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Well I had a scheduled c-section so I think a pretty different type of recovery. We started up the day I got the go ahead (5 weeks) and actually probably have had a pretty active sex life since then - maybe even more so than before I got pregnant! However given that I might try a VBAC next time I am very curious to hear the truth about sex after a vaginal delivery - especially if it returned to normal at some point or continues to feel different even months later???? This is an almost impossible discussion to have really honestly with your IRL friends since it is so personal....
I was wondering about this after watching One Born Every Minute. Very interested to read responses.
I had a c-section too. We did not resume any kind of sexual activity that involved my va jay jay until at least two and half months out. But I do believe I'm a rarity and most get the go ahead after 6 weeks.
Yes, I guess I should have said I had a vaginal delivery, 3 hours of pushing, and some major tearing. Good times. Good thing this baby is cute. :)
Sorry, double post but another question is how can you be getting MORE action post-baby? Props to you!
@candicemcc: I would be scared to let anything penetrate me even after a year of that.
I waited about 10 weeks! I had an episiotomy though, and I wanted to make sure I was fully healed. And the whole labour thing seriously traumatized me. It didn't hurt once we did it, and we weren't as gentle as I thought we would be. If that helps any. You know your body more than anyone else, so do as you see fit!
We waited six weeks- had a stage two tear (episiotomy). I have to say it didn't feel totally comfortable but didn't hurt. It's been six months and I'm just getting over feeling uncomfortable, he he. :)
@candicemcc:lol, good question! Maybe BFing is a big turn on?? or just my giant porn star boobs?? :)
It is probably partly that we just spent more time together.....or felt even closer post baby? or the freedom to not be stuck in the same ol position as we were by the end of pregnancy made it all seem new again??.. I am not sure, really.,.
natural birth and was told to wait 6weeks. eta: episiotomy stage 2 tearing was no bueno. It took about 10weeks for me to be 100% healed & not sore etc.
The first time was meh, really crappy. I basically lost all sensation (WTH seriously!?) due to the birth/hormone fluctuation. I was about 6-7months post partum before I even really felt like having sex again, and it took up to about 9-12months for us to hit our stride again (however my partner was away at school [mostly]from 2month pp -1yr pp so we had schedule delays haha).
I think had we been able to spend more time together it probably wouldn't have taken so long, but living as a single mom is tiring.
I was totally expecting to be able to go back to things as usual after 6 weeks like I had read...not the case! I had two 2nd degree tears and even though my doctor gave me the go-ahead, it hurt! So we waited another 2 weeks, and it still hurt. Another 2 weeks...still hurting! That kept going on and on until about 18 weeks at which point there was a little pain, but nothing terrible. Since then, I have talked to a few friends about it and they have all basically had the same experience, ranging from 16-22 weeks for sex to feel "normal" again.
Now that I look back, I should have known better. If I could still barely keep from pissing myself at 6 weeks, why would sex have been normal?! 
I waited 2 1/2 months before trying it even tho I was cleared at 6 weeks. Honestly I was scared to death! It never hurt but it was uncomfortable and at 8 months it still doesn't feel the same as before. We have to start out very slow until it's comfortable then we can speed up and act like normal. But some positions that have deeper penetration are still uncomfortable, like me sitting on top.
My doctor said because I had no tearing or incisions, I could go ahead as soon as I felt comfortable. I think we waited 3 weeks and it was fine- no pain or anything. Frequency wise, we just started back up at about the same rate as before the baby was born- 4 times a week or so. (She's 19 months old now.)
@ohheavenlyday: The rest of those posts were starting to scare me...I was hoping SOMEONE actually had a good story to share (just to know it's possible).
LOL. I was terrified when I had the baby because I just kept reading all these horror stories about women who were so mutilated they couldn't have sex for so long and then when they COULD have sex they were so overwhelmed by being a mom that they weren't interested. I can definitely say that my sex drive did not disappear as we went right back to how often we were doing it pre-baby and I was lucky enough to have such an easy birth that sex was not an issue thereafter.
Ok. Vaginal Birth. Second degree tear (more internal than anything), no episiotomy. Four months ago. Things still aren't feeling great, though they're getting better. Use lots and lots and lots and lots of lube. Go slow. I think that half of my discomfort is brought on by my fear of feeling uncomfortable.
Got the ok @ 6 weeks but we are waiting until baby is 11 weeks...this weekend. :) It happens to be the anniversary of our first date. It's still a little 'different' down there so I hope it will be ok. We are praying for no extra pain due to fear. DH did the dirty work by getting the goods from Target. I have never seen such a big bottle of lube before.
We were fortunate with our birth to not have any "baby footprints", so we were able to resume before the 6 wk appt. Labor down, girls... It seems to have really helped!
I swear I'm going to be chanting in my head the whole time to "labor down" lol! Thanks Mrs. DG!
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Ok, Mommy Bees. How was your first sexy time after the baby? I'd love to hear how long you waited, if it was good/bad, how long it took to feel normal again, etc. We got the go ahead at my 6 week follow-up. It took about a week for us to feel up to trying and we've tried once since then. It's just not comfortable at all for me so we've not successfully done the deed. Just wondering what others' experiences have been.