Post # 1
Please do not comment on why I’m getting a new one (I’m not seeking permission) or ask why this is happening…I’m only looking for bees who wore a stand in (CZ, etc) ring in a style they liked to get an idea before getting their official one… And no, I’m not suggesting CZ’s or anything other than a diamond is a bad e-ring… All rings deserve love and respect. 🙂
My husband and I are looking at getting me a new e-ring. Before we made a firm, expensive choice, I thought about getting a similiar ring on Etsy to something I want and trying it out, to see if I like it, the fit, etc before taking it to a jeweler to see cost for getting one with a diamond. I had a lot of issues when we first started e-ring shopping, of liking a ring in the case or online but once I tried it on, I didn’t like how they looked on my finger or maybe I felt it wouldn’t work in “real life”.
I have my original e-ring but it’s nothing like what we are considering, so it won’t work for me to get an idea.
Any Bees do anything similiar before getting their e-ring or do this before getting a replacement, upgrade, etc?
Post # 3
@Coral99: although I did not have a stand in— since I’m not sure what your “issues” were while ring shopping…..but dont’ expect that you will find one on Etsy and then fall in love with it and assume a local jeweler will be able to replicate it perfectly. I suppose it’s happened, but it’s unlikely– maybeif you found a piece off Etsy– that artist could make the setting in sterling, and then make it gold (or whatever metal you are thinking)– and then you take it somehwere just to have the diamonds (or whatever stone) set.
Post # 4
I did this to figure out what size center stone I wanted. It really helped! Although, you will overpay on Etsy. They whole twee “handmade” thing is overblown, and you’re not going to get a good deal for what you’re paying.
I would go to Macys, Kohls, JCP, and look for a CZ and silver ring close to the style and size that you want. You’ll pay $15-$30 instead of whatever some middleman China reseller will charge you though etsy.
Post # 5
@GoldfishPie: +1. Department stores are probably the way to go for this, op.
On a side note I feel that the disclaimer being necessary to avoid ppl potentially jumping down your throat over this is just sad!!! 🙁
Post # 6
I have had about 10 different rings cz, gemstone, moissanite, and diamonds, since my husband proposed to me in 2002. Some were lost including the ones I got married with. At the end of the day they are just rings, so try as many as you like till you find the one that makes your heart sing. Because with or without a ring you and you SO still will love one another and I’m still married no matter how many different rings I have had. Don’t let anyone make you feel bad if you don’t wear your original e ring or if you choose a stand in till you find the one you want. Good luck with the ring hunt, would love to see pics when and if you order one from the etsy site:)
Post # 7
@GoldfishPie: This is a great idea I hadn’t thought of! Thanks so much! And yes…it will be a completely different size setting, so I need to get an idea.
@Eight6Eleven: Yes, it is sad. But I have seen too many people on here jump on people for their personal choices and being rude with questions, unfortunately. I’m only looking for information and help. I have found, at least on WB, that if you post a disclaimer, some (not all) that usually find one thing to destroy someone about, will shy away. However, I feel you are acting like an idiot, I tend to just not respond so that’s another way to go about it, too.
Post # 8
@rachie5478: Can we be friends? LOL. Thanks soooo much for posting that!!
I have struggled immensely with part of this change for a lot of what you listed. But I keep reminding myself our daily actions and choices are what make our marriage…not the e-ring. That was literally just the beginning. 😀
This is what I am looking at… Using my original diamond and just changing the setting. However, my current setting isn’t as “wide” so I’m curious to see if something like this is workable in my life. I didn’t see anything like this when we searched for months, so I couldn’t try anything like it on, hence wanting a stand in to be sure… 🙂
Post # 9
@Coral99: indeed. Indeed.
Post # 10
I also have a stand-in ring. I bought it after Christmas when the back of my band cracked and it had to be sent in for repair. I didn’t want to be without a ring for New Years! I would check Amazon too….esp if you don’t want to spend a ton on one. I got mine there for $25 and it looks very similar to my real one. The center stone is bigger on the fake however…but I still wear it occasionally just for fun!
Post # 11
@Coral99: of course we can be friends! That ring is beautiful, I would definitely try and find a standin before you commit to re doing the original. So if you find a cz one I would get it to see if it works with your day to day life.
Post # 12
@Cupcake105: Thanks for responding. Where did you get your stand in? Amazon?
I’m so sorry to hear about your e-ring! I too would have gotten something to wear. Once you have a ring on that finger, you don’t want to go without!
@rachie5478: Thank you. I’m just wondering who/where would have something like that… I see all kinds of CZ halo rings but not like that.
Post # 13
Just look everywhere you can till you find one. EBay, Amazon, department stores. I got a few of mine from jcpenny they have this diamonart collection which is a cz coated with actual diamond dust, they looked way more real then a normal cz and they aren’t that expensive at all. Take your time and find one that resembles the one you want the most!
Post # 14
@Coral99: I wore a stand-in ring for a while as a RHR while trying to convience myself that I loved solitares, but not matter how much I tried, I just couldn’t fall in love with them. It really sucked because they are timeless and classic, but just not for my finger. Then I tried a halo ring with diamonds on the band for a while (from Walmart! $8.00.) and again, I just could NOT seem to fall in love with it either. The solitare was just too “simple” for my finger and the halo with the diamond band was just too “much” on me.
Finally DH and I went into a local jeweller one day just to “look” once again, and while we were talking about the rings that I liked (I loved solitares and halos w/ stones on the band in the cases, just not on my finger so I was very drawn to them, especially the halos) and what I didn’t like about them once on my finger, and DH pointed out that maybe we should look at halos with a plain band or solitares with diamonds on the band. And what do you know? It worked! I tried on a halo with a plain band and I fell in love… but then we spent $28 at JCP buying a similiar ring just to be sure! About two weeks later we purchased the ring, and now, 3 years after owning it, I am still as in love with it as I was the day we purchased it. Nothing wrong with double or triple checking things when it comes to something this pricey. (Special, yes, but like you said, the choices we make in our marriages are what are important. A ring is but a symbol of our marriage. Rings can break, get stolen or lost, or damaged beyond repair, because they are material things. When people eyeroll aboujt changing or upgrading a ring I just silently laugh to myself, it’s not like you’re upgrading your husband… now wouldn’t THAT be funny… Yeah, I just didn’t like the way DH looked on my arm, so I am getting a new one!)
Also, I am not asking why you’re replacing or what you don’t like about your current ring, I’m just saying make certain to identify what you don’t like about it (and any failed stand-in) so you can minimize money wasted on stand-ins that just don’t fit your fingers! I love the ring you posted, by the way! It’s beautiful!
Post # 15
@Coral99: I’m a waiting bee and change my mind almost daily over what style of ring I would like. As I’m in the UK and most of the rings I like seem to be on US websites I was thinking of getting some from Berricle (I heard about them on here) so I could try out different cost effective sizes and styles before I coomit to a one.
I think you need to try out rings in everday settings as just wearing it in the shop won’t give you an idea if it fits in with your lifestyle.
Post # 16
LOL at all the disclaimers at the top of your message, to stop the judgment before it stops. I agree it’s sad. Some people here are just spoiling for a fight no matter what you say. At times it’s like being a deer stepping into the middle of a clearing during hunting season — you know the guns are aimed and loaded, and it’s only a matter of moments before the bullets fly. Haha.
I relate to your post because I didn’t even actually have my e-ring finalized until several months after we were married. I just could not make up my mind, and I did not want DH to spend that kind of money on something if I wasn’t sure.
So… I visited a lot of jewelry stores, tried on a lot of styles, did a lot of googling and browsing through Pinterest, Price Scope and of course, the Bee before finally settling on something.
My advice would be to take your time and then once you find something you are fairly sure about, sleep on it for at least a week or two before putting any money down. I found that because I love oogling ring porn, my opinions and preferences were constantly changing from one week to the next. And that when I fell in love with photos of certain styles online, I didn’t like them nearly as much when I tried on examples IRL at jewelry stores.
Once I found the style I liked, I waited nearly a month before finally telling DH I had found the one. He got it for me and I haven’t regretted it since.
In the meantime I did wear a stand-in ring of sorts, a solitaire that he’d used for the formal proposal before we were married.
Good luck to you in your search!