(Closed) post from phone.. pastor just invited the whole churchto my wedding..

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

No, that was not an open invitation.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

If your wedding isn’t being held at that church, they’ll figure it out when they don’t get invitations in the mail.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Don’t stress… churches are typically public establishments, and often a congregation will come to a wedding ceremony but not necessarily expect an official invitation to the reception.  It would be nice to offer refreshments at the church for them, but I don’t think it’s required since they aren’t officially invited to any of the wedding festivities.  It’s my understanding that church weddings are sometimes attended by the church congregation (but I’m not particularly religious nor do I go to church, so I may be misinformed).

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

Congregants may show up to the wedding ceremony at the church to offer their congratulations, but none of them will assume they are invited to the reception unless you actually send them an invitation. This is not uncommon in different parts of the country/world. 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

No, I don’t think he meant it as an invitation. It seems like more of an announcement of your wedding, and churches do that a LOT. Every time anyone at my church gets married, it’s in the bulletin, but people know that it doesn’t mean they are invited. I highly doubt any of those people will go to our wedding if they don’t get an invitation, especially since it doesn’t sound like you are actually getting married in that church, and they certainly won’t be attending your reception. I wouldn’t worry about it, he was just happy for you guys!

 

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

No, it wasn’t. I think they meant celebrating with you in faith, not actually in person. People know that if they get an invite, they are invited, and if they don’t then they won’t come.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Often, if your wedding is held at your home church, people will come for the reception and it is considered completely normal to do this. They won’t expect an invite to the reception. If it isn’t held at the church, then you don’t have to worry, they likely wont invite themselves or even know where to go. 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Ha, I was a little scared for you when I read the title. But no, that wasn’t an open invitation.

 

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I think it just means they may  show to the wedding and not expected at the reception.  That small of a church they must have known him since he was a little kid.  Must be exciting for them.

 

 

Plus, seriously I was in a Russian Orthodox wedding and that was AMAZING to watch.  It was in a Greek orthodox church, but seriously I would love to just see one, not being a BM, like from the pews.  I’m sure he didn’t mean harm and just was excited to be there to see your FI get married. 

EtA: do you do the crowns and the three times around the alter?  

 

 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I think he meant celebrate your upcoming wedding. Not that everyone is invited.

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Haha, no. Not at all. It was just so others could acknowledge you and wish you well.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo

He’s just spreading the good news, if you were pregnant and told him the due date he might have said a similar thing (but obviously no one would try to turn up for that :3).

 

If you are getting married in a church you might see some people you didn’t invite ^^ They won’t come to your reception though x

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I think usually if you get married in a church, the congregation is supposed to be welcome to attend the ceremony.  The reception, however, is an entirely different matter.   They would need an invitation from you for that.

Post # 16
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@DaneLady:  This.  It’s common in my small hometown church for the announcement to be made to the congregation and they are all welcome to attend the ceremony but they know they aren’t invited to the reception unless they receive an invitation in the mail.

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