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encourage him to eat healthy, and invite him to go for jogs or walks with you and the dogs if you have any. I really don't have much of a clue on what to say, I just pester my SO until I get some or try to turn him on.
I hope you don't mind but I let Mr.Bobby read this and he suggested maybe taking a testosterone booster and hit the gym, nothing will help as much as that(it gives a lot of confidence and stama and ect.), and yeah.
Also try some of those foods and other libido boosters, I looked it up one night and theres a lot of stuff.
The fact that he can still get turned on by porn makes me think it is more of an emotional or relationship issue than a physical issue. Is there something in your relationship that could be stressing him out causing the problem?
@ bobby...thanks for asking the Mr! Nice to hear a guys perspective! I'm in charge of cooking so I've been trying to do all healthy. Ill be googling libido boosters no! And vitamins.
@MissAsB....the dr brought up stress as well. We lost a baby 4 months ago, and figured it could be that. But it was all ok until about two months ago....
Omg writing that just now....this all started after our vacation when he was 'supposed' to propose(according to friends he told)! Holy light bulb! Could that be it?! Omg what if he's so stressed out about marriage its killing our sex life?! I don't know if that makes me feel better or worse by possibly knowing the cause!!! Omg
Has he gained weight? My husband did, and its really affected our sex life.....but yea, he won't get off his ass and work out! If he did i think it would solve our problems. stress can problem do it too though....
Not gonna lie I havent heard of a lot of men being stressed about a wedding/marriage, but you know much more about him than I do.
How long have been living together?
I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your baby recently. It sounds like life is pretty stressful right now. If this issue doesn't resolve, would you consider attending some type of therapy, at least to discuss the life changes that have happened recently?
Yeah, he has a few extra pounds. He promised hed have a gym membership by the end of the week, so we'll see!
We've been living together 7 months now. He insisted on picking out a ring almost 7 montha ago now. It was all his idea, so I don't know why it would stress him so much.
We talked about counseling after we lost our son, but we seemed to have worked through it together. We are ttc again, so maybe he is stressed about the health of another baby?! This is so frustrating! I'm so glad I can say all this to you ladies!!!
I do think that he could be stressed out about getting married. That is a big decision and since you two still aren't engaged yet, there is a lot of pressure on him. He could also be stressed about having a baby right now. Gaining some weight might have an effect on it too but unless he is severely overweight, I don't think that would cause a physical problem.
Maybe it is stress over the marriage. My fiance is stressed too over our upcoming marriage, but he's not having this problem. As always though stress effects people in different ways. Irony: sex would help distress him. I have to agree with MissAsB: If he can get some wind into his sails when he sees porn then why not when it's with you. Encourage him to exercise and maybe try to watch porn together.
Throw the porn out! He's relying on it. Maybe he needs to be "retrained" because he's become too reliant on it...if that's the only thing that works, right?
Sit down at the dinner table and have a talk about it. Ask him if there's anything esle going on. Chances are there is, even though you worked through counseling a few months ago, stuff may be lingering or resurfacing.
Is there anything he likes to do at the gym? Maybe take him to pilates? My husband was super opposed to it (wah, it's all women, it's stupid blah blah blah) but I said, "please go, for me? It'll be good for you" and now he likes going. Plus i always make sure i wear cute pants so he compliments me on my butt, haha. Gently remind him the Dr wants him to go. Encourage him to adopt a healthier lifestyle. It'll help lift his mood.
Wow, please do not throw his porn out. Talk to him about maybe incorporating it into your fun but throwing out his porn is asking for more drama and stress and will just make him feel like he has to sneak around and watch it online.
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As per a previous post of mine....we, well SO, is having some 'difficulty' in the bedroom. Sorry in advance if TMI! Anyway, his sails just don't stay, well, full of wind. He finally went to a dr who said hit the gym. Which he has not done. We keep trying but to no avail. We've had this problem here and there in the past but never to this extent. We've only 'done the deed' like once in more than 2 months now. And I know he stills gets busy with porn....so what gives?!?! Last time he said I have time to get out of this if I want. Which of course I don't want. But I am beyond frustrated and don't know what to do.....do I kiss our sex life goodbye?