Possibly Pregnant

posted 2 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Blushing bee

absolutely_tati:  Like you said there’s no guarantee that what happened before will happen again, like no two children are the same, no two pregnancies are the same.  My SIL is pregnant with #3 and she says that she’s never been so tired before in her life.  With her first two, she was full of energy. 

Take one day at a time and don’t harp on the past because your body is very different now than it was 11 years ago!

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Since its a different father, your pregnancy symotoms will be likely different. Dont worry, best of luck

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Oh dear. It sounds like being pregnant the first time was one of the worst experiences of your life? If so, of course your mind is trying to avoid a repeat experience, that’s it’s job. The mind’s job is to avoid future pain by remembering what caused past pain. And then reminding you again and again of it. (Which is ultimately counterproductive but the mind still tries to shield you, ok?) 

Right now it sounds like your mind actively trying to remind you of two things: the horrible physical experience and the horrible psychological experience (going through the first by yourself). So now you have to come up with thoughts that counter how this pregnancy will be EXACTLY like the previous one. Only you know if the past 5 weeks have been like the first 5 weeks of your previous pregnancy. But…chances are high that they haven’t. All pregnancies are different which means that just like there’s a probability that you WILL feel as bad as you did before, there’s also a probability that you WONT. It’s definitely the time to think about the probability that it WONT. 

On the emotional side it’s completely different. You’re married, you have a career, you have a wonderful son. The last time you were alone, too young to really be backed by your occupation and you didn’t know what was gonna come out of it, not really. Maybe in the abstract “I’ll have a baby” way but not in the “holy cow! That person was in me for 9 months!” So now you have all the elements to NOT fall into a depressive state: you’ve done it before (hence, you can do it again), if it’s bad it won’t last forever, you’re not alone (you have a family that supports you this time), and you have a high probability of it being a completely different experience.

Huhs your way and I wish you the very best!

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

absolutely_tati:  i know in cases of pre-eclampsia you will not have the same outcome if you have different fathers. I would think the same thing happens in other symptoms/ complications of pregnancy. Did they tell you why you were so sick were your Beta levels extra high? Every pregnancy is different, and having a different father will most likely give you another outcome. Stay positive!

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

You kinda think you may be pregnant?  I’d take a test and find out before worrying about all these other things.  

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

MissCountryGirl727:  +1

lol why are you worrying about all of this. You haven’t even tested and you might be freaking out over nothing.

 

but the bigger issue is your husband wants kids, and you are not sure you do.. That needs to be addressed.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

Ok I have to change my response!

 

lol. I think you need to tell your husband. I think the excitement and joy he feels will help reassure you things are going to be okay! Good luck!

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

It was only silly to worry because you hadn’t said you took tests! Now I understand the worry 🙂

I do think your husband sounds very supportive and I think telling him will actually bring you relief !! 

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