(Closed) Post engagement questions

posted 7 years ago in Proposals
  • poll: How long after the engagement did you set the date?
    We had a date set when we got officially engaged. : (12 votes)
    11 %
    We set the date a day/a few days after the engagement. : (12 votes)
    11 %
    We set the date week/a few weeks after the engagement. : (34 votes)
    32 %
    We set the date a month/ a few months after the engagement : (47 votes)
    45 %
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    We got engaged the first day of a four week roadtrip, so we couldn’t exactly plan while we were on the road. We picked a month, but not a particular day. A week or two after we got back, we met with the photographer I wanted, and we picked the date based on his availability. It wasn’t based on romantic or significant dates for us!

    Post # 4
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    466 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I really think it depends on the length of your engagement.  We knew we wanted a short engagement, so we picked a date and booked a venue within a few days.  If you’re going to be engaged a year or more, I think it’s wise to start with a season or month, then narrow it down from there, just like you’re doing!

    Post # 5
    Hostess
    18623 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    We didn’t set a date for a while after getting engaged.

    Post # 6
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    617 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2009

    We got engaged on 12/30 and set our date on 1/15 for 1/15/11.  We didn’t wait too long, mainly because I was ready and we wanted to get everything out of the way.

    Post # 7
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Congrats!!!  We set our date a few months after the wedding after some prodding (I’d love to see you get married before I die… Can you say passive aggressive!)  Anyway If you don’t want to set the date right now just tell people you want to enjoy your engagement before starting the rigorous work of planning a wedding and leave it at that.  Happy planning!!!

    Post # 8
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    852 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    Congrats on your engagement 🙂  We got engaged in the begining of April.  I knew I wanted a spring or fall wedding.  A coworker, who was formerly a good friend, planned her wedding for 09/10/2011 which was the date I had wanted.  So I decided that since we got engaged on a Friday we’d get married one year later, since it would be a Saturday.  To answer your question though (sorry didn’t mean to go on a tangent) we decided this about two weeks after the engagement, after talking with our parents and the church to make sure the date worked. 

    Until we decided though, we just told people “Oh probably spring or fall 2011”  🙂 

    Post # 9
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    2788 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    Congrats on your engagment!! We set our date a few months after we were engaged.  Enjoy the time together before the stress of planning starts!

    Post # 10
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    671 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2017

    People are anxious for a party!!  We got engaged, then decided what city to use for our DW and then my mom and I visited that city to check out venuees and THEN the date was chosen based on the availability of our favorite venue.  (That was a long sentence!)  Anyway, we had it narrowed down to “probably March or April of next year” when people asked and that seemed to satisfy them.   Maybe you can narrow down a season so you can at least say “Sometime next Spring, we hope!” when people ask. 

    Post # 11
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    1046 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    We decided the night that we got engaged, but I don’t think that’s typical! We got engaged in December ’09 and would either have to get married December ’10 or summer 2011. We didn’t want that long of an engagment and both love NYE, so that’s what we picked.

    Post # 12
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    1940 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    We knew we wanted an 18 month engagement (engaged Christamas 08, marry summer 10).  We didn’t set the actual date until about August 09 🙂

    Post # 13
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    We got engaged on a Tuesday and had a date by Saturday. He only had two weeks before he had to redeploy so we were on a time crunch

    Post # 14
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2010

    Yes, everyone’s favorite question!  We waited about a month before we set a date.  We relaxed and checked out a ton of places- it was slightly stressful in that dates were getting filled right and left.  We gave ourselves a little over a year to plan the whole thing. 

    Post # 15
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    We got engaged right before christmas…got caught up in the holidays and then took our time looking at alllll the options out there…decided on a fall wedding eventually 🙂 No rush here so that’s how we came to it.

    I also have the mindset that we only get to do this once (and so does my mom!) so we had fun exploring the possibilities.

    Btw- EVERYONE will ask you when the date is! I found it really annoying after awhile but since I’ve become engaged, and then some of my friends, I catch myself asking them if they have a date. It’s all part of the exerience 🙂 Just enjoy every minute of it!

    Post # 16
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    3788 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    We got engaged on July 22, 2009. We set our date last week, so, yeah….

    (OK, disclaimer, we did set a date but then had to move it back a year so just told people a vague “sometime next summer” for a long time, but it took us at least a month to come up with that first date anyway.)

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