Post # 1
Bees, I feel so sheepish writing this entry but my curiosity has gotten the best of me. DH and I are NTNP. I just recently started very minimal charting, just to get more in touch with my body’s flow, so to speak. DH stated he’s not ready for kids yet, though we both refuse to use birth control. We mutually dislike condoms and I’ve been off the pill for over a year now and am too afraid of side effects to go back on. Also, I hated how they made me feel. While I know there are numerous other methods of BC out there, we are mutually not interested in them at this time.
So my question is this: Have any of you bees (or anyone you know) gotten pregnant even though your SO “pulled out” in time? I know pulling out is not a reliable way to prevent pregnancy, but that is what DH does, which is why I’ve started charting, to try and determine my fertile days and avoid BD’ing on them. I’ve heard that one can become pregnant from pre-cum alone, but was wondering if any brave Bees are willing to ‘fess up and either debunk this for me or prove it lol. I’m just curious. Thanks in advance!
Post # 3
@Big Truck: I have a friend who was on the pill AND pulled out. Still got pregnant.
Post # 4
I have a friend who got pregnant using the PO method. Not trusty at all!
Post # 5
Yeah my oldest brother was conceived like this as were two friends’s kids in HighSchool.
Post # 6
We used the pull out method exclusively for about 7 years without so much as a scare, not sure if we were just lucky or what, but I feel like I hear stories all the time about people who didn’t have that luck. First time we didn’t (which was on purpose) I got pregnant.
Post # 7
@Big Truck: the method only works if you pull out. If you don’t do it on time, obviously it wont work. Precum will not get you pregnant, there’s research on that.
We did it for 3 years. First time trying, we concieved. Worked for us.
Post # 8
@Big Truck: yep!! I know multiple people who have goften pregnant using this method of “birth control”. It’s really not smart..especially if your hubby doesn’t want kids right now.
Post # 9
There are a LOT of Bees that use pull n’ pray regularly with no problems, and there are lots that have cute babies stemming from pull n’ pray!
If you’re not ready for kids, I’d find another method. But if it’s not a big deal either way, keep doing what you’re doing!
Post # 10
The only truly proven way to NOT get pregnant is to refrain from having intercourse – no matter what form of birth control you use, there’s always a margin for error. I’ve known pill babys, condom babies, pull out babies – you name it.
That being said, my FI and I have been using the pull out method for eight years – sometimes in combination with birth control, sometimes not – and haven’t gotten pregnant yet (holy hell knock on wood – I feel like I might have jinxed myself haha).
FI is in medical school and learned TONS during his OB rotation – including that pre-cum does in fact have active, live sperm (not tons, but enough). I’m sure there’s probably information out there on the internet that will give a much better explanation than I’m doing haha. We’re also Catholic and had to go through pre-cana, including a class on natural family planning, and he doesn’t believe that the whole charting to not get pregnant really is reliable either (please don’t flame me for this – I have no clue how I feel about charting, so no judgement there for those that do!).
I guess do what you feel works for you, but just be prepared in case it doesn’t work? But since you’re NTNP, you both must on some level be ok with getting pregnant and having a kid, regardless if it happens sooner or later? Either way, good luck!
Post # 11
Well if he doesn’t want a kid and both of you refuse to use birth control I hope you realize pregnancy is a huge risk. I guess decide what’s more important to you: remaining childless or being responsible and using bc.
Post # 12
A co worker of my husband’s uses the pull out method and he is expecting his 4th child any day now. The wife’s first son is by a different guy and she was on the pill at the time. Some women are very fertile and some men have great swimmers.
Post # 13
The Planned Parenthood site has some great information about family planning methods, including the wirthdrawl method. 4% of couples who have perfect use (which is hard to achieve!) will conceive every year, 27% of women who have imperfect use will get pregnant in a year.
If you are looking for a method of BC other than condoms and hormonal pills, the standard days method, developed at Georgetown University, is a suprisingly effect and very simple rhythm method technique. and there’s an app for it! I would post a link but I am on my phone– but if you look up standard days method I am sure you can find it. It involves refraining from sex during certain days every month based on your menstrual periods. The downside is the window of time you need abstain every month is a bit long, but that is what makes is so effective for such a simple method.
Post # 14
My mom has told me for 29 years that I am the product of pull n pray method. Lol
Post # 15
@Big Truck: Well if you want to know if you can get pregnant while using the pull out method I’ll let you talk to my 17 year old son…who wouldn’t be here if pulling out worked…
Post # 16
Yes its possible, happened to me while in university. I’m 100% positive my partner did not ejaculate.
@tigergrrl2008: DH and I did pre-cana too and found it so funny how the family planning part was everyone’s favourite. Most people only half paid attention until that part of the couse, all of a sudden everyone was quiet, alert and even the guys sat up staight…too cute!