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if i were to go with our december wedding plan (vs. next june), i would love to get some input regarding the exact date. just because, I prefer not to have my wedding on christmas eve or christmas (even though I was engaged on Christmas last year), and I'd also prefer not to do it new year's eve or new year's day. ..i don't know mainly so that I can still give my guests some flexibility with their own planning for those holidays.
i was thinking IF we do it in december, maybe 28th, or 29th would do well purely looking at the date.
but then i realize the days in between those two, ..are in the weekdays. and i'm still in school so I have no idea if people have work during those "weekdays" between the two major holidays.
hence here's the poll!! please vote! and please share with me in writing if you have any compelling reason for one day over another! thank you!!!
I think most people would be cool with a New Year's Eve wedding (it is, after all, the ultimate party day). And this is coming from a girl whose birthday is 12/31. I wouldn't mind sharing my birthday to go party at a wedding.
Christmas would be much more intrusive for people to have to change their plans.
The only thing you'd really have to consider (which is totally dependent on where you live) is potential blizzards.
ETA: In all honesty, if I were invited to a midweek wedding, I probably wouldn't come if it involved traveling/taking time off from work. Not everyone gets the week between Christmas and New Year's off.
Late December is going to be hard no matter what you choose. Maybe try early December if you can, like before Christmas. Those dates people still may be traveling for Christmas so yeah...
NYE, then at midnight you can start the new year together. and every year, there will be a massive celebration where-ever you are in the world. it'll be like everyone knows its your anniversary.......every one is happy on NYE, and friends kiss, and shake hands and laugh with strangers......NYE is a nice day of the year.
I chose New Years Eve.
Depending on how close I was to the person, there is a good chance I would not attend a christmas or christmas eve wedding.
I actually choose a day mid week before christmas. My family is already voicing concerns but I feel the day is only 1 day out for them but its a day I will be celebrating for a life time so I choose a date that was meaniful for us instead of convient for others.
I would suggest pick a date you can be happy with years from now celebrating as your anniversary :)
I chose 12/30, a nice Friday wedding before a crazy NYE weekend! =)
I think new years eve would be great, not everyone has grand plans for that day and weddings make for great parties. I would totally go to a new years eve wedding :)
Most people do have to work those weekdays between Christmas and New Year's Eve/Day. Also, most people want to spend the holidays with family so the last two weeks of the year are IMO the worst time of year to plan a wedding. However, lots of people would really enjoy having a special event to attend on New Year's Eve. I think that date would be your best bet.
I am sorry, but unless you were local and we were very close, none of those dates would work for me. The dates that you have listed are reserved for our immediate family, so depending on how close to you I was, I would have to send my regrets and a card/gift in my place.
Yea, I gotta say, unless we were really close friends and your wedding was quite close by I wouldn't go to any of these unless it was a crazy year and I seriously had no other plans. Sorry, but weddings are generally not that fun. I guess if I absolutely had to pick I'd go with the Friday before New Years Eve or the evening of New Years Day.
NYE for sure!! What better excuse for a great party. My friends were all trying to convince FI and I to get married on NYE but I live in Canada and it's usually blizzard here at that time. I am not down with the cold and snow.
NYE = good. Anything Christmas? No. I wouldn't be there unless you were family or like, my best friend. My mom's bday is Christmas Eve and Christmas is just ... untouchable in my family. I would respect that as much as possible. New Year's Eve is a party day anyways! I like it.
Christmas is a really big family holiday, so I'd imagine people like your friends and distant relatives already have plans for it with their immediate famiily. And most people probably are working the week in between. New. year's eve is more of a "party" holiday, so going to a wedding party would be really fun and a way to celebrate with lots of people.
I voted for 12/30. I personally wouldn't mind NYE but you would have to expect that some folks won't attend for this reason. 12/30 I think is the safest day of your options it's a Friday and it's not NYE. Funny you should post this, we are also considering moving our date up to sometime in December.
I think a NYE wedding would be a lot of fun! I'm trying to find a way to play auld lang syne at our wedding in May. I think some other posters on here have run into issues with people feeling more upset if they don't get a plus one for that particular date, so that might be something to think about.
ETA - not really playing auld lang syne at the wedding in May. Not that there's anything wrong with that.
I think a NYE wedding would be a great way to celebrate the occasion! I say go for it!
I got married on 1-1-11 and we had over 500 guests show up to our wedding. I thought that we wouldn't have that many come, but people planned their vacation around our wedding. We are both from the same city and our families still live there so that played a part.
I think a 12-31 wedding would be good because it is on a Saturday and people will be ready to party. I know that most people would prefer to go a New Years Eve or New Years Day wedding over a Christmas wedding.
I have a friend having a NYE wedding. My second choice would be the 30th. THe costs actually went up to have it on NYE and her bar tab will be almost double cause its going to go late. Just keep those things in mind too in your budget!
My first choice would be 12/31 for a morning wedding; otherwise 12/30 for an evening wedding.
I had a wedding this past NYE. We had a fabulous time, and just about everyone attended. I came very close to having it on Christmas Eve, but we really wanted some friends there and I just didnt think it would be fair to expect people (unless it were family only wedding) to show up at my wedding on Xmas Eve.
wow thanks everyone!
just to update our situation:
i'm still in school, and i literally get off 12/22 - 1/1. my school starts back on 1/2, and i would be getting married in northern california and i go to school in southern california. so...
1. no blizzard risk! :D
2. but 12/31 wedding might be too expensive like some of you said, i would have to call up vendors and see how much their rates would be for 12/30 vs. 12/31 and see the difference I guess. and...as a side note, i might be too tired to come back to LA the day after and start school on monday.
but 12/30 friday sounds pretty good to me! hmmmmmm .. it's so true that weekend will have "party!" written all over it. :)
3. yea i didn't feel comfortable doing christmas eve/christmas day for the same reasons as you pointed out. i think i would want to spend it quietly with my family, too.
well so far 12/30 is winning over! but please! keep your opinions coming! i will be sharing this with my fiance later in the week :D
thanks again Bees!
NYE, it's my birthday and I like having even more of an excuse to get down that night!
Just as something to keep in mind, of you have your wedding in betweem Christmas and New Year's, many venues and churches will still have their Christmas decorations up. i don't want to dissuade you or anything, but my sister had a Dec. 29th wedding and she had to change her colors because they clashed.
Also, please don't even consider Christmas or Christmas eve. Most people have a hard enough time fitting all of their family in those days, much less a wedding, too! I think NYE might be your best bet.
I love weddings in December, but Christmas Eve would be the least likely day of the entire year for me to attend a wedding unless it was A} AT my Church during the Christmas Eve service or B} a very close relative. On the other hand a NEW YEAR's WEDDING is a fabulous idea. Since it's within the Twelve Days of Christmas, you absolutely have the option to make it a Christmasy Wedding, but you can also feel free to party the night away with your family! My second choice would be a Friday night celebration, because it would be the day of the week that most people could come, and would be not so close to Christmas that it's interrupting family traditions nor quite as pricy as the New Year's Date. I think I would make Save the Dates a priority for an event like this because the sooner your guests are aware of the date the better! Waiting until the normal invitation schedule might not give the guests enough time to make arrangments to be off work or to make hotel arrangements.
@sweetie tooth-Go with your gut. I got married December 30th in LA and it was perfect. Everyone is in a holiday mood, most take time off between Christmas and NYE and you save money by avoiding NYE:)
Ours is NYE and the feedback from our guests has been great. Everyone is excited to have plans for that night!
My top two choices would be Friday evening or Saturday (new years eve) morning/early afternoon wedding. You could get away with a kiss ass afterparty afterwards too and not have to pay for it!!
@sweetietooth: I'm getting married on12/30/11 too--in Haiti. Our guests seem to be happy with that choice. It doesn't mess with Christmas, and they get to spend a few days on a tropical island. Anyone who's coming from the US is traveling the 27th/28th to the 31st. I thought they would be upset with traveling on the 31st and potentially missing NYE celebrations, but those who want to party said they'll make sure they're back in time to do so.
I'm doing the 29th...hoped for the 30th but the church was unavailable. good luck!
Honestly, I've heard nothing but excitement from our friends and families about our Christmas Eve wedding. Some out of town family members are actually planning a small vacation around the wedding. Also, because not many people want to get married on Christmas Eve, more vendors are available.
On another note, we're doing everything a little bit early (probably noon to 6-ish) so that those with small children can still have time for their Christmas Eve traditions.
Really, I'm not having any problems with my Christmas Eve wedding, other than not being able to find a date twin. haha :)
Most churches have a "Christmas eve" service late in the evening, so I would not do Christmas eve if you want to have a reception.
I also wouldn't do Christmas. It's Christmas!
Out of the dates you listed, I think New Year's Eve or New Year's Day are probably best.
But also remember on New Year's Eve there will be a lot of drunks out, and even if your guests are sober they may get caught up in DUI checkpoints.
Our wedding is on 12/24, but to be fair, my family is Jewish. Most of my fiancee's family is in town for X-mas anyhow, so it isn't much of a problem for them.
Picking a tough date also helped us save $$$ by reducing our guest list by over 100 people who couldn't make it.
We wanted 12/24 because it is our dating anniversary, and is when my fiancee proposed to me.
we have decided on our date!!!
so well i haven't decided on any details of the weddings yet >_<
and my fiance's busy with his MBA applications so we decided to just push it so he can help me when i'm busy studying for my board exam. i only get christmas - new years off, so....
SO our final date is:
12/29/2012!!!!
i know i'll be engaged for a long time, but this works well since his grandpa comes back to the states almost every december right now... and since it's few days after christmas and few days before new years, most people that i've spoken to is loving the idea of traveling to CA to celebrate our wedding and still have time to celebrate their own vacation.
thanks bees for all the help!!
NYE is a great time to celebrate with family and friends. It gives people something to do. I would say this even if I had not chosen NYE for my wedding!
If you somehow incorporated NYE into your theme, that would be so fun!
My original wedding date was for 12/30 and I had the hardest time finding someone to marry us. After calling every wedding officiant in the county, I finally, after begging, had one agree for the 30th during working hours. Not being religious, I had to find someone out of a book and all of them 'were off for the holidays' so start looking early if you decide on any of these dates. I even had a couple laugh at me for even asking.
Edit: I just saw this was an old post from a while back.....Nm
12/30 or 12/31
A lot of people don't get the week off in between Christmas and New Years, so a weekday is bad, and I wouldn't go to a Christmas wedding. New Year's is more meldable. You might be able to get some better deals on 12/30.
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