Mr TTR and I Eloped to our Destination Wedding over the Christmas Holidays… just the 2 of us saying our Vows on a favourite beach at sunset. It was absolutely perfect !!
We are both Encores… so we knew we wanted not to do the BIG White Pouffy Family Wedding thing… having both done that before.
We announced our Engagement to our Friends over an “Invite for Drinks” (not unusual for us) back in June when we picked up our Rings. So that was OUR TREAT and our sort of E-Party (it isn’t kosher to host a party for yourself technically… but we found a good way around it)
Consequently, our Marriage wasn’t a Surprise… but we called it an Elopment to a Destination Wedding… cause we were sneaking off to get married in some far away place (in reality there is no term yet in the Wedding Industry for what we did… so we had to improvise)
Mr TTR & I get a good bit of time of at Christmas. So that is why we chose that time of year (slowest in our Industry)… and sides I love Christmas, and vacations that are in warmer Climates than Canada in December & January !!
We were away 5 whole weeks… on a fabulous Extravaganza that combined Christmas Vacation with our Pre Wedding – Wedding – and Honeymoon. We toured the US South in search of great Music & Food (South Carolina – Georgia – Memphis Tennessee – Mississippi – New Orleans Louisiana – Alabama – and ALL of Florida) followed by our Wedding in the Keys, and a Honeymoon Cruise out of Puerto Rico (6 Countries in 7 Days). It was a dream of a lifetime event for us, this time off !!
When we told everyone our Plans, BOTH Friends & Family got upset with us. Mr TTR & I have been together a good long while… and at our age finding love again is a BIG DEAL (I am over 50, he is over 60)… and YES we know we are blessed to have that happen… and we are thankful every.single.day that we found each other. Our Family & Friends are equally happy for us. So they sincerely were sad we were “running away” to marry without them (infact we had at least 3 couples we had to talk down / convince NOT TO JOIN US on our Vacation / Wedding / Honeymoon Adventure).
So altho a Party was never something we originally envisioned doing… we soon began to realize that it was the right thing to do for our most beloved Family & Friends. We owed them all the chance to celebrate with us.
And so the plan began.
We sent out the Invites to our Back Home Reception Party for Family & Friends while we were away. And we had done of the bulk of the planning before we left (Venue – DJ – Photographer etc)
We came home to Canada to frightful weather -40 C (-40 F). I was dang glad that we had organized our Back Home Reception Party to not happen immediately afterwards… cause I honestly needed some time to regroup / prepare (Final arrangements with the Caterer – Cake – Decorations etc).
In the meantime, I have to say it was a bit of a challenge to keep things about our Wedding & Honeymoon underwrap from Friends & Family… cause everyone wanted to hear our stories, see our Wedding Pics etc… and we had agreed that that was going to be a prime focus of our Party (it had a Travel Theme… and was a bit of “southern warmth” for an otherwise Bleak Winter Weekend)
In the end all worked out well. Everyone came out and had a good time. The theme was cute, the food was great, the DJ fun. And Mr TTR got to share some “Wedding-like” Moments with our nearest & dearest… Cut the Cake – First Dance… and our Friends Toasted us as well. A good evening for all.
As we are older and Encores… we didn’t have anyone to Host the event for us… so we did it ourselves…
(Again not the best Etiquette… lol, like I say on WBee, I may be the Etiquette Snob around these parts, but that is only because I know all the Rules… and that bending or breaking them is always a risk… )
We got around the Rule on this one cause we went out of our way to have a Party for our Friends (versus us truly) and didn’t do anything that would signal that we wanted anything from anyone other than them to party / celebrate with us (so for example, we NEVER EVER registered anywhere, or mentioned gifts. Even when a good friend asked, we said “OH GOSH NO… we just want you to come out for a good time, and a drink with us” (lol, altho truth be said we went waaaay beyond… in that we had a nice cold buffet set up, cake & champagne etc)
I only have good memories from our Party. It was a great way to “bridge” the gap from leaving as BF & GF and coming home as Newlyweds.
Lol, now we are just “old married folks” like all our other friends.
Hope this helps,