Post # 1
So as I mentioned in my last post, I know a proposal is comig soon. I have gone through the standard cycle of excitement, resentment for this taking so long, being nervous, then excitement again. However, my SO just asked me if he could plan a “nice dinner” for me this weekend, since I have been traveling for work (and a friends bachlorette party) for the past week. I’m of course reading into this (bad me!) and thinking that this Saturday night could be THE night. But, here is my concern. This whole month for us is like a parade of weddings! Here is our schedule;
Last weekend was my friend S’s bachlorette party, and I am a bridesmaid
This coming weekend is my friend J’s wedding, and I am a bridesmaid,
Next weekend is S’s wedding!!
I am thinking SO is going to propose it the night after Js wedding ( her wedding is on a Friday). So here is my question…. Should I be worried I would be stealing the spotlight away from S and/or J?? I definitely don’t want to do that, but I don’t have much control! A few other things to keep in mind are that S and J don’t know each other, J has been a huge bridezilla, and J does have one post-wedding event planned on Saturday (but afternoon, so well before SO’s ” nice dinner”).
What should I do? Say something to SO? I don’t want to jinx it our ruin any plans!!!
Post # 3
Say nothing and let him do it when he wants to! This would be after J’s wedding right? I don’t think you’ll be stealing anyone’s thunder by getting engaged after their wedding. She gets one day!
Post # 4
nope, don’t say anything to him. a good friend will be THRILLED for you and would never even think of you stealing the spotlight. And believe me, you won’t . people will be focused on the bride & groom, not a newly engaged couple.
Post # 5
If you’re that worried, wait a couple days before announcing it.
Post # 6
Do not say anything to your soon to be fiance at all. Don’t put these brides before him – let him do this proposal when and how he wants. If these women would be so crippled with jealousy that you had the nerve to get engaged around the same time that good things were happening for them, then they aren’t very good friends.
Post # 7
Thanks ladies. I should also say J’s wedding is FRIDAY. I think he may ask SATURDAY night…. So still the day after the wedding. But the same day as her brunch (bit still that would be long over before our dinner)
Post # 8
I would be more worried about not being able to enjoy the weekend alone with SO after he proposed rather than stealing anyone else’s spotlight. It’s not like he’ll be proposing during anyone else’s ceremony or reception so I don’t think you’d be stealing anyone’s sptolight.
Don’t say anything – he’ll do what feels right and it it’s Saturday then you have every right to be happy and excited about your own proposal, and the brides will be happy for you too 🙂
Post # 9
I think that you should let him do what he has planned. You wouldnt be taking away their spotlight at all!! Just relax and enjoy!
Post # 10
As long as you are sure he’s not planning to propse AT (or the day of) the wedding, then there’s no big deal. If you’re afraid he might do it at the wedding, say something like, “Ohmygosh, I just read on the Weddingbee that some guy propsed at a wedding! The bride was really disapointed. How rude is that?! He should have waited for a more private time for the sake of his girlfriend AND the bridal couple!”
Post # 11
@Sunchick19: Totally agree.
You will not be stealing anyone’s spotlight (IF he proposes this weekend) and I’m sorry, but I’m a firm believer that you don’t get to dictate when a proposal is “good” for you…let the guy do his thing! It’s like the one thing they do, let him have his moment uninterrupted by your concerns about other weddings.
And what if he doesn’t propose this weekend? This is going to sound harsh but maybe try not to get your hopes up??
Post # 12
Nope, I wouldn’t say anything. He’s got a plan, let him execute it as he wants to! Just relax, enjoy the wedding and if he proposes, great!! If not, have fun, enjoy his company and a nice dinner!
Post # 13
I wouldn’t say anything either. I got engaged a week before my friends’ wedding and they were nothing but happy for us. It’s not like your SO is proposing AT the wedding. THAT would be stealing the spotlight, if you ask me. Let him do his thing 🙂
Post # 14
Let him do what he wants. It sounds like he is nOt thinking about proposing at the wedding so I dont see any problem with it. I wouldn’t worry about anyone else.