(Closed) Post-everything depression :(

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
605 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Ritz-Carlton, Half Moon Bay

i’m sorry you’re feeling the blues. i think it’s totally understandable–a wedding gives you so much to look forward to (and all the other money and fitness related goals), that when it’s over things definitely seem kind of empty.  i always feel that way after the holidays, and won’t be surprised if it happens after the wedding.

it’s particularly hard when you’re working so many hours at a job you don’t like–the wedding was probably a really nice distraction in comparison and now it feels like you just have the plain old job. not liking your job is very, very tough (i know the feeling).

basically i’m saying that it’s totally understandable to have post-everything blues, and it happens to lots of folks.

is there anything else you could focus your awesome energy on that would help cheer you up? like something around the home to welcome you and your partner to newlywed life?

Post # 5
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7082 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

I went through a short bout of PWB or funk or something.

Mr. DG and I decided we needed a tangible goal to work towards, so we planned a mid winter vacation (February) that would help us have something to look forward to and save for…  It doesn’t have to be a big vacation, just one that really excites you ๐Ÿ™‚

The added bonus is that we’ll get to be in sunny Mexico in February!

Post # 6
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6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

Aww, that’s perfectly understandable! I am usually so grateful for the holidays to be over b/c for me holidays = nonstop traveling and spending tons of money. And the wedding probably was a nice distraction from a job you don’t like. Can you look for another job? Or start a new hobby? Like lessons in a foreign language, art/cooking classes or going on a fun vacation?

Post # 8
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50 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I’m with you on a couple of those! After the wedding, we came back and I IMMEDIATELY started taking a summer term Statistics (aka 3 months of class crammed into 4 wees), and after my class was over all of a sudden I was left with a job I hated, and nothing interesting to do with my time. I took up baking, hiking and reading until the fall term started. I can now make killer bread, and the best pizza dough ever. But I also have noticed i’ve been having a harder time achieving my goals, it just doesn’t seem so easy without such a big goal to work for. Know what I mean?

Post # 10
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7082 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

Layla- I only know because I lived it!

When we planned our honeymoon, Mr. DG really didn’t want anything to do with the beach.  He wanted adventure outdoors.  In the end, I’m so glad we spent our honeymoon in the mountains, but I made him promise to take me to the beach sometime soon.  Seattle in winter can be so dreary!

We had planned on Cuba, but that’s probably not the best plan at 28 weeks pregnant!  He’s always been interested in Mayan history and I’m always interested in the beach ๐Ÿ˜‰ so the Southern Mayan Riviera was the perfect place for us.  We’re going to Tulum which is about 2 hours south of Cancun.

(Can you tell I’m excited?)

We stalked bing, expedia, priceline etc and waited until we got the cheapest possible fare… (seriously, it was a steal).  And we did tons of research until we found the perfect B&B to stay at (also incredibly economical at $75/night for the two of us).  For flights, lodging and rental car, we’re coming in under $1,000!  It was so much fun to plan.

Post # 11
Hostess
18646 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m sorry about your blues!  I’m feeling a bit of a post surgery blues myself.  I haven’t really had too much of PW blues because I didn’t really have much time to be completely involved in it.  I hope that you feel better soon!

Post # 12
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4466 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

@Layla: Maybe try volunteering?  It doesn’t require too much of a time committment…I volunteer about 4-6 hours/week at the animal shelter and it’s very rewarding.  Kind of breaks up the work/school/gym/pay bills routine.

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