(Closed) Possibility of SO making ring– bad idea? (procrastinator)

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 4
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Bumble bee

Does he even WANT to make a ring?  That would be putting so much more pressure on him.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Creiddylad:  I think you should just wait it out.  Maybe mention that a typical ering would be great, and maybe you two could have matching wedding bands. Good news to that is, once you do get engaged and pick a wedding date, he will HAVE to have the wedding band done.  This way, you two could work on that project together and you can encourage him to put the needed time and effort into making those bands with eachother.  I think it would be just as, if not more special for you two to have matching wedding bands that you made together. 

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@Creiddylad:  I think it’s a bad idea. Not just because he will probably procrastinate on it, but because a) it’s a LOT of pressure to make the ring that he will propose with and that you’re supposed to wear for the rest of your life, and b) what happens if after all that work you end up not liking it? Jewelry design isn’t easy… people study for years to get it right. Even if he is talented in making things with his hands, that doesn’t mean he could magically design a ring for you.

I think that if he came up with this idea on his own or if you never mention it again and he goes ahead and does it himself then maybe it could work out… but I think it might be tempting fate to ask him to do such a huge thing for you. It’s enough pressure for guys to select a pre-made ring.. I can’t imagine having the pressure to make it as well.

What if you did a sort of compromise like work with a jewler to design something custom? You’d still end up w. something unique, but it would be less taxing.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Creiddylad:  I would not suggest someone attempt to do a wax carving of an engagement ring as their first attempt. It’s not super difficult when you get the hang of it, but wax carving for cast molds is something that you really need to be taught in person. Lost wax casting is a really cool proces, but if you dont’ have certain things in mind, the probablity of you wax failing (either in the casting process or the pouring process)  is high. Different wax materials behave differently. Some waxes shrink quite a bit when cast so you have to take that into account. You need specialized tools to carve the wax. You need to consider your casting channels while carving. You need to understand how you want to set yourstone or stones and if you want them cast in place or set post casting. A number of ring designs require a cast as well as soldered settings for certain desgins.

 

You get my point. I think its GREAT that you guys are interested in this, as jewelry making can be really satisfying. However, casting is a bit far along if you want to get into it. I would suggest you both take a lesson in jewelry making first from a professional instructor and try forming some plain, standby wedding bands out of silver and go from there. You can learn the steps to make more intriquate jewelry (as well as casting) and get comfortable with it. For now, I would suggest your so get in contact with a professional wax sculptor and collaborate. That way, he can come away with his wax finished, and send it off to a caster himself. πŸ™‚

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Creiddylad:  If you both have experience that matches up with this, don’t let the comments here discourage or hurt you. You guys should do what you feel you are capable of, and what you feel is best and right for you. πŸ™‚ There’s no harm in carving the wax and having someone look it over for you.

 

I didn’t mean to rain on your parade, and I’m sorry if the responses you got on this thread burst your bubble a bit. All the best, lady!

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I made DH’s ring.  The only thing is this- a jeweler will charge you the same ($350 here) to cast for you- whether you carve the wax or not, and that is not including the gold- lets say you supplied the gold yourself.  So at that point, it might be more feasable to just design the ring and have them cast it since they will likely charge the same amount regardless.

I like the idea personally!  True though, it might be a lot of pressure for him.  I think it also depends if he is a perfectionist.  DH is a jeweler as well and the reason he is so good at it is that he is this freaky perfectionist.  Another thing- a jeweler might be irritated at having to clean up your casting for you – there are “rules” involved that make it easier etc.  But I think it is a neat idea!

I cast DH’s with a lab alexandrite so that the stone could be cast right along with the wax- so that I didn’t have to worry about prongs or setting it.  He loves it!!!!  There is nothing else like it πŸ™‚

Post # 14
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Helper bee

Gurl, I feel this – my SO is designing my ring in a program that will let him 3D-print it in wax. If he were going a more traditional route, I know he would propose to me sooner (because he would have the ring sooner!)… and he’s not even the procrastinating type.

In the end, I think I will be happy to have something that he personally designed. We don’t have the exact same taste in jewelry, but if I intended to have everything in my life exactly the way I wanted it – hey, I’d marry myself. 

I was relieved when he suggested we outsource the wedding bands, though! Ha ha ha.

I’m sure everything will work out for you… you two will have more discussions, and a plan will become clear. :} 

 

p.s. re: the boards being snarky… it’s so funny – even I am tempted to post cold-hearted opinions. There are so many times I have to force myself not to reply to a thread where I have “nothing nice to say”. Aeeee!

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