(Closed) Post job loss recurring anxiety

posted 6 years ago in Career
Post # 3
16216 posts
Honey Beekeeper

I’m so sorry to hear you’re going through this! I honestly don’t know that much about PTSD, so I don’t want to advise you there, but I do know from several close friends that the feeling of rejection after a job loss is tough, but it will go away with a bit of time.

My advice would be to start spending some time with people who make you feel good or doing activities that make you feel good. Anything you can do to have positive time during your day will help you feel less like a “loser” and more like yourself.

Hang in there hun!

Post # 4
210 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@nyscpa2be:  Oh my. I can relate so much to what you said. I went through a bad work firing incident last summer. On one hand I was sooooo happy to be gone, I wanted to be gone, but it was still just a punch in the gut that I still feel now. I rehash everything from my last months there. I think about all of the “I should of said this” and the what ifs. I had a hard time (and I still do) letting go. The first two months were hard. Honestly, what helped me the most was Oprah. Her magazine, or tv channel, articles on her website. It was like therapy for me. And the Jillian Michael’s podcast. And also margaritas.

And Florence + the Machine’s song “Dog days are over” and Kelly Clarkson’s new song “stronger”. When I get wrapped up all the bad things I had to deal with, I play those songs on repeat and tell myself I am awesome. And then go make a margarita.

Post # 5
1750 posts
Buzzing bee

@nyscpa2be:  I lost my job 14 months ago after I filed a discrimination lawsuit. It was tough because I had always been little Miss Perfect and getting fired was far from it! It was a huge blow to my ego and self esteem. It took me some time to get past the events. However, I’m going back to work on Monday with the same salary and I hardly think about the drama there any more. It will pass in time. Try to get out of the house and clear your mind.

Post # 6
454 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

First, you are certainly NOT a loser…you are right: you are a winner to be out of such a terrible work environment.  Since your anxiety seems to start with internal thoughts, you need to start there.  When these thoughts begin to happen, say to yourself, “STOP,” and then direct your thoughts to something else.  Have a list of postitive, up-lifting ideas that you can always go to (memories with family and friends, something to look forward to that’s coming up in your future, etc..).  The other part to part to work on is your physical reaction to these thoughts. You probably become tense and panic-stricken.  Focus on your breathing.  Breath slowly in for 6 counts through your nose, and out your mouth for 6 counts.  Focus on the air as it enters and leaves.  It sounds a little corny, but as you continue to do this, your body will begin to relax, and you will be able to better redirect your thoughts.  And also, be sure to exercise.  This is something I tend to forget, but it seriously does wonders!  🙂

Post # 8
241 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I once worked for a doctor that threw things at me in the OR and when I was with a patient he would call me up and curse at me all while I needed to smile and respond politely – which he would then turn around and tell me I had no back bone and that’s why I was just a small time assistant that couldn’t do anything right.

Believe this, it is not you.  It is not a reflection upon you.  It is them – they are not worth the tears.  Find what you can that is positive even if it was just learning.  And focus on the future.  No one deserves to be degraided and please don’t judge yourself for this one piece of your life.  

With your wedding coming up I am sure you have much more stress, just try to take time through out the day to take a break and just breath.  We unfortunately can not change the past, and thats why we have to look to the future.  

My fiance has been deployed 3 time for year long tours.  We always talk about having to focus on what is ahead and leaving the what ifs alone


Good luck to you.  

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