Possible wedding dress regret – how much can I alter my dress?

posted 2 years ago in Dress
Post # 2
308 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

aelizabethw:  You have options. I think your dress is beautiful though. You could do just a topper that you could take on and off without having to alter your dress like the one below…

Plus that would probably save you a lot more money than getting it altered to the way those dresses show.

This top is available at BHLDN.com

Post # 3
612 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

From what I understand you can lower the back of a dress – a bridal shop suggested I do that to one I was on the fence about – you probably would need something added to the top the help the dress stay up though.  The amount of boning the dress would require would probably be substantial if you made it low-back to your waist and kept it strapless.  I do know it is also pretty easy to add little sleeves like those you like though.

Honestly, the dress you got is VERY different from those you like – if you sleep on it and are still that “meh” about it, I would resell the dress you got (hopefully recouping most of the cost if you got a great deal) and buy something else.

Post # 4
426 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

All of the dresses you showed are not strapless.  This is by design.  A dress with such a low back cannot be held up securely without straps.  Not that low, anyways.  I would add straps if you want the back that low.

Post # 6
1181 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I think the dress you got is beautiful, but I see what you mean by wanting to add something to the shoulders. The first idea you posted would go well with the dress, and looks like it might not be super costly. Check out etsy for boleros and see what pops up. Or find a good seamstress and ask for an opinion using the cape you have. If you find what you are looking for, you might decide not to lower the back like you intend. Adding to the shoulders might give it that little extra to make it what you are looking for. 

Post # 7
2106 posts
Buzzing bee


If you deepen the back that much you will definitely need to have straps sewn on because keeping it strapless the dress will not be able to support itself. Perhaps use the cape coming with the dress and have the seamstress construct you new straps, sounds like it maybe pricey though but if the dress was under your budget then go for it just make sure you see a seamstress who is good with custom work. 

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