(Closed) Possible Heirloom SETTING?

posted 7 years ago in Rings
  • poll: What should I do about this ring?
    Change the metal and/or center stone for use in an engagement ring? : (9 votes)
    27 %
    Accept the ring as-is and keep it for my right hand, for occasional use? : (13 votes)
    39 %
    Make the alteration in metal and wear it frequently on my right hand? : (6 votes)
    18 %
    Tell him I would like those alterations made for an anniversary in the future? : (3 votes)
    9 %
    Other- Please explain. : (2 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    5118 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    * With your options, perhaps a poll would be helpful and attract more bees 🙂

    I would go with option (E) – can you show him the ring, explain why you like it so much (the details that you love about it vs the things you would change -like the white gold instead) and see if he’d be willing to design a ring that is similar and that you two can pass down later as an heirloom?

    Then you can keep the sentimental ring from your great-grandmother, your FI still gets to surprise you, you don’t have to worry about altering this ring in any way, and you get something that’s uniquely yours from FI. I know you’re working within a budget, but there are also cheaper diamond or metal alternatives that you two could use now and ‘upgrade’ on your 5th or 10th anniversary when you’re more settled in with jobs, etc. 

    Good luck with the decision you two make, it’s a really ornate and gorgeous ring!

    Post # 5
    Member
    608 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I used part of a heirloom ring.  My grandmothers setting was also gold which I don’t wear and it also was very tall and I wanted something low (i was afraid it would snag on everything). I liked the idea of having something that was part of our family tradition but didn’t like the style. Also it just seemed like a good way to save some money on a ring since we wouldn’t have to buy the center stone. I told my FI and my father that I wanted to use the stone from the ring in a new setting about a year before we got engaged.  That way my FI was still able to do the big surpise thing.  When my FI talked to my dad about proposing he also asked for the ring.  Since my dad knew about my wishes he gave it to my FI to re-set. 

    Post # 6
    Member
    47 posts
    Newbee

    I say rhodium plate it. I am having the same controversy on wanting to change my heriloom ring from my grandmother because I dont wear yellow gold but I love the ring. So I figured rhodium plating will convince me wear it more often

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    Post # 8
    Member
    514 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I know a lot of people who use a diamond from an heirloom ring to save money but if you FI doesn’t really have money and you have expensive taste then giving him a setting he wil have to not only change the metal on but also buy a diamond for might not really save him much cash. Therefore, I would change the metal so you can wear it on your right hand but let him get you an engagement ring elsewhere.

    Post # 9
    Member
    620 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    wow, we are an undecisive bunch!

    Post # 10
    Member
    6351 posts
    Bee Keeper

    So pretty! I think it will make a great e-ring. You could use the red stone for a pendant.

    Post # 11
    Member
    47 posts
    Newbee

    @ miss fish: Thank you! yours is as well I particularily adore the basket fromt he side view 🙂

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