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The time for my period to arrive has come and gone. I would ignore this and put it down to stress (because boy, am I EVER stressed at the moment!), but ever since I "spotted" for a day two weeks ago (June 17 to be exact) I have had increasing nausea (no vomiting, I just spend all day, every day feeling like I need to), fatigue (I could seriously fall asleep on a dime), and a feeling of being faint. Classic pregnancy symptoms, right? No breast tenderness, but I am also (and this may be TMI!) ragingly horny suddenly, which is unusual for me the last few years.
I took a test two weeks ago, once I was late enough to get me worried, but it came up negative. I'm trying to take a patient "wait and see" approach to this, but its freaking me out, which is adding to my already through the roof stress levels. We both very much want kids, but weren't planning to start for 1-2 years since we're not getting married til this September and we wanted to spend a little 'us' time. Also, neither of us has health insurance or a full-time job. I just graduated and have been searching for over 3 months and he's got another year left in school. Just the thought of trying to have a baby without health insurance is sending me into a panic. FI is very much 'you're just late. Don't worry about it' but I sense that he is starting to worry now that I am this late.
I know the answer is probably "Go to a doctor to get tested," but how long should I wait if I get another negative result next time I home test? How expensive is it to have a baby without health insurance? Will I be showing in 2 more months (~3 months along?) when my wedding rolls along?
@Rabbit - if the last test you took is two weeks, you should def. go out and get another one and test today! What date were you supposed to get your period? are you ever late? are you peeing more often?
I agree that you need to get a home test again! Could you get on state healthcare or Medicaid of some kind? I'm not sure about the programs but they must have no cost insurance for people who don't make a lot of money.
I would recommend you test again ASAP -- I know the thought of testing is a scary thing but I think it's necessary to test SOON. Not only do you sound super stressed, your FI is becoming a little nervous, too.
Aside from your stress levels, if you're uninsured, you need all the time you can get in order to apply for and secure state insurance. I was in this situation a few years ago when I found out I was expecting. I was sitting in the ER receiving IV hydration the night I found out I was pregnant, which happened to be the same night my insurance coverage terminated. (I work at a hospital and had switched from a full-time position to a per diem w/o benefits.) Talk about a mess! Luckily, I was able to apply for and receive Florida's MomCare insurance. It was a truly wonderful thing -- my prenatal care, labor/delivery, and postpartum visits were covered. Madison was even covered for one year, as well, which was a blessing I didn't know about until after she was born. Every state varies but I say if there is a chance you're pregnant (which there is), I say get the ball rolling ASAP so as to avoid further stress on yourself and your FI. Best wishes!
@Janna19: Most definately! I woke up every few hours last night to pee! Ugh. That never happens! I've also been crazy thirty, so I'm sure there must be a correlation!
@MissAsB: I know there is a no/low-cost health care state plan for single people (me for the next two months), but they stopped taking applications last summer because the system was overwhelmed with requests. Within 2-3 months of starting (it was brand new last summer) the system had spent all its money! The state didn't realize how many people needed insurance. I think I heard there may be a seperate insurance for pregnant single people though- I'll have to do some research!
@MadiLove918: Oh! To find out THE DAY you lost your benefits! That must have been scary! As I said above to MissAsB- I think there might be a state single pregnant lady health coverage plan I could get on, but I have to look into it. I guess the first step is to confirm or deny if the pregnancy actually exists!
@rabbit: I'm sure there is something in your state! You're single, so that's definitely on your side (as sad as it sounds, eh?). Keep us updated and if you need any help, let me know. I was in your exact shoes in 2008 and boy was it stressful. But, it worked out for the best and now my little princess is almost 2! I say test soon and take it from there. :)
@MadiLove918: Is it best to wait for tomorrow morning or simply the next time I have to go? (And there is a question I never thought I'd ask a stranger!)
The morning pee is best for testing. I think I would wait to be safe.
@Rabbit - well the symptoms sound like there is a good chance you are pregnant, but the only way to know is to go pee on a stick again. the sooner you know, the sooner you guys can either get relief or start figuring out what you want to do.
Maybe you can get on your FI's school health benefits?
test in the morning. If it does come up positive then you will be threeish months at your wedding....?I am a bit over three and have begun to show very slightly.
please keep us posted!
I would test again and then if you are (or even if you aren't!) I would make an appt at Planned Parenthood (NOT FOR AN ABORTION DON'T WORRY) to 1) have the doctor test you as well and 2) get information for getting insurance. There are tons of options and I think they'd be a great resource.
I am very much against abortion and frankly not a huge fan of PP, but if you can't go see a doctor, and you need help getting your insurance options figured out, they truly would be a great resource.
And since you do eventually want to have kids, it seems like this would be scary but still GREAT news, so if you are- CONGRATS!
Every thing will work out fine, either way. Don't be stressed about it--I know, easier said than done. But trust me, it will. Keep us posted. :)
@rabbit: It is usually recommended that you use first morning urine to test due to the higher levels of hCG present in FMU (aka, you've most likely been holding your urine through the night, so levels are concentrated). However, if you hold your pee for 4 hours, you'll create the same effect. I know holding urine sounds like bad advice but it's technically what you do in the night anyway. Typically, if you're 4-5 weeks along, your hCG levels are high enough to skip FMU. Just figured I'd throw those out there to ya as an FYI. :)
What type of birth control were you on? While it does sound like you have some pregnancy symptoms, I think it's possible that your brain could be creating those symptoms. There have been many times when I was certain I was pregnant, due to nausea, frequent urination, etc., and then it turned out I was just freaking out. Maybe it's just me and my crazy paranoia, but this has happened to me more than once.
I agree with the above poster that you should go to Planned Parenthood if you test again and you are pregnant. The people who work there are nice and will definitely help you figure out insurance. I am not against abortion like the above poster, but of course that's probably not really an option for you if you're in a super committed relationship and planning on having children relatively soon anyway. But the PP people help pregnant ladies and don't just encourage abortions by any means! If you are pregnant you guys will work it out and I think you will barely show on your wedding day. Good luck!
@Janna19: The health benefits at our school are exclusively for students. Its a small health clinic where they can handle non-emergency, non-big problems (colds, booster shoots, mental health issues). His school (and the one I just graduated from) doesn't offer real health coverage. :(
@kjpugs: I knew I could go to Planned Parenthood to get tested to see if I was pregnant, I didn't know they could help me find insurance options! I'll have to call them on Tuesday when they're next open. I am very Pro-Choice myself, but that means I feel its your choice what you do and do not support or do or don't do with your body. At this stage in my life a child would be difficult, but not so impossible I'd abort. We WANT kinds, this would just be an early surprise! Thanks for the Congrats if we are! :) It IS deeply appreciated!
@rlsulli1598@verizon.net: Thanks! I hope things work out, whatever the results!
@MadiLove918: The way I've been getting up in the middle of the night to pee, I'm not sure I've been holding it even 4 hours! ;p Seriously though, great advice! I'll work on holding it all in for a few hours and see what the next stick says!
@chocolatemalt: We're only using condoms right now, as 7 months ago I started having really bad side-effects from using BC (the nuvaring) after 10 years on it. I was getting sudden, splitting headaches so bad I'd go basically blind from them. The doc took me off BC as a precaution and they disappeared. We're super careful about condom use, but if I am pregnant- apparently NOT careful enough! I'd in fact still be on BC if it wasn't for the worry that I was possibly getting nasty side-effects.
I was able to ignore the weird symptoms for a week or two thinking it was stress or in my head or my stomach problems acting up, but now...not so sure. I've never been so stressed or sick or freaked out that my period hasn't come. That's an undeniable symptom, ya know?
And, yes, I do believe we'd keep the baby, not abort. It'd be early, but still wanted and loved. Babies don't notice how poor their parents are and hopefully by the time it was old enough to take notice, my FI will have his PhD and we'll being doing a bit better. :)
Planned parenthood is a great resource. I went there for birth control and annual exams all during college because my mom's insurance cut me off at 18. They are great at working with you no matter what your income is, and can help you with all the paperwork or applications for health insurance and assistance paying medicals costs that are out there.
I'd test with a HPT as soon as you have to go.
Test first thing tomorrow morning, and try to stay calm in the meantime. Hugs!
@mrstilly: What is a HPT test? Is that just the normal pee stick?
@guitargirl: I will, thanks! *hugs*
@MadiLove918: I will update everyone tomorrow morning!
Also keep in mind, that if you get a job and ARE pregnant, they cannot keep you off their insurance bc of your pregnancy (i.e. treat it as a pre-existing condition). So, it might be worth it to take a less than ideal job that has health insurance...even if it pays horribly, it could be more $ than not having insurance elsewhere...the only problem is you wouldn't necessarily qualify for leave if you aren't there a year, but the employer could have their own policies. I think even Starbucks gives insurance to part-time employees!
So, I wouldn't worry too much that you don't currently have insurance. You don't have to go the dr. that much @ first & I'm sure PP can help with some of that...I think there are even some Catholic non-profits that might have resources for those in your situation, to encourage you to not abort. (I'm not Catholic, and I'm pro-choice...just a thought, though, since you said you would keep the baby if pregnant...)
Wisconsin does have BadgerCare for single adults. A few girlfriends of mine have been lucky enough to be able to use this. I'm not sure on the details, but I am pretty sure it covers the baby for years to come, and covers you through your pregnancy. I agree with above posters, speak with Planned Parenthood or Family Planning...they should be able to point you in the right direction when it comes to insurance. Our state is very good with care for mothers and babies. It's single adults who can't afford insurance that the state seems to have trouble covering. :/ But don't let insurance worries stress you further...just relax and take another test...and all will work out for the best! Best wishes!
UPDATE: The test was still negative this morning, but I woke up with super sore boobs. Not really sure what's going on! Still want to vomit almost all the time, still faint, still falling asleep at the drop of the hat (I had 6!! naps yesterday!), and still no Aunt Flo... Maybe I should wait another week to see what happens?
@rabbit: Wow what is going on with your body missy? I would wait another week and try another test, if its still negative, see a doctor it could be something else.
@rabbit: I would go to the doctor! You may have something else going on medically. Good luck!
i think the symptoms you're describing are affecting you enough to warrant going to the doctor. At least they can do a pregnancy test, but if you aren't, they can help figure out what is going on.
Definately go to see your doctor, and soon! Those are not normal symptoms, and have been going on for a while. Don't play with your health.
@rabbit: Thanks for the update! Do you normally get sore boobs and really tired as PMS? If not, you may want to swing in to a faster care clinic and get checked out. I don't mean to startle, but if you're sleeping that much, something else may be going on. They can do a blood test that would tell you most definitely whether your pregnant or not.
if you aren't already, start taking a prenatal or folic acid at least, just in case!
I'd try Planned Parenthood, like was suggested.
It's funny what you mentioned about Nuvaring...I was on it for 2 years (on BC for 6) and got insane headaches all of a sudden and would have outrageous mood swings. I took myself off the Nuvaring and got better within a month. I'm glad someone else had those symptoms too, but it's a shame...I loved the Nuv!
Good luck, and keep us updated. Maybe you have a vitamin deficiency going on? Low iron can cause fatigue and some other symptoms...
I had an uninsured friend who went to the doctor and tested as pregnant, and then couldn't get insurance as a result. Although actually she could get insurance, but the baby was treated as a "pre-existing condition" and wasn't covered!
That said - who knows, maybe she wouldn't have been able to get coverage anyway if they had backtracked and figured out her due date. Just something to keep in mind! Planned Parenthood might be a good way to get tested without something entering your medical file...
Good luck!!
While I am not a fan of Planned parenthood, it's probably the best idea. If you're pregnant, they can guide you- I am sure you would not be the first person pregnant without insurance, and if it's negative, they can discuss other options for birth control.
About the nuva ring- I get bad migraines with anything that contains estrogen. I decided I wanted mirena. Before we got married, my insurance was AWFUL, high deductible. I ended up doing micronor (progesterone only pill) to cover me until my first period after we got married. (FH's insurance would pay all but a $15 copay.) I was probably the first bride in history to be ecstatic she got her period towards the end of the honeymoon, so that I was able to get the mirena the day after we got home- yea!
Although the symptoms are there so you may very well be, I've had this exact same thing happen before - and it was just stress. As soon as I stopped stressing it, I got my period. I asked my doc, and she said that if I was pregnant, then it was so new that I shouldn't be having those symptoms and if I were far enough to have those symptoms, I would have a positive pregnancy test. Sometimes your body and hormones will mimic things when you're stressed. I had the exact symptoms as you - fatigue, nausea, spotting (with a day of cramping).
@mrbee: I may be wrong, and in case I am it's certainly worth looking into, but I believe Mr Obama's new health care stuff says you can't be denied insurance or coverage for pre-existing conditions. I haven't looked into it much, but I started a new job recently and when they were telling us about benefits, that's what they told us.
Also, some jobs offer insurance such that if you sign up for it within the first 15 days of employment or some such you get it no matter what, no questions asked. You don't have to prove that you're healthy or not immediately needing insurance or anything. Hopefully that offers some peace-of-mind with respect to insurance.
@lergx6: Please read up on it. http://www.bloomberg.com/apps/news?pid=newsarchive&sid=aa32kl.M09T4
@lergx6: they can't deny you health insurance, but they can deny certain benefits(i.e. prenatal care) boo!! i know right?
@rabbit: even if you are not pregnant these could be concerning symptoms, even if it is all caused by stress they may be able to suggest some options to reduce your stress level. keep us posted!
@lergx6: Even if you get insurance after getting pregnant, the pregnancy can not be covered. My friend actually got insurance after her pregnancy was confirmed by the doctor, and the insurance didn't pay for her pre-natal coverage. :-(
Anyway don't mean to cause more stress! I'm sure everything will work out for the best here - fingers crossed!!
I think you should have your thyroid checked out after going to PP and getting a negative pregnancy test.
I usually just read the posts here but I just signed up because I had to comment on this.
Go to the doctor. It might be nothing at all, but it is best to be safe. Just about all of the symptoms you are listing (peeing and drinking a lot, being tired, dizzy, nausea) are symptoms of Type 1 diabetes.
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