Post # 1
Things are starting to get crazy, and I’m wondering about eloping at this point. Who’s done it, what was the tipping point, and how many feelings got hurt because of it?
I’m seriously considering at this point to keep the costs and drama down.
Post # 3
The wedding just got too big for us and I was stuck planning everything. But EVERYONE wanted a say in the wedding. It was like they were saying “yeah, you can plan your own wedding” but they were thinking “but you’re going to plan it the way I want it”. And it was ridiculous, I “had” to invite all these relatives I didn’t ever remember even meeting! On the guest list, I swear they only gave me like 25 slots for my friends, bridesmaids and their +1’s. And this was going to be a 300+ person wedding. And I had paid for everything at that point. How was that fair??
Wedding planning up until the point where we decided to elope was probably the worst experience of my life. I hate fighting, and there I was fighting with everyone in my family.
We decided enough was enough, a big wedding wasn’t worth the stress and the money if it was going to be such an awful experience. DH and I canceled everything, bought some tickets to Paris, booked a couple vendors, invited people by word of mouth and it was done! Plus we had the most amazing monthlong honeymoon ever. I still got to use my gown, too–I had originally bought it for a big wedding, but I spent so much money on it…I refused to let it go to waste!!!
In conclusion: Weddings bring out the worst in everyone. Eloping is awesome!
Oh and everyone got all butthurt about it in the beginning just because we were pretty far into planning it, they all got over it.
Post # 4
@chibiamelie: I totally understand where you’re coming from. I was seriously ready to elope a few months ago when the stress and drama of everyone was crushing me. In my case everyone was saying we should because it would save money. When I finally threw up my hands and said, ‘fine let’s just do it’ was the point that my fiance stepped in and said no. He reminded me that I would be doing it as a way of lashng out in spite and anger.
I’m not saying that elopement isn’t a viable alternative (and before anyone tells you that it won’t last if you do that, ignore them, I’ve had friends who eloped and are wonderfully happy)…. I’d just take a moment to think about WHY you’re doing it.
If you do elope the chances are very high you will deeply hurt people’s feelings, be prepared that you’ll have to deal with that.
I’d recommend that if you’re doing it out of spite, anger, frustration, etc. think about it first. You want your wedding, no matter how and when it happens (or who is there or not there) to be a happy occassion.
If you still want to elope, than go for it! Mazel Tov!
Post # 5
@renwoman: Thank you!
@shesho: That sounds very promising… Did you have any bridesmaids involved? Did anyone buy tickets and join you? I’m glad everyone got over it 😀