really like this place!
Post # 11
@suburbian: I agree! People are honest, but for the most part they really care. That’s an unusual combo to find in general, and even harder to find online.
Post # 12
I just got tons of positivity and good advice on my latest post so i’m really feeling the love from the bee right now. My bees just talked me out of being worried 🙂