Post # 1
Curious how you bees would interpret what happened this morning:
A service technician from our internet/cable provider stopped by to investigate why our internet is so much slower than what we’re paying for. I had last night’s How I Met Your Mother episode on (I watched Bones while it was on last night), and when Robin and Barney hugged, one of them asked, “Is this awkward?” and the technician promptly said, “It’s because you’re gay.”
I wasn’t quite sure how to interpret that…it was pretty awkward. I personally think NPH has an amazing family (and has every right to it) and am always floored by their Halloween ensembles. I just dodged it and changed the topic back to our service problems. Still, it was weird. He seemed like a nice guy (~50) besides that. Sigh.
Post # 3
Added a poll just to see what y’all think. I’m personally not taking it out against the company, even if it made me feel uncomfortable. FWIW, I’m moving to a different state once I’m married.
Post # 4
@fluffernutter38: While I may say something like, “it’s because you’re gay” to one of my gay friends, it’s in a joking manner and all parties involved know it. However, I have very little tolerance for gay bashing or for someone that judges another person because of their sexual orientation. Honestly, it would make me think twice about working with that company and I would probably inform management of my opinion. I would probably lean towards giving my money to another establishment if the entire company shared that technician’s views.
Post # 5
- Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley
I voted that it’s uncalled for, but would not make me stop working with the company. I also wouldn’t say anything to the tech because, well, it really isn’t going to get me anywhere… How frustrating though!
Post # 6
- Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall
I think I voted wrong – I thought “express your views” meant YOU saying something to the tech that what he said was uncalled for, not that I want HIM to express his views. Hah. So… pretend one of those votes is switched. That said, I probably wouldn’t switch companies. I only have 3 options where I live and they are all terrible, so the opinion of one single employee isn’t enough to sway me to break contract and switch.
Post # 7
Lack of professionalism from this tech, but I would not hold it against the company. It’s awkward, but not offensive to the point where I’d feel the need to tell his boss.
Post # 8
I get tired of companies getting bashed for something a crackpot employee says that has nothing to do with the company itself or its policies. OP, from your thread title, I thought you were going to tell me that your ISP refused to allow access to gay-friendly websites or gay rights groups websites. Some inappropriate remark from a tech – who might even be a sub-contractor, the cable companies are notorious for not really hiring their own techs but subcontracting the work out – is not really much to do with the company itself.
Post # 9
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
People say idiotic things all the time– it’s amazing. I wish I was better at dealing with it– something that falls between complaining to the company/getting into a confrontation with the man, or saying NOTHING.
Post # 10
I voted that it’s uncalled for, because it’s like cursing in front of a customer you just met, but I wouldn’t stop working with the company because he’s just one technician, and not necessarily homophobic. There are plenty of people who support gay rights but would still think it’s okay to make a joke about a gay actor playing straight when it’s awkward.
As a disclaimer, I’ve personally advocated for gay rights, my brother is gay, and I think there are more gay actors who do a great job playing straight than straight actors who do a great job playing gay.
Post # 11
@IAmTheShadow: Very true. I should have worded that differently. I’ll see if I can update it. I’m still new to creating threads. >< I wouldn’t put up with the latter. Good to know about contractors/sub-contractors. Heck, he didn’t even know about the internet service provider’s personal speed-test website.
Post # 12
This is one persons views, not the companies. While its unprofessional, probably against company policy, and just rude, I would drop it ( I would have said something to him directly though, letting him know that it was a horrible thing to say). Anything said could possibly cost this man his job, at 50ish jobs are scarce for that age range and I just couldn’t do that to a person over a perceived insensitive statement. After all, you don’t know this mans sense of humor, his life situation, or his personal views, he could have meant that in many ways that it just did not come across well.
Post # 13
@tksjewelry: Agreed, I’m not out to try to ruin someone’s life (and probably leave him without health insurance!) for an inappropriate comment. I just wish folks would be more considerate. =(
Post # 14
- Wedding: July 2013 - The front lawn of our church
Honestly, in the age we live in, we pride ourselves in the freedom of speech, and freedom to express our views. If this post was about someone making a pro-gay statement, we would all be saying “good for him, he should be able to express his views.” IMO, eveyone should be able to express their views, even if they’re not popular.
However, I do think it was unprofessional of him to bring up a somewhat controversial issue at work. He probably should have kept his mouth shut, no matter what his opinion was.
Post # 15
Sounds like a simple slip of the tongue. He probably didn’t even realize he did it. Don’t let it reflect on the company.