Post # 1
Long Story. FH and I set our date to April 27, 2013. This is our five year anniversary, and we always kind of joked as kids about getting married on that date. We found out about a month ago that FH has to deploy to Afghanistan three weeks after we get married. FH and I decided to keep the same wedding date then, but tonight on the phone he said “let’s just get married in January, I want to spend more time with you.” So know we are possibly thinking about changing our date to New Year’s Day. I honestly don’t know how I feel about this because I have a DIY rustic wedding planned currently (baby’s breath, mason jars, lace. etc.) My bridesmaids already have a gorgeous dress picked out but it’s short. We have mild summers in Alabama so I don’t know if that really matters? I’ll be cutting my current wedding planning time in half. I don’t know if I’ll be able to find a photographer with just four months advance? Our venue is family owned so that we will be able to change. I just don’t know if I will be able to save everything I have planned for my rustic spring wedding to make it fit into winter. 🙁 I have sentimental value invested in our April date as well but I also see what he says by wanting to spend time together before he leaves. 🙁 I just don’t know what to do!
Post # 3
If I were you I would go for January. I would want to spend as much time with my new husband as possible. The most important thing to me would be time together.
Post # 4
I would leave your wedding where it is. You will be spending the same amount of time together either way. Unless you are 100% into changing the date I wouldn’t.
Post # 5
I think getting married early if you want is a great idea but I would probably pick a date other than New Years Day. A lot of people celebrate pretty hard on New Years Eve and personally i would want my friends and family in tip top shape for our wedding reception and not hungover or tired!
Post # 6
I would stick with your original date. I’ve heard so many stories about people not turning up to weddings because the wedding was on a national holiday day. I would be more concerned with a new years day wedding as the night before everyone loved to stay up late to see in the new year. Drinks flow on new years eve and I would be afraid that the guests would either not turn up on new years day or turn up hung over.
Theres a post here somewhere about a bride who decided to get married on fathers day and only about a fifth of her guests showed up and the poster was basically saying if anyone is thinking of getting married on a day that is a special day anyway to be prepared that the guests might not be there because of other yearly commitments.
Personally I think a New Years wedding would be lovely but I wouldn’t do it for this reason plus the fact that most people are genuinely broke around Christmas anyway therefore I wouldn’t want to put extra pressure on them financially.
Post # 7
You’ll still be spending time together. Leave the date.
Honestly I have a hard enough time finding staff to work a measly 12-5 shift on new years day. Good luck finding people to attend the wedding. People go hard new years.
Post # 8
I personally love the idea of a New Year’s wedding. But New Year’s eve seems to be a better plan… everyone is hungover on New Year’s Day. NYE & NYD are on a Thursday & Friday, respectively. You could always do it that Saturday, too. 1/3/13 =D
I think it’s romantic he wants to do this… I would be totally flattered.
Post # 9
If you want to move your date up go for it, but I really would not do it on New Years Day personally.
If personally would probably keep my original date. You guys will still have the same amount of time together – only you will be engaged not married. I just don’t really see what the difference is to be honest.
Post # 10
@FutureMrsAnders: I’d do the spring wedding. You sound pretty invested in the concept & date you’ve come up with, and short dresses etc. might not fit in w. the winter timeframe.
I don’t see why you can’t spend time together before you’re married. I mean yeah I guess it would suck to have him leave a few weeks after you get married, but if you’re already living together etc. then I don’t see the problem. If you aren’t living together then maybe I’d move the wedding to January.
How does the honeymoon fit into here? I guess in a way if you are taking the honeymoon right after, it might be tough to be like ‘ah this beach is lovely but soon I won’t see you for months’ and ruin it, so it would be better to do it in January, I don’t know.
Edit: Also, NY Day people might be hung over, partied out… or have plans w. their families already, not sure.. you might want to ask some people you know to see what they think.
Post # 11
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
A new year’s day brunch could be kind of nice. If I know I have a wedding the next day, I’ll watch my drinking…so says the woman who drank too much the night before *her* wedding :)-
I also like the 1/3/13 idea- make 13 your lucky number (we were married on Friday the 13th. and I love it)! You can find a photographer in 4 months- we did (planned everything in 6.) Keep the short dresses- if it doesn’t “match the season,” who cares?
And I’d rather be married to my husband for 3 months before he was deployed, than 3 weeks.
Post # 12
There will be a major difference between married life and engaged life because we are not living together until we get married. Most of my family members are pretty conservative so no one really parties. I would only have to worry about a select few of our friends, so I guess we’ll talk to them about it if we decided to move it up. I didn’t think about the hardship it would put on people financially either, that is a good point. Thank you everyone for your input! We are going to have a serious conversation about it when he gets home this weekend. 🙂
Post # 13
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
You’re right, there is a big difference between married/engaged life if you don’t live together first. DH’s lease expired after our wedding, and since I had a roommate up until 2 months before the wedding, we didn’t live together until afterwards. It’s a huge but good change. Again, I would give yourself as much time as possible with him, getting used to being husband & wife, before he’s deployed.
I wouldn’t stress too much about the wedding being around the holidays-if you give people enough notice, they’ll budget accordingly. Or they can wait to give a gift later.